Interestingly worded question. Your question is really, why do Black men prefer to date white women.
And the answer here is that, well, they don't. Statistics show that the majority of people of every race (hovering around 90 percent) marry within their race. Black men included.
So let's look at this question from a different angle: why do so many Black men date outside of their race. And that answer is simple - spice is the variety of life. While most Black men will indeed marry a Black women, while dating, a lot of Black men (men in general) like to sample the buffet out there and frankly don't discriminate when it comes to sex and dating. Couple that with the wanderlust for new experiences - which dating somebody of another race is undoubtedly tantamount to learning a new culture and lifestyle - almost everybody should give it a shot at some point.
I've read in places - and phantom letters from white women and Black men - that the reasons stem from the attitudes of Black women and white women being more pleasant to deal with, etc, and the fact is, it all depends on the woman. I've met as many unruly white women as I have Black women. I've also met white women (my mother being one) who don't take any attitude or guff.
I think you may notice the Black man/white woman combo more because 1) it's easily noticeable; 2) the history behind that union (hell as late as 1967 some states STILL had anti-miscegenation laws on their books); and 3) it gets made such a big deal of in Black media and amongst superstar athletes. While there does seem to be an inordinate amount of Black athletes with white wives, the fact is, the majority are married to Black women as well. Even the most "superstar" of superstar athletes and entertainers largely have Black wives: Denzel, Shaq, Lebron, Dwyane Wade, Jay-Z, etc.
So to return to your question - simply, they don't when it's time to settle down. For the meantime between time, we're men first. And men like variety.
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Awesome answer!
i agree. It sounds as though the person asking this question isn;'t happy with the idea of a black man dating a white woman, which is rather sad and closed minded.
I, a white lady, dated a black man last summer and I used to get confused looks sometimes- poeple can be so ignorant. Also, I'd see people give looks to my ex-boy friend like "you better not be bothering her" kinds of looks, just horrible. Luckily, my ex bf could take anyone if he wanted to Lol.
opposite race? really?
He must have been thinking of "opposite" in the comedic sense, as in, "this (crazy/old/young/traditional/close to retirement) white cop is the opposite of this (wild/old/young/rookie/traditional/close to retirement) black cop, and hilarious hijinks are sure to ensue."
We've also learned from the movies that Asian is the opposite of Indian, as far as pot-fueled hijinks and quests for delicious burgers goes.
Super great answer Panama Darling!!I agree in most cases.My older brother is dating a white woman right now & we ALL love her because she's not "a white lady" shes a super funny beautiful PERSON who loves my brother to pieces!Now heres the SHOCKING twist of it all.My mom asked my bro the other day (as most nosey moms do), "so when are u gonna pop the question??" My bro looked at her & said with such excitiement "WHAT QUESTION MOMMA?!I dont wanna marry a white lady!Im only killing time til I find a super great black woman" (good luck cuz im not sure we black women want a man who thinks like this). He went on to say "Im only still with her because she does what I tell her to do!If i hang out with friends of either sex she doesnt ask question because she knows her place."......DIDI HE JUST SAY THAT!!??!! Needless to say mommy & he hadnt spoken in weeks because it hurt her to think she dropped the ball on how he turned out on that sorta thing. The "black&white" thing is real, I get it!but when do we just love people & not point it out when two "people" find love in eachother?If my husband turned out to be green or purple with brown polka dots as long as he loves me & treats me with the respect Im due,then we would foreva be the purple polka dot man married to the little black lady with the awesome smile.✿◕‿◕✿
Curious why you capitalized "Black" and not "white" in your response? Just curious.
I like to think your answer is accurate though. My boyfriend is black and I am white. He has dated women of all races, as have I dated a diverse group of men. We just happen to dig each other and that is all that matters!
I was wondering the same thing. I've seen "Black" capitalized in other places too, when referring to race.
Agreeing with Jill about "Black" and "white" in your answer. Great answer though!
Panama's was response was soo great I was just curious as to why anyone would pay attention to the words that were capitalized & which ones weren't. My mother is black and my father is white, u date what attracts you...
Ha, I have quite a few experiences to share on this subject...
I once had a black guy tell me that he preferred white girls (I'm white), because they were more passionate in bed or something. He then advised me to sleep with a black guy as it would, and I quote, 'change my life'.
(This was a stranger I met on the subway haha.)
I also have a black female friend who only dates white guys.. She told me a few months ago, when I started seing the black guy I am currently dating, that I shouldn't trust him (solely based on his skin color), and that black guys were either: a) assholes who would only use me for sex, or b) Christian freaks who would want to marry me after a few months... (Her words, not mine.)
Also, I once made out with a black guy at a party, and somebody took a picture of us and put it on Facebook. There were then many (many!) comments from his black friends telling him that he was 'such an Oreo' and asking him why he wanted 'white p%?sy'.
Seriously.. We think racial stereotypes are close to dead, but that's very far from the truth. It's sad.
White women are not more passionate in bed..what? It depends on the woman and the man not the race.
Any insight into why it seems like black men are more interested in "variety" than white men are, specifically, or other races are, in general? I could be wrong, but as a black chick who's dated pretty much every
color, i notice a lot more black man/white woman relationships than white man/black woman relationships. I know quite a few black women who are bothered by this...
I am black woman thats dated only white men and is now married to a white man. The number one thing I hear when I use ask a bf why he was attracted to me was b.c I didn't fit the norm of a black woman..which to many is an angry, ndepedent,mad, black woman. My ex told me once after watch The Diary of a Mad Black Woman, to never become that.. I replied.. Mad, Black or a Woman? He got the point very quickly and apologized. I also grew up and went to a prep school where the majority of the guys were white, and I grew with my white girlfriends liking specific features..such as pretty hockey hair, lax players, base player, basically having the preppy look which very few black men have it...Tiger Woods almost ..almost.
Anyway another thing I get from white guys... is that they are terrified of black woman becuase of the image that has been portrayed by the media society or who ever influences us the most. My best guy friend(white) dated a black woman in college, and I remember him telling me that I was the reason, becuase he wasn't scared of or woman of color anymore, even though he was in N.C attending college when the whole Duke Men's Lax stripper thing happened and dating her.
I think its sad that I'm a white woman and interested in dating a black friend of mine, and while talking to my dad about it, he told me that my immediate family probably wouldn't mind, but my grandparents and other family would. This kinda broke my heart a little. Cuz this guy is an amazing person, and i respect my family and want them to love my friend too.
I get that a lot. I'm a black girl mated to a white guy. Right now, we live in MI, close to Detroit and a lot of people stare at us and black guys give me this glare of 'you're stupid. No white man can give it to me like a black guy can' which pisses me off. My mate has even has black guys say out loud 'look at that, he got himself a black girl.' Thing is, I'm often called a 'white girl trapped in black skin' cause I was born and raised in northern cali and the majority of my friends were those of another race. I had (and have) very few black friends. Not because I can't stand my race as a whole, it's just that I have yet to run across enough 'intelligent' ones that I wanna surrounded myself with.
It's not really about skin tone and it's sad that the world is still so wrapped up about skin pigments. it's about trying something different. Cause I would love to go out with an asian guy, before I met my mate anyway, cause I think it'd be a great growing experience. But, to answer the question, sadly a lot of the reasons why black guys date white women, least that I've been around and witnessed, is for a power thing. Idiot black boys target meek and more timid white girls because they can 'lord over them' and act like they're some kind of amazing shit. Black girls seem to be 'born' (ie taught for some stupid reason) to be loud, crass, rude and don't put up with shit and think they're masters of the universe. Many black guys look at black women and see them as a type of 'slave owner' and they're a last resort at times. Not saying all, but to the ignorant black dumbasses who love to live in the past (one that doesn't even directly concern them anyway) so this. I think it's fine to date any skintone as long as it's HEALTHY and not a power trip. I fear seeing black men/white women because, for the most part, the girls look beaten down, scared and abused. And I feel so sorry for them.
But a lot of people are also too old fashioned and refused to look forward to the future. They'd rather pretend to be trees with their roots so in-tangled in the past, they wouldn't know the future even if it slapped them in the face. and that's just truly sad...
I don't understand the concept of wondering why a black man dates a white woman. Why does it matter that the color of their skin isn't the same? Instead of a black man dating a white woman, or a white man dating a black woman, why can't they just be two people dating?
I don't think I've ever heard people question the validity of someone's relationship because of race unless one of the people in the relationship was black. (Not saying that it doesn't happen, just that I, personally, have only heard "Why's he dating a white girl/why's she dating a white boy?")
I'm very curious about this, someone enlighten me please?
it seems to me that white men or any other race other than black men are ashamed to be with black women its like they put these girls from other race's on their arms like trophies...until they see me..WATCH OUT I ALWAYS SEE THEM (white women especially) STARE AT ME ITS LIKE IN THEIR MINDS THEY ARE SAYING " HOW DID SHE GET THAT PRETTY" THANKS TO GOD AND MOMMY AND DADDY.....PEACE............... calm down girlies...the BLACKER the berry the SWEETER the juice....your long hair or green eyes have nothing on a white man on a BLACK SEXY GIRL OR A SEXY BLACK MAN ON A SEXY BLACK GIRL...GO AHEAD CLOSE YOUR EYES AND JUST THING OF THE STRUCTURE OF A BLACK WOMAN..AND CHIILl WE KNOW WE GOT IT LOCKED...ALMOST EVERY WHITE MAN IN SHOW BIZ CHEAT.ON THEIR WHITE WOMAN..I MEAN ALL MEN CHEAT BUT ...THEY GET PLAYED HARD...ONCE YOU GET SOME GOOD BLACK UMMMM YOU NEVER GO BACK...BLACK ON THE OUTSIDE NICE AND PINK ON THE INSIDE...DRIP DRIP...JUICY...
im highly affended basically ur say ur men first its sounds like ur more ashame and ur mohter is white so basically ur not 100 percent black ur self...and all them big stsrs name u named all cheat on there wives n there stupid enough to stick around and except where a real women wood not money or not..
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