I've never really seen it from that perspective before. I am not saying the cheating is right, but at least it gives you an idea of the reasons behind it, maybe even begin to understand it.

Very wise answer :)

i have been with my man for 5 yrs now. In the first few years he cheated on me. they were either hookers or skanks he picked up at a bar when i wasnt with him. He told me every time.I totally appreciated his honesty. DIDNT LIKE IT...but appreciated the honesty. NOW that said. Your probably asking why i didnt break up with him. Well because I knew he loved me and was still seeing if the other side was greener. NOT right. But guys have funny ways of seeing things. He tells me all the time and even after with these woman. That i was better than any of them. The connection etc. For the past 2 yrs he only has been with one hooker. by the way he just gets bj's from them. NOT That it makes it right. But in his eye's its "safer". What I am trying to say, is Girls BFF is right on the nose with this one. I saw it for what it was and I knew these chicks were just one night stands and had nothing to offer him. and he KNEW it. Guys do know and guys DO have sex just for sex alone. But in the end they want someone who will love them and always be there for them. I suppose me being a Call girl in my early twenties helped me see this in him. Cause thats why guys came to me than. Quick easy sex. That was 20 yrs ago for me. But the lessons i learned from those men helped me with my relationships today. Be patient...but by NO means codone it. TELL him he's stupid to wreck such a great wonderful understanding woman like yourself =)

i have been with my man for 5 yrs now. In the first few years he cheated on me. they were either hookers or skanks he picked up at a bar when i wasnt with him. He told me every time.I totally appreciated his honesty. DIDNT LIKE IT...but appreciated the honesty. NOW that said. Your probably asking why i didnt break up with him. Well because I knew he loved me and was still seeing if the other side was greener. NOT right. But guys have funny ways of seeing things. He tells me all the time and even after with these woman. That i was better than any of them. The connection etc. For the past 2 yrs he only has been with one hooker. by the way he just gets bj's from them. NOT That it makes it right. But in his eye's its "safer". What I am trying to say, is Girls BFF is right on the nose with this one. I saw it for what it was and I knew these chicks were just one night stands and had nothing to offer him. and he KNEW it. Guys do know and guys DO have sex just for sex alone. But in the end they want someone who will love them and always be there for them. I suppose me being a Call girl in my early twenties helped me see this in him. Cause thats why guys came to me than. Quick easy sex. That was 20 yrs ago for me. But the lessons i learned from those men helped me with my relationships today. Be patient...but by NO means codone it. TELL him he's stupid to wreck such a great wonderful understanding woman like yourself =)

Or because she's a doormat with the word "Welcome" stamped across her forehead.

I found out that my boyfriend (48) of 4 months has been cheating on my since the beginning. I have practically moved in to his house and we were going full speed ahead. I always had activities planned for our off hours and kept our social calender full. After 3 weeks of being together all the time I asked him if he was my boyfriend and he said yes.
Then I find out he never stopped seeing his 'former' lover of year or so. She always knew about me but I was unaware of her. I confronted him with my suspicions and he confessed. Said he was sorry and that he wanted to keep seeing me. He agreed to give me his passwords to email and Facebook accounts and to check his phone whenever I want. However he has a business phone that I don't have much access to. I think they obviously had a different level or type of relationship than we do since she has always know about me and continued to see him.
He said he told me everything but I'm not sure he did. I wrote the lover an email from his account and signed his name to see if she would give up anymore information. I don't think she bought it. I'm not sure if she told my boyfriend or not.
So who does he love or care for the most in this case, me or her? I don't know if I can trust him or not.

It may be true to some extent or in some cases. However, I've known men who cheated on their wives/gf, and came back. There was obviously, no love - other reasons, conveniency, stability, etc. When these same men fall in love hard - they DO NOT CHEAT. They dont want to think or touch any woman except one they are in love in - that's when they give up their wifes, girlfriends. When a man truly loves - he does not cheat. From experience and observation - I firmly hold to this belief.

If they really love their wife or girlfriend why don't they realize that cheating will hurt their significant other? My ex used to cry to me saying he didn't want me to leave. I found out he was cheating or cheated on me. Then he'd tell me how it hurts him to see me stressed and sad because of what he did. Can someone tell me where I can find a guy that doesn't cheat? I keep reading the most men don't cheat, but how come all the guys i've dated are scum and can't keep it in their pants and lie through their teeth when they come home and say they love me? In the end all i get is hurt. I trusted him and put so much effort into making a life for "us" and he just never cared, but he made me believe he did. I hate dating and i hate cheaters and people who sleep with someone even though they know they are in a relationship

my bf always cheats on me so now ik why

I've been dating this guy for almost 2 years. A llittle after our one year I found he cheated on me with two girls. When I confronted him about it he lied and tried turning everything around on me until i talked to the two girls and they gave me the proof they were both just one night stands and lived very local to me and both knew me and him were together. When him and I talked everything through he said he was sorry and that it he would never do it again and when I asked him why he did it he told me he didnt know and that it wasnt my fault that maybe theres just something wrong with him. This boy sits here and look in my eyes everytime and tells me he loves me and always talks about our future and marriage and kids. I just wanna know is he gunna continue to keep doing this or is this a phase and hes gunna stop I do so much for him bought him 2 dogs that he wanted and always spend time with him and play video games together,and never cheat on him but I know im his longest relationship so if hes kept me around for this long that does he really love me?

We have been dating for 3yrs now, he said he wanted to meet my parents, which I did. I went with him to attend a funeral in his house but he didn't introduce me to thehem n when I asked he said he had already to them abt me. He Spends alot on me, talks abt our future n makes me believe he loves me. What I don't understand is why he is cheating on me.abt 95%of his calls are women n talks to them when I not around. I ve always been faithful to him n b there when he needed me the most but he won't stop cheating. He rather accuses me of cheating on him just bcos he thinks I'm beautiful n men will surely come to me.is he finding a way to leave me or he really love me? Please help me.

We have been dating for 3yrs now, he said he wanted to meet my parents, which I did. I went with him to attend a funeral in his house but he didn't introduce me to thehem n when I asked he said he had already to them abt me. He Spends alot on me, talks abt our future n makes me believe he loves me. What I don't understand is why he is cheating on me.abt 95%of his calls are women n talks to them when I not around. I ve always been faithful to him n b there when he needed me the most but he won't stop cheating. He rather accuses me of cheating on him just bcos he thinks I'm beautiful n men will surely come to me.is he finding a way to leave me or he really love me? Please help me.

I hope this isn't going for ALL men. It is never wise to say wise. Not even most. Maybe MOST men you know. But have you travelled the whole world to really even say most?

this is getting out of control. i dont know what to do anymore he is trying to make my life a living hell. i found out my boyfriend of 6 yrs was cheating on me and the girl is 2 months pregnant. when i found out he left and is treating me like i did somthing wrong and hasnt even apolgize for what he did. he took our duaghter for the weekend and its been 2 weeks since he left and had my daughter sleeping with them at his moms and even introduce her as her stepmom and told my duaghter how their having a baby. he finds nothing wrong with that and i feel its wayyy to soon. she jsut seen him with me two weeks ago and now with her. he doesnt understand that can **** up her mindset. i dont understand hi he has no respect at all and neither does his family. i dont understand why he would do this knowing how i feel and am about me duaghter.. help me idk what to do anymore :(

I have just found out my boyfriend has cheated on me in July 2012 after being to together nearly 4 years, he has kept it a secret till now, I found messages from another girl and confronted him, he said it was a bit off banter. Then he admitted he cheated when he was working away, he was apparently drunk but sounds to me he had all intent to cheat. He says he's never done anything since and he felt guilty,sick and didn't want to come home. He says he loves me and he will never do it again. We've sat and spoke and decide I will give things another go, but I feel like such a mug!! I dont want him thinking that because i am willing to give things ago that he can just go out and do it again and i will just take him back, ive said this to him and he said he respects me more for being willing to try, He is the person I want to be with but how can I trust him again???

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It really hurts of being cheated by your boyfriend but as time goes by, you will realize that it happened for a purpose. It is better to know earlier that your boyfriend is a cheater and you could find a deserving and better man for you. Don't be upset. Always think positive.

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My boyfriend of 3 yrs. decided to start cheating on me while he was in jail. I was the one sending him money, counseling and praying for him in hard times and keeping him okay through a hard time in his life. He gets out and instead of being appreciative to me he starts hanging out and sleeping with his next door neighbor(that he introduced to me months ago!) His long time neigborhood friend was the one to tell me about the relationship, even though he was still in a relationship with me. Still talking about marriage and kids with me but spending time with another female(and she had a boyfriend also). How stupid I felt when I catch her lying in his bed at 4 a.m. He was so shocked and put his hands on me, bruising and scrapping me up while she laid in the bed. After the bust and fighting, I realized that everyone knew about the girl except me. 7 months later he is still trying to be intimate with me but I don't think so. Us women have to be role models for our children and not let an insecure man poop on us, because he wants to or because YOU let him. Yes, I get lonely, but I have to show my daughter and son what a real man is. A REAL MAN has control over his hands and penis. I rather be single than in a relationship where the man is stressing me out, not caring about what the kids see him do and acting like a child himself. Have RESPECT for yourselves and your body is what I tell myself. God has someone 10xs better for me. I feep the faith. At least I'm not stressed anymore and I have grown so much after going through this. Makes me a better girlfriend for my next boyfriend.

me n ma guy were in relation from past 5 yrs. every thing was all rite between us. he had introduced me as his gal frnd to his coll frnds n all. he had even told his big brother about our relation. every thing was alrite. the day he suicide'd, he told me that i was the only gal in his life and told me not to listen to others wat they tell.the same day he hanged himself. in his death note he had mentioned about another gal. he had wrote that he was in relation with a gal from past 1 year and he was serious with her. but that gal was seeing other guy. he went and spoke to that gals parents and told he wanted to marry her. she refused and my guy got angry and committed suicide. at the same time he was tellin his friends and all that he ll marry me. he took to his place and introduced me to his parents at also.i'm in confusion who was he really loving?????? wat did i do. was i nothing in his life. if he really wanted to marry that another gal then why was he in relation with me. he knew that i was serious.

one more funny thing : he was tellin me about everything...only difference was he use to take out his name and put one of his friend's name.. wat was he really up to?????

one last question how can some one tell lie to that extend????

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I am a woman 24yrs and my ex fiancee who invested so much in us cheated on me. He manipulated me emotionally to stay faithful to him while I knew it was weird. It happened only twice but it broke my heart and trust for him. Indeed he has a way lower sex drive than I do but he still cheated. So I changed, took him back, put the mask on and started cheating on him with every good chance I get. like that for 2 yrs already and it goes on. He even knows it now. But he doesn't cheat anymore (I got into his fb so i track him), he is way more domestic since then and is trying hard to keep me interested. He changed on good. I unfortunately learned a bad lesson and don't trust any man since then. I remained being with him in a relationship bcos he still gives the most emotional support but in the meanwhile I am keeping my eyes open for a better chance and take my chances whenever they appear.Just for some sex and ego-boost. I recently met someone i immediately fell in love with...we kept texting, i was suspecting he is married because he is in late 30s. He was saying he cant wait to see (we don't live in the same cities) me but in the end pulled back. I reminded him we were suppose to meet but he excused himself of being busy.And before that he was very much into. Got to find out later he lives with some woman (maybe a wife?). So as a bottom line, some men cheat and some do not. Those who cheat the most are exactly those whose girlfriends/ wifes think they are enough (like i believed) and rely on their men for emotional support.I they think that have it served they go get more. Sad but true. Kick them with modern feminism and dont give them anything they don't give to you.

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What should I do. I am In relation for last two years and I loved my wife . But last year I was at my Xmas staff party. I was pissed drunk and without any bad intention I kissed two girls. We just had bad time in relation and someone came and told her about that . I apologies for that mistake more than 20times . I still love her and don't want to loose but she don't want to be with me anymore, just because of the fact I kissed two girls. ?