Dudes are cowards. If a guy is calling you to ask you out, he is praying that you don't pick up and he can go right to voice mail. This way, a) he avoids that totally awkward first phone conversation and b) he gets to have you call him back, this way he knows (or thinks he knows) that you are interested in him.
Texting is the easiest way to ask a girl out, as who cares if you get a text rejection. It's virtually painless. Same with email.
it's not a game, it's just being a wuss. If the dude doesn't man up and call, ignore him.
I honestly hate talking on the phone. I feel like I'm not able to concentrate on the conversation because I'm not looking at the person. I stutter, and there's always weird pauses. Face to face conversation will almost always get a "Yes.". I'm okay with texting, as long as we're just finalizing our plans.
You can always text him back with "call me and you'll get your answer"
A real man calls..... ::making a mental note::
i thought it was because they think you're not worth calling...hmm.m.... i guess i shouldn't have been that insulted then.
I guess after about 10 million rejections in your lifetime, it makes sense to be cautious, I suppose. But at the same time, walking up to total strangers to ask them out is just begging for a pyscho daytime drama, I would think. You don't really even know this person, and you want to swap spit and get phone numbers, etc.
I say get to know the person first, then ask them out. At least the guy has something to go on, and there's no weird phone calls or impersonal texts. I know guys run on testosterone-soaked glands, but you would think this would have occurred to them a long time ago. Let's face it, there are a lot of beautiful people out there who are total pyscho hose beasts!
Okay really....Seriously! Texting is super tricky and just got me into a huge mess with a guy I recently started and then immediately stopped seeing. Yes it's the new gateway drug "but mom everybody's doing it!" but if a guy can't call after the first date then it's time to take away his ticket 'cause he ain't ridin' this train....
Texting in the beginning to set up initial plans is great... However beware if after having a fabulous first date talking for hours great connection. Then lazy starts to rear it's ugly head. For example he starts a serious conversation over text and you say 'give me a call' and he says 'why?' so you call 'cause this is crazy! Hmmm no answer really??? Oh so then you get the text 'sorry I'm on the phone at work what's up' immediately after you hang up 'cause it went to voice mail, but you know he is not on the phone at work at 10 o'clock at night. He is just PAINFULLY SHY!! So then texts are exchanged (because we have all been that shy with someone at some point or another and it's kinda cute) conclusions from texts are drawn, and crazy pops out from the cake and yells surprise!!! Your not surprised at all though you saw it coming....
Alas if this boy cannot ever communicate over the phone send him back to crazy town (we all know how a text can be taken the wrong way by our friends let alone someone we are trying to date.) But give him some slack texting can be a cute way to stay in touch. I just feel if you can't call me at all then for me it's probably not going to work out.
i think texting is kind of cute... no preassures and at least you can think of several answers before you reply, in this way, less mistakes, no expectations of answering if it is not important,,, not answering may mean two things, you dont want the person,,, or you are trying to make him text more...
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THANK YOU Mystery Man. I dated this guy back six months ago after a month I broke things off, because things just seemed off. Fast forward six months, he texted me wanting to see me again and go out... I was like who is this? Long story short. If he had the disco balls to actually pick up the phone and call and/or leave a voice mail message, I would have seriously considered seeing him again. However, since he texted. I am like "REALLY" is he serious asking me out again over a text after 6 MONTHS??? Um, NO!
i love it it helps a great deal
Myster Man - I couldn't have said it better myself. Or coulllld I?.... http://downtownmuffin.blogspot.com/2011/08/dear-text-messaging.html
I am tired of the whole texting thing I dated a guy for five weeks and that is all he did. My advice to anyone do not give your cell phone number out but just give your home phone so we have no problems.