Uh, is this a problem? Usually we get the opposite question. But, hey, that’s cool. Plenty of women just want to hook up and get out. Plus, sometimes cuddling after sex should be reserved for someone you’re really into. Too many cuddle sluts out there these days. You might get cooties!
If a guy wants to cuddle after sex, it means he likes you and wants to stay close to you for as long as possible. Or he could be doing it because he thinks it’s what you want, and he doesn’t want to seem like a jerk. If you aren’t comfortable with cuddling, by all means let him know. Get out of bed and make a sandwich. Put on some music and offer your theory on why the Lost castaways are all in purgatory. And if things turn weird, tell him you aren’t ready for the whole post-coital cuddling thing right now.
Sometimes, cuddling after sex with someone new can feel a bit forced. Shouldn’t we save our cuddles for the people we really care about? Is a one-night stand worth the cuddle time? If you feel an instant connection with someone, it can be nice. But don’t feel like you have to cuddle just because it’s the thing you’re supposed to do after sex. If anything, it can give a guy the wrong idea about how you feel about him. Cuddling after sex instantly tells him, “she’s into me. There is no way this is just a one-time thing.”
But, yeah, you’re probably also attracting a lot of sensitive dudes. And that isn’t necessarily a bad thing. Just make it clear early on that you don’t give out your cuddles to any old Tom, Dick, or Harry.