Uh, is this a problem? Usually we get the opposite question. But, hey, that's cool. Plenty of women just want to hook up and get out. Plus, sometimes cuddling after sex should be reserved for someone you're really into. Too many cuddle sluts out there these days. You might get cooties!
If a guy wants to cuddle after sex, it means he likes you and wants to stay close to you for as long as possible. Or he could be doing it because he thinks it's what you want, and he doesn't want to seem like a jerk. If you aren't comfortable with cuddling, by all means let him know. Get out of bed and make a sandwich. Put on some music and offer your theory on why the Lost castaways are all in purgatory. And if things turn weird, tell him you aren't ready for the whole post-coital cuddling thing right now.
Sometimes, cuddling after sex with someone new can feel a bit forced. Shouldn't we save our cuddles for the people we really care about? Is a one-night stand worth the cuddle time? If you feel an instant connection with someone, it can be nice. But don't feel like you have to cuddle just because it's the thing you're supposed to do after sex. If anything, it can give a guy the wrong idea about how you feel about him. Cuddling after sex instantly tells him, "she's into me. There is no way this is just a one-time thing."
But, yeah, you're probably also attracting a lot of sensitive dudes. And that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just make it clear early on that you don't give out your cuddles to any old Tom, Dick, or Harry.
If a guy wants to cuddle after sex, it means he likes you and wants to stay close to you for as long as possible. Or he could be doing it because he thinks it's what you want, and he doesn't want to seem like a jerk. If you aren't comfortable with cuddling, by all means let him know. Get out of bed and make a sandwich. Put on some music and offer your theory on why the Lost castaways are all in purgatory. And if things turn weird, tell him you aren't ready for the whole post-coital cuddling thing right now.
Sometimes, cuddling after sex with someone new can feel a bit forced. Shouldn't we save our cuddles for the people we really care about? Is a one-night stand worth the cuddle time? If you feel an instant connection with someone, it can be nice. But don't feel like you have to cuddle just because it's the thing you're supposed to do after sex. If anything, it can give a guy the wrong idea about how you feel about him. Cuddling after sex instantly tells him, "she's into me. There is no way this is just a one-time thing."
But, yeah, you're probably also attracting a lot of sensitive dudes. And that isn't necessarily a bad thing. Just make it clear early on that you don't give out your cuddles to any old Tom, Dick, or Harry.
Ha Ha Ha Tom, Dick or Harry!
Pun intended!
I find cuddling after sex very relaxing...with the very reason Nick has given. Good to know this from a guy.
Wow. If you don't want the sensitive guys, send them to NM. All there is here is self-centered @sshole cowboys. Must be the thin air. Or maybe it's all the livestock.
Honestly, I wouldn't be complaining about this. My boyfriend LOVES to cuddle and while it annoyed me before I'm totally into it now. I'd much rather have an affectionate, post-sex cuddler to a go-make-me-a-sandwich-fall-asleep asshole any day.
I'm torn, I dislike cuddling with someone I have no close feelings for, but at the same time it feels insulting when someone jumps up to take a shower right after sex.
players and cheaters and skanky guys cuddle too. Cuddling doesn't necessarily mean he's a sensitive or considerate guy. It doesn't mean he cares. Cuddling is cuddling, nothing more nothing less, don't read into it or you may be disappointed. Ladies beware! I learned the hard way.
Some guys cuddle because it's an ego-boost, it makes them feel like you love them, it makes them the center of attention, they think it means you liked the sex, etc.
Oh sometimes I hate cuddling. especially if it is just a quicky b4 work. But I seem to be the one who generally says, "ok... lets go outside now". It depends on the people involved with each other and the time. Timing is big in the cuddling department.
Too many women know the disappointment of being with a man who has happily ejaculated and then, incredibly, is ready to call it a night, turn on the TV, sneak out the back door, or just roll over and fall sleep.
Just as her guy is checking out, she’s checking in. She’s got cuddling on the brain and he’s feeling about as warm and fuzzy as a cactus.
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Hope you're still out there, cause I have a question. What about a guy you're into, but don't get to be with all the time due to living on the other side of the ocean. Yet absolutely LOVE hooking up with, who likes to cuddle and stay inside afterwards, (literally)? I've never had a guy do this before, and he has done it a few times. I hate leaving him, and he tells me that he misses me. He makes comments about me always leaving him, fills me in on all the things he's into and relationships he's been through, but has never asked me to be his girl. Sometimes I don't make much of it, and other times I can't get him off my mind. I never ask him to be mine out of fear of rejection. Advice? PLEASE...
"I never ask him to be mine out of fear of rejection. Advice?"
Ask him already.