Because they're trying to trick you into having unprotected sex. "Condoms are uncomfortable." "I can't feel anything with a condom." "I want to be closer to you." "If you love me, you'll do it." "I promise I'll pull out in time." These are the words that have led to countless STDs and seasons of Teen Mom.
If the condom is actually causing the guy discomfort, it means two things: he has the wrong size and/or he's sensitive to the latex, spermicide, or other chemicals used. Fear not, there is a condom for him out there. There are many, many brands of condoms to choose from, often with silly names and/or fruit flavors. At this point, you could stock an entire Wal-Mart entirely with condom brands. (I believe there's a brand that glows in the dark at this point.) There are many types for guys of all sizes, even those with sensitive wangs. Ask him specifically what is making him uncomfortable. If he's legitimately uncomfortable, there are many solutions. Why not go to the store with him and pick out a brand together?
Yes, condoms aren't 100% effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies and STDs, but they are 100% more effective than the pull-out method. If you aren't in a committed relationship, "the condom is uncomfortable" is never a good excuse. You know what is more uncomfortable? The feeling of fiery needles when you pee.
If the condom is actually causing the guy discomfort, it means two things: he has the wrong size and/or he's sensitive to the latex, spermicide, or other chemicals used. Fear not, there is a condom for him out there. There are many, many brands of condoms to choose from, often with silly names and/or fruit flavors. At this point, you could stock an entire Wal-Mart entirely with condom brands. (I believe there's a brand that glows in the dark at this point.) There are many types for guys of all sizes, even those with sensitive wangs. Ask him specifically what is making him uncomfortable. If he's legitimately uncomfortable, there are many solutions. Why not go to the store with him and pick out a brand together?
Yes, condoms aren't 100% effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies and STDs, but they are 100% more effective than the pull-out method. If you aren't in a committed relationship, "the condom is uncomfortable" is never a good excuse. You know what is more uncomfortable? The feeling of fiery needles when you pee.
I JUST had an argument about this with one of my guy friends. He insisted that all of the girls he bangs "really *want* him to go unprotected." Ugh, this is a total deal-breaker for me! Even if this dude walks away every time STD-free, if some girl ends up pregnant, but decides not to keep it, he still doesn't think it's his problem because he's not going through the abortion. Not using a condom is very selfish (for both genders) on so many levels. Thank you, Nick, for the great answer.
I'll paraphrase what Nick said...
Because they're being assholes.
I don't like condoms, didn't want my wife taking birth control (side affects are horrible) so I got a vasectomy. Problem solved (for a monogamous relationship anyway)
The guy I started dating a little over a month ago said he'd rather not have sex than have sex with a condom on. It takes him a long time to orgasm even without one on. I'm on birth control, so I figure it's ok :/
Birth control isn't 100% effective, especially in conjunction with antibiotics...
Correct. You should be on birth control as well, but that isn't going to protect you from STDs. Even if he's been tested recently for the big ones, he could still have HPV which is undetectable in men and huge portion of the population has.
http://www.cdc.gov/std/hpv/
If you want to be extra safe, use a condom. Particularly with someone you've only been seeing for a month.
Do you figure it is okay to possibly get an STD too?
I think you meant "I can't feel anything WITH a condom" haha
Right. What you said. Thanks.
yes their are glow in the dark condoms lol
Ha I've used those "glow in the dark" ones. For a split second I though "argh dorky light sabor" and then I just though that sex should be fun, and laughed.
This subject is very serious though, and I have had to countless times say... "oh really?!"
Just say no, you only get one life! (unless you believe in Karma) :-)
I totally agree with what Nick's answer. He's right but I've experienced some issues on the condom aisle with my partner. He's VERY well endowed and even the biggest ones we've found leave a ring around his shaft and don't extend all the way down. To make matters worse I'm sensitive to latex and we've had to stop because penetration become uncomfortable for me. We have even tried Trojan Supras which are a polyurethane condom. Those are so snug we have to put them on before he's fully erect and they are difficult to get off afterward. Most guys are full of shit on this one but occasionally you do meet people who can't find the right fit. Female condoms aren't always easy to find but they are more accommodating and underrated.
I'm female and honestly I hate condoms. My boyfriend and I have been together several years and we started out having unprotected sex. A dumb move, sure but we got lucky as neither of us had been very sexually active in the past. However about a year into the relationship we decided to try it with a condom just to see what it was like.
Worst. Sex. Ever.
I can see why so many women have trouble reaching orgasm. With a condom on him - I couldn't feel any of the same textures or friction that drive me to the edge. He also tends to last a while and just couldn't reach orgasm either. Honestly, I'm in a good relationship with a man I trust, I'd rather just continue my vaccines and yearly screenings. For me personally, I'd really just rather not have sex than use a condom. It may sound weird coming from a girl, but while I understand they have their place, I've just found they took the enjoyment and especially the intimacy out of it.
Why don't they have an oral contraceptive method for guys? It doesn't seem very fair just to have the option of a condom or a vasectomy. It also shouldn't be left up to the women to take birth control because some are against it but if they are being sexually active in a committed relationship what else is for them to do?
I remember reading that they were working on one, but it's not available/ready yet.
The weird/worrying thing was that in the survey they did with it, a lot of guys said that *they* wouldn't take a 'guy pill', the girl should do that. :/
Besides, it wouldn't help against STDs.
Yes, condoms aren't 100% effective in preventing unwanted pregnancies and STDs, but they are 100% more effective than the pull-out method
This actually is in correct several studies have shown pulling out to be just as, if not more effective than condoms. However if it's casual sex this is a no go. But for committed relationships a huge thing to think about. Condoms reduce sensation of 50-80% not fun. I as a man would rather just not have sex. Try the IUD. Wife has it and we love it!
http://abcnews.go.com/m/story?id=7688558