Because we don’t want to be arguing or fighting with you. We shut down because we don’t enjoy the annoying complaint session many women mistake as a discussion. It’s not a discussion if the conversation begins with what I’m doing wrong and ends with what I should be doing right.
Men, by nature, do not appreciate conflict with our women. While no situation is devoid of temporary bouts of drama and riot, the intensity and randomness with which some women bring the drama puts us in stuck on stupid mode. The problem though, is not that we don’t have an opinoin, its just that you often blindside us with these convos and fights that we don’t know how to answer or want to answer them because we do not want to contribute to the blooming of an argument we wish we weren’t having in the first place.
Also, when you get criticized – thats partly why so many men shut down – in the midst of a debate, it doesn’t make us want to talk to you. Generally, we want you to go away. We shut down because often, it feels like we can do nothing right anyway, so why even argue with you about it. You feel how you feel, you feel that you’re right, what’s the point of this debate.
And do not BS yourself into thinking you actually care about how he feels. You don’t. You only want to hear how he feels if it aligns with how you think he should feel.
So namely, men shut down because we really just don’t like arguing with you and because you’re damned if you do, damned if you don’t.
It was written.