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why do men think its ok to love 2 different woman??

It's not loving two different people that's the problem. The problem is trying to love them at the same time. I don't believe in "the one." That there's just one person out there we are fated to be with. I believe that love is more like opportunity. It comes knocking. And either you answer the door or you don't.

When it comes to love, timing is everything. Well, timing and luck and a keen eye. Sometimes, the timing is just off. Two people who are great for each other just fail to connect because their hearts aren't open enough, or their blind to what's in front of them.

It's possible to love someone, but not be able to because the timing is off. I know in my own experience, I've fallen for the right women at the wrong time -- the wrong time being I was too immature, too emotionally deflated, too broken hearted. Even though we didn't work out, I loved them.

There are multiple women I have loved and will always love.

But I can't be with two women at the same time. Unless they both consent, but that's called polyamory and I already wrote about it on The Frisky.

I can only commit to one woman at a time. One at a time, and hope and pray that the timing is right. That my heart is in the right place and so is hers. That we both want the same things at the same time.

I don't think it's impossible to think, eventually, the stars will align and form a constellation that spells out "JACKPOT."

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shes wasn't asking if YOU could love two women at once, but why some men do it. like why a man will be with two different girls but claim they love them both.

John DeVore

He might very well love them both. But he can only be with one.

In that case, the guy is just... greedy. Or cowardly. A man is defined not just by who he loves, but how he treats them. So a guy who is trying to juggle two women is a A) going to lose them both, eventually. And B) a doucheknuckle.

jude

Or he could just be using them both for sex. DOUCHE!

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He can really only speak from his own experience and let the questioneer apply his experience as appropriate.

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you are exactly right...i cannot love 2 person and get invovled with 2 men at a time.....and you cannot just tell you love the person without knowing him and getting to know how you feel to each other...and i belive the if you have that chemistry witch it's really hard to find it....still you cannot say that you love him.....i can only commit with one man iether.......i was really glad that there are still Faithfull man in this planet...some men and woman can cheat and having relationship with 2 persons.....but that is very hard....no matter what you will be get busted and in big trouble......

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Some men just want to have their cake and eat it to....NOT GONNA HAPPEN without confusion and fustration on the women that he's juggling with. It's just time to BE THE MAN that u claim that you are and soul search and see what is the best thing for you! and no it's not having both of them YOU GOTTA CHOOSE! this is not a game it's real life and you're not dealing with 2toys your dealing with too real human beings with feelings!!

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I’d come to give carte blanche with you on this. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to speak my mind!

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I’d come to cut a deal with you one this subject. Which is not something I usually do! I enjoy reading a post that will make people think. Also, thanks for allowing me to comment!

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