Yeah, I read that one too. The guy is no oil painting, thought the report says he is 41, not in his 50s.
Doesn’t make it much better. He is still over twice her age.
I flat out detest it, though I understand why it happens. Let’s talk in generalities, before we look at this particular case. It’ll be offensive to some. Hey, it’s my job ….
Lets take the old guy first. He wants one thing and one thing only. Not lithe sex with a partner who is not showing the signs of middle age, not a trophy (OK, sometimes a trophy), but his damned youth back! To feel both young again and at the same time respected. Same reason you see a 70 year old driving a custom hotrod.
The gal, assuming it isn’t some grooming thing (more on that later) also wants one thing. To be safe. The world is a scary place, and someone who has managed to get through it for a few years is attractive, despite middle age spread and hair loss.
You can go throw up, I can wait. People really are that shallow at times.
It isn’t shallow really, just biology. Where it gets gross is in the grooming aspect. Now, I am not gonna say he did in this case. That is not my job and May and November romances do exist.
I ran a small mental exercise. If one of my kids came home and said “I am moving in with a guy twice my age,” I would have one question.
“Where do you know him from and how did you meet him?”
OK, that is two questions. Never could count well. If the answer was “I met him in a bar and we hit off,” I’d be very upset, but would at least listen (I hope). If it was “He is my teacher,” the guy would probably be in ICU within 30 minutes, depending on the drive time.
This particular tale you referred to is a case of abuse of trust, no matter how you slice it. The trust the girl had in him, which should have been deflected. The trust her parents had in him, to stay professional and teach. The trust the school had in him to hold to his ethics. The trust his family had in him.
Pretty much every schoolgirl – or schoolboy for that matter – has crushed on a teacher. It happens. In teacher training, you are actually warned about it.
Taking them up on it is reprehensible.