Why do some guys text you if they don't intend on hanging out, or trying to carry on a conversation. I am beginning to run out of ways to hold a conversation with someone who only offers short, one word responses. Does he even want to talk? Why did he txt in the first place?
Cary McNeal answered Puzzled's question on
May 26, 2011 1:35 PM
I don't know why he texted you. Maybe he thought he liked you and changed his mind. Maybe it was a wrong number. It's a moot point. If the conversation is that much work, he's either not into you or has the personality of a toadstool. Don't waste anymore time on this jeeter. Give him a one-word answer: Bye!
Thanks for the easy one.
This same thing happens to me! I hear from him almost every night and some nights you can tell he doesn't want to talk or text so I eventually just stop replying to him. I don't want to try to force conversation if he isn't into it. I'm not even sure why he bothers texting me when he only gives me one to two word repliess unless it's just to check in. He and I aren't dating, though. We had dated but it didn't work out so now we're just really good friends.
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Sometimes bored and/or horny is a boring combination! Don't reply to those texts. He'll get the hint after you don't answer and either man up and call you, or disappear.
Texting is such a hassle for this reason! I've found that girls use a lot of emotion and write a LOT in texts, and lots of guys give short answers with no emotion at all, which makes it very hard to read.
I think it's a safe assumption to say that this guy is either bored or wants to hook up, or some combination of the two, but is too lazy to really put in an effort! Do you really want to entertain or canoodle with someone who can't even put a real effort into talking to you? Stop engaging in the conversation as soon as he stops giving you real responses!
I agree.., too lazy to put in effort.
Rachel, it sounds like these texts are hard for you to read because you think the guys are delivering short, emotionless texts because they are holding floods of emotion. I imagine they are texting unemotionally because they don't strong feelings, at least not for the girls they are texting.
Maybe he's too afraid of rejection, or doesn't think that he's good enough for you, or maybe he really does just want to be friends. I would just shoot him a text asking him out to dinner and a movie. If he declines the date, then he doesn't like you, and you can just stay friends. If he does go out with you, then great! Don't put too much pressure on him during the date, just have fun and be flirty. Then, afterward, wait for him to toss the ball back into your court - by taking you out on a date :) Et voila!