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Why do some men put up with the women who are ridiculously controlling? I'm talking about the women who forbid them to hang out with friends without her, the ones that give you a curfew, etc. I realize this is probably a result of lack of trust issues on the woman's part, but why put up with it?

Three reasons:

1) They have no backbone.

2) They want a mommy, not a girlfriend.

3) They're so in love/lust with her, they're willing to put up with her craziness.

Relationships where one partner is controlling rarely last. Eventually the person being controlled revolts by cheating or calling it quits. Or, the controller slowly grows resentful of being with someone who can't stand up for themselves. The controller may feel like the controllee is slipping out of their talon-like grasp and move on to someone else whose life they can run. Some people need someone to control, and some people feel the need to be controlled. This is the way of the world, sadly.

Anyone who stays in a controlling relationship suffers from a serious lack of self-esteem. Often, they think they'll never meet anyone else or can't do any better. Control issues can often lead to emotional or physical abuse. If you feel like your partner is being controlling, it's important to talk about it. If nothing changes, get out.

Chances are the guys you're talking about are miserable and will eventually grow to resent their control freak girlfriends. Unless they did something to inspire these trust issues (like cheating), there's really no excuse. She looks like a jealous control freak, he looks like a spineless wuss. Nobody wins. Trust is the backbone of all good relationships. Also the backbone of good relationships? Both parties actually having backbones.
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goodkarmagirl

"Also the backbone of good relationships? Both parties actually having backbones."
And THAT my friends, is the quote of the week.
Nothin' more true.
Good on ya, Nick.

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hear me out here.. i was involved in one of these relationships and he sorta...tricked me.
first, he was pretty kinky...and liked to be dominant in bed, i liked it...sometimes.
so thats how it started off, while we were doing our thing hed give me rules .. like oh.. your gonna be home at this time ..right? and id say yes because, well you know why... and then it would be, your not gonna wear those shorts unless im around right, and then id say ok... then i would wear them again.. and hed be like, i thought you said you werent going to wear those unless i said so (while we were NOT having sex) and i was like umm.. i thought we were just having fun, it was weird, so i guess if number 3 applied to me i would have put up with it..

Skrilla

This is simply because he is not REAL men. A REAL man will never let a women take control of the relationship PERIOD

It is not the girls fault. As a matter of fact I am surprised she puts up with his pathetic ass. He put her pussy up on a pedestal and now she is his master.

My question is what kind of girl would want a man like this??

Ann

So cheating is a "good" reason for a woman to be controlling? My boyfriend of 4 months has been cheating on me since we started dating! I've caught flack for demanding his email and Facebook passwords. But I think I am justified. I have also collected many of his female friends on Facebook. I demand to see his phone when he returns home after work and I want to know where and who he is with all the time. If he wants this to work then he will have to deal with it. He says he is sorry and this is the only way I know that he really is.

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