If I had a guess, I'd say that your boyfriend is an attention whore and really enjoys the attention he gets from other women. I'd ALSO guess that he's doing as much flirting as he claims is being done towards him.
If your boyfriend was a smart man, he would keep his trap shut as any smart man would know that telling your girlfriend about random flirtations that keep happening would lead her to believe at some point that you are welcoming said flirtation. Welcoming such flirtation leads to discussions that imply a guil that may or may not be there. Your boyfriend is not a smart man. (I mean that in the nicest way possible).
Alternately, he's probably telling you this to somehow show you how "in demand" he is and that perhaps you should be thanking your lucky stars that you have him which would place him squarely in the douche category.
As far as why he'd be discussing exes, well, THAT would make him a douche. Unless you keep bringing them up, generally, there's no reason to talk about former womenses. If he's constantly bringing them up it's because for whatever reason, he's not totally over them. And that doesn't mean he still loves them, it just means he's got very fond memories that he likes holding on to, even if it makes you uncomfortable.
I do have to ask here though, have you told him that you don't like that he tells you about his exes or women flirting with him? It's possibly that he's just not mature enough yet to know better. A wise and learned man would know better because those subjects lead to dry peen. Women don't like hearing about past flings, affections, or sex partners. They just don't. Hell, they LIE about their numbers so they don't even want to HEAR that you have a past.
So talk to him and let him know you'd appreciate if he would tone the talk down and see what happens. Perhaps he just needs some schooling.
Or he's just a douche.
It was written.
Your boy is insecure, and needs that reassurance/reaction from you (you know getting all jealous and what not) to affirm himself that you "care" about him that much. Not saying this is him, but there are some guys (and girls) out there that do this to big themselves up. To let them look like they are all that. It's a false sense of confidence, which ends up looking like cockiness. Cockiness is just another form of insecurity.
If it bothers you, you should let him know it does. If he truly has feelings for you and respects you, he will stop, or at least try his best to refrain. If he doesn't, probably time to start re-evaluating the relationship.
totally agree! my first thought screamed insecure!
and my second thought... said immature.
next time just respond to his talk of ex's with...a smile.. and say "what does that have to do with anything?" and see what he has to say....
careful with , "Whats that got to do with anything?" lol that is called engaging, you will have a fight on your hands it you open that pandoras box...
Wow my bf does that all the time. I've asked him not to talk about it many times. Reading this just made me realize that I'm dating a loser........
Omg , My Ex was the Same thing its like iwas Just reading His Biography , He is really Insecure And it shows alot with him , I ignore it Most Of the time , Because iFound it Intresting , That most of these stories he was telling me wasnt TRUE ! haha
My ex was just like that. Turns out in reality I was the only girl paying him attention. No other girl wanted his sorry ass! Lol.
my boyfriend is the same way he even had the nerve to tell me that NOBODY in town likes me and that everyone often asks him why he is even with me! i do so much for him and NEVER get a simple thank you from him =[
That is because the opposite is true and he thinks by putting you down it will make you want to stay with him. Feeling trapped believing him. Instead of treating you well to make you stay. Run ....or tell him if he cant appreciate you and what you do your out the door. See what happens. The truth is he feels like a loser and is trying to make you feel like one instead of building you up or thanking you.
Just be by yourself for a while and build a life that does not revolve around someone squashing you emotionally or any other way.
A majority of guys , these days , are self-indulgent, and insecure with FRAGILE ego's . They either want dumb women or just MEN.
hay guys maybe you could answer me this why is my ex telling me that his already talking to another girl?
I am 48 years old.....and am going through this right now with a man I met a year ago...........I simply don't understand it..........I have asked him to stop because it bothers me and he tells me that I am insecure. He has showed me his wedding pictures from both ex's, has told me details about every relationship he was in, saved all the cards his first wife gave him and their engagement announcement and her graduation accouncement from the paper.......he even showed me his wedding rings and asked me which one I liked the best. This happened early in our relationship and I was so surprised that he did this............my 25 year old son would not do these things to his girlfriend (he knows not to go there that women don't like it). He is so "overly" friendly to every woman he meets and it is so embarrassing to me............I know that they have to feel like he is hitting on them or flirting with them. He will come home and tell me things about women that I simply do not want to hear..........every conversation that he had with a woman that day. All his friends are in their 20's and he is 50.....I do think it is immaturity. He will go to his friends house and come home and tell me that his girlfriend had on a bikini while he was there and she is full of stretch marks and how awful she looks. I said to him....and I care Why? We argue over this all the time. He tells me that he loves me so much and he can't live without me and hates fighting with me.....so why does he continue to do this? He even told me that a cashier at a store where he buys things wanted to cut his hair so he went to her house and he has been going to the same barber for 20 some years.....that happened before I met him and alot of things did, but he tells me all these stories.....everything. I am so sick of it all. If he wants a life with me and he knows this bothers me........why does he do it? He tells me he will never cheat on me..........and I honestly did believe that..........not so sure anymore.........maybe not........he just needs to be this way with women. He constanly talks about his ex's - I have heard every detail about everything. After a year, he still will call me his last wife's name and I know it is because of the constant contact with her........they do have a child together and I understand there will be contact...........but almost everyday and over foolishness. She has even called him while I was with him to tell him that a certain show was on TV. When I first met him he was still having her at his house for supper once a week and she ran around on him (that is why their marriage ended). The supper once a week stopped shortly after we met, but he will still do things for her that has nothing to do with their child and I just do not understand. He will still do things for his first wife if she needs him (but she rarely does call) - he has went and helped her move. He has them both on Facebook.........he doesn't want me talking to my ex and once even phoned him when he saw his number on my phone (he checked to see who called me) My ex has phoned me twice in a year and it was to inform me about a death in his family and a sickness. We have no children together but I honestly feel that just because he does have kids with his ex's some of the things he does still does not make it right when the things have nothing to do with his kids. I have done so much for this man and just feel so unappreciated. I get so embarrassed and withdrawn over his "over friendliness". Is every man like this? It has got to be that he cannot let go and he is so immature. I do not want to hear about his ex's and every detail and I certainly do not want to hear about every conversation that he has had with women. Just so sick of it. It is degrading to me. Guess I really do have to move on.
kathy please MOVE ON ! he knows exactly what he is doing...his saying he loves you, is not to be depended on, because he is hurting you and if he cared he would just be into you ! Also his ex wives shouldn't be on his facebook...if he needs to contact them he should call and thats it. I feel that he is showing no consideration for your feelings !!! his behavior is wrong on so many levels
my boyfriend is kinda the same way im 17 and we've been dating for a year and four months and he just cant stop talking about having sex with his past girlfriends and what not. he also keeps telling me that i dont have a big enough butt or he wishes my boobs were bigger :( it makes me feel like hes just using me or something, i just wish hed stop talking about sex
alsoooo he told me in the beginning of our relationship that he had sex with 9 girls and they were all good, a few weeks ago he told me that he actually only did it with one girl and said that to get me jealous?????
Should i believe him?
my boyfriend is kinda the same way im 17 and we've been dating for a year and four months and he just cant stop talking about having sex with his past girlfriends and what not. he also keeps telling me that i dont have a big enough butt or he wishes my boobs were bigger :( it makes me feel like hes just using me or something, i just wish hed stop talking about sex
alsoooo he told me in the beginning of our relationship that he had sex with 9 girls and they were all good, a few weeks ago he told me that he actually only did it with one girl and said that to get me jealous?????
Should i believe him?
I've been dating this guy for 5 yrs now. He and I talk about building a house together and he seems like he really wants to.....but we are waiting on money. But every time I ask when this is going to happen he says I'm to pushy. I'm really getting fed up and I don't know if it will ever happen. I'm just wondering if I should give him an ultimatum. And another thing, he has an ex girlfriend on his contact list and she calls him sometimes he says they will always be friends but it bothers me. They lived together for awhile. Should this bother me?
Good article. I laughed out loud when I read the part about "dry peen." Unfortunately, my boyfriend is one of those guys who is either oblivious, insensitive, or a douche (I'm guessing it's one of the latter two). He's gone so far as to tell me about times he's had sex with other women in the past in great detail: "I was f*cking this chick, and I came but stayed hard..." "So we watched p*rn and fell asleep, then we had sex, and I wanted to go again in the morning but she said, 'it hurts'..." Unfortunately for him, now I can't have sex with him without having a VERY strong mental image of him and those other girls in my head, and feeling, much to my shame, like I'm just a surrogate for one of them. Sucks. I think it would piss him off if I told him I'm seeing those visuals when we're having sex. #1 Argument For Guys: "Quit being insecure!" No matter how many times I've told him I don't like hearing about other women, he gets all defensive when I say anything. Oh well, that's what vibrators are for! ;) j/k
Life's too short and precious to waste time complaining about these losers. Put simply, if you sense something is amiss, and usually it is, step out and find something, or someone, more fun to do.
That's what I did and I never looked back.
I'm going through this right now! I'm secure in myself and in him that he outs a stop to the flirting. Apparently when he tells me, I don't react to it because he's taken care of the problem so I just brush it off. Apparently me doing that tells him I don't care enough about him when I've been there for him since day one. I don't get it, if I'm jealous, it's bad, if I'm not, its bad...what is it?
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