Uh…You know, I thought really hard about this one, and I can’t think of any legitimate reason other than maybe he doesn’t want to be your boyfriend. Perhaps he just got out of a relationship and wants to take this one slow. But eight weeks? There’s taking it slow, and then there’s not kissing your new girlfriend for nearly two months. Unless he has severely injured his lips in a cheese fondue-related accident and is under doctor’s orders to let them rest, I have to think that something is up here.
You said you’ve known him for a year. Presumably, he’s wanted to kiss you in that time. So what’s the hold up? Let’s back up a minute. What do you know about his relationship history? Has he never been kissed before? (Though if that was the case, I would imagine it would have come up during your year of friendship.) Does he have intimacy issues? Does it take him a while to get close to someone? These are all things to take into account if the relationship is going to move forward. And as red flags go, the whole not kissing you yet thing is kind of a big one.
There’s something to be said about prolonging the mystery of that first kiss. And maybe he’s nervous about his skills and wants your first kiss to be special. But eight weeks? And he’s 29? I think the mystery has probably died, briefly come back to life, then died again by this point.
In a way, I find your chaste dating adorably quaint. Do you hold hands at the soda shoppe? Does he discreetly put his hand on your knee at the drive-in? Is any petting, heavy or otherwise, occurring?
Seriously, this is something you need to address immediately. Ask him straight up what is going on. You have every right to be curious, frustrated and downright bewildered.
When I was a kid, I sent away for a mail-order G.I. Joe figure. That was an agonizing six to eight weeks of running home from school and checking the mailbox or skipping out on seeing Benji the Hunted with my friends so I could wait inside for the postman on a Saturday. The point is, your boyfriend should move faster than the postal service.