Because nobody likes lawyers? Until you need one, that is.

24 yr old lawyer here, and yup, this STILL happens. My mother is convinced that I'm not married because men who make less/have less money/education than me are intimidated (she says "they don't think they are good enough") while those who don't have that problem are probably much too old for me and likely to be settled down by then.

I'm not sure I totally buy it, I'm not an active dater AT ALL...and I am not as attracted to someone that has less education (I don't care about money though) so maybe it's more complicated, but I've definitely come across more than one man that had an issue with this.

I'm also an attorney and I've been described as "intimidating" more times than I care to remember. Turns out the "other lawyer types" and "men with high paying jobs" aren't into chicks with opinions either. On my way to lunch one day I noticed my reflection in an elevator and I really had to wonder. I hear guys complain all the time about the lack of awesome women. There I was -- wearing the hell out of my little black dress, with my hair down, a great smile, an awesome job, DD boobs and -- single. Not just single, but utterly dateless. Well, not utterly dateless. The only thing better than going to see a chick flick is going to see a chick flick with all of your gay friends. Honestly, I feel sorry for the poor guy who's sitting at home alone instead of ripping off my purple thong.

My advice? Forget the "rabbit." It's all about the Hitachi Magic Wand. Best damn $50 I've ever spent. You can thank me later.

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I absolutely agree with the ladies above. I have two engineering degrees as well as a law degree and am perpetually single. Personally, I don't think any guys, whether educated or not, like women who have ambition and/or intelligence. Along with my degrees, I love doing home improvement and have my own power tool collection as well as an awesome high heel and purse collection. Unfortunately I don't have DD boobs, only B's, but I am only a size 0-2 and am always called attractive. I am also currently working in the military, which I love (I get to shoot guns and get paid for it). But it does put me in an awkward position since I do get hit on just about every day by the troops under me (which I call the school teacher/authority effect), but can't find a guy my age who appreciates accomplished, ambitious women.

Whoa, who are these losers you ladies keep running into? Man I don't think I know a single guy that would be intimidated by you. In fact, just the opposite. I know many that would find you "power" positions to be an aphrodisiac. I would think you be having more trouble finding a guy who wasn't trying to mooch off you than finding a guy who wasn't intimidated.

It's got to be the particular circles you are hitting, because I have to agree with PJ on this one. Expand or change the circles you are looking in. It could be that you are finding guys in similar positions that are trying to get the same achievements you are and are a bit self conscious that you've got more than they do.

And/or its the lawyer thing more then the "well-educated" thing. I'm certain there are number of men that would be put off by a variety of "scary" professions such as lawyer, prison guard, politician, garbage collector, etc. Stupid of them, but some people are just plain prejudiced.

LOL Laje, I love that lawyer is a scary profession!

I think it's also an issue with the ladies, the men who are not intimidated tend to be the nicer-types, guy-next-door men. And girls that grow up to become attorneys (speaking for myself and my experiences) like men to be more dominante, more masculine...and those guys need to date women "beneath" them in order to maintain that identity of power they have...and dating a lawyer (more than any other profession) would jepordize that.

I have to say that I can relate. I'm a woman who just hit 30 (unfortunately!) and so many guys are just intimidated along the way. The men I've found with a serious interest are usually the ones that are very passive and enjoy being 'told what to do' if you will. The problem is, I'm not into that. I want my man to be a MAN. I don't know if I'm right or not but it seems to me that the men who seem confident are usually afraid of NOT appearing manly and someone like myself is a threat to their image. I decided to put this to a test with a man that I've been attracted to for awhile. Many of our friends keep asking if we're dating. People that we meet randomly always assume we're together even though we're not. I've been waiting for him to ask me out for way too long. Well, one night I made a conscious effort to dumb myself down and act a little more blond (no offense, I'm blond myself) just to see what would happen. Turned out to be one of the best nights we had and he was clearly more comfortable. He even said he needed a hug before he went home (and he's not usually the type for a hug). It was a challenge - I asked him over to help me install something at my house that I could have done myself and when I kept wanting to start doing things to help, I had to remind myself to back off and act like I had no idea what to do. It's sad... but true!!