What do you want me to say? Pet your head and tell you everything is gonna be alright? You'd get peeved with me if I did that, and I'd be lying.
Sh*t happens.
If it is happening to you every single time, you might want to take a peek in the mirror to find the thing to blame. Grab a friend and go man hunting. Have her watch you and tell you in great detail exactly what you are doing to attract these guys, then stop doing that.
Bear in mind though, perfect matches don't exist. Fairly good matches do. Chemistry definitely exists. So either you are looking under rocks for your ideal guy, or you need to take remedial chemistry to change the type you appeal to.
I always get a good chuckle when I see questions like these, since 9 times out of 10, the asker/complainer aims for the supermodels/fitness models/movie star types while having a level of attraction or socioeconomic status that doesn't justify it.
Having said that, since the OP doesn't list "traits" why she is so good, or anything else that suggests she's arrogant, I don't think this is the case. Start where MM suggests. Dress nicer, hang out at nicer places. Brush up on etiquette. If you're not already, get involved in a gym, get yourself the best body possible. Wine and dine at the poshest spots in town. Join an expensive country club.
And, please, if, and I say only if, you are acting aloof and arrogant around these guys, STOP! High character and attractive men DO notice these things, and you could be turning them off, thus only those "inferior men" are approaching you. If such a guy has the balls to approach you, reject him with decency and respect for him, you'll appear so much better for doing so.
Lol I asked the question. I was in a bit of a mood when I asked it. Didn't mean it in a snobby way more in a moment of frustration when you feel like you aren't going to find a good relationship you'll be happy in. I didn't mean the guys that are approaching me are bad - they're actually all really lovely people, decent/good looking, guys I'm friends with usually already. I just don't have that attraction/can't see it being more than friends/can't see us kissing etc.
But I do agree with the idea that I'm probably too reserved - not super approachable because I'm maybe kind of defensive so definitely do probably act aloof. Not good, I know I need to work on that. Most people in this situation know that. It's just really hard to get out of this rut/get the balls to do it.
I don't have low self esteem either. I'm just not good at putting myself out there. Any tips on getting the guts to do this/be more confident? It's so hard!
This quote by absolute legend Steve Jobs is definitely something I need to/want to live by though:
"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart."- Steve Jobs. R.I.P
P.S didn't mean to sound like a brat, was just written in a moment of frustration.
Found your response a little harsh MM lol but the essential message of making more of an effort is true.
The whole I'm attracting losers implication is not true though, they have been great guys so far. Just haven't been able to meet someone I've felt something for/whose bone I''ve wanted to jump in forever lol.
Haha, I sensed you weren't being snobbish, your style in asking was different from others who asked.
All I can say is attraction isn't a choice; and is the one essential element for any relationship. A mature individual understands this. As to why you haven't found one who does it for you, don't think anyone can answer that question. Just hasn't happened. You didn't say how old you are but I sense you're young - as in early 20s. If so, don't worry. Use the single time to live life on your own terms. It can happen anytime, out of the blue, as it did with me. I guess I am trying to say, don't be so concerned about it, relationships don't define a person, and worrying about it gives off a bad vibe.
Lol I asked the question. I was in a bit of a mood when I asked it. Didn't mean it in a snobby way more in a moment of frustration when you feel like you aren't going to find a good relationship you'll be happy in. I didn't mean the guys that are approaching me are bad - they're actually all really lovely people, decent/good looking, guys I'm friends with usually already. I just don't have that attraction/can't see it being more than friends/can't see us kissing etc.
But I do agree with the idea that I'm probably too reserved - not super approachable because I'm maybe kind of defensive so definitely do probably act aloof. Not good, I know I need to work on that. Most people in this situation know that. It's just really hard to get out of this rut/get the balls to do it.
I don't have low self esteem either. I'm just not good at putting myself out there. Any tips on getting the guts to do this/be more confident? It's so hard!
This quote by absolute legend Steve Jobs is definitely something I need to/want to live by though:
"Remembering that you are going to die is the best way I know to avoid the trap of thinking you have something to lose. You are already naked. There is no reason not to follow your heart."- Steve Jobs. R.I.P
P.S didn't mean to sound like a brat, was just written in a moment of frustration.
Found your response a little harsh MM lol but the essential message of making more of an effort is true.
The whole I'm attracting losers implication is not true though, they have been great guys so far. Just haven't been able to meet someone I've felt something for/whose bone I''ve wanted to jump in forever lol.