Sometimes a guy needs to reacquaint himself with his first sexual partner - himself. It doesn't make him lazy or a boob, it just means he wants some self-touchies time. To some extent nobody knows how to operate ones machinery better than the owner. Not to say that it isn't often more erotic and sensual to have others try to "drive," but every now and again, a guy wants to clear his head and get back in the cockpit -- brush his own teeth, tie his own own shoes.
Now, on its own merit masturbation within the context of a relationship can be fine. It is only when it becomes the primary means of sex in the house that it may raise concern; if that's the case it can definitely make you (the partner) feel unwanted, insecure or obsolete. But as long as communication is open and there is a good amount of attraction and security in your bed, choosing to throw a self-tug in the mix is as normal as apple pie.
And remember, if you can't beat 'em, there's nothing wrong with joining 'em. Yes, instead of feeling like second fiddle, pick up your own instrument and start plucking.
Funny Guy
is it normal for a guy to want to bring himself to orgasm by masturbating while you're having sex? or does it mean that the girl isn't up to snuff?
I would personally be upset, but I tend to get a little emotional. If he's finishing without your help, maybe you could ask what he wants you to do? Talk it up during sex!! It's the only way I know what my boyfriend likes.
Why not? If a man I loved was getting off on me then bring it on!!! Men being happy sexually with themselves = good idea.
I was helping out, but I just wondered if the actual penetration wasn't good enough for him.
most of the time I have to masturbate after sex... It takes time to get my engine warmed up, per se, and he oftentimes finishes before I do. I don't generally give him a chance to do this for me anymore because he always gives the impression it's more of a job than for fun and oftentimes complains of hand cramps and is constantly asking me if I'm close... which is irritating enough for me to lose all interest in what's happening. So now it's solo for me if I want a proper ending to my bedtime story!
So sad... There are better happily ever afters out there, girl!
Some of us are just unable to get our jollies from intercourse alone... doesn't make it any less enjoyable.. just means we have to put a little more help in. I'm more than happy to help him help me.