There are two possible reasons that come to mind as to why your boyfriend would say such a thing:

1) He actually feels REALLY guilty about what he did and the fact that you took him back makes it worse because he knows he wouldn't take you back if you did the same; or

2) He feels guilty about the fact that he doesn't want to be with you anymore (which is why he cheated) and would just prefer you agreed with him and broke up with him, since it doesn't look right for him to break up with you AFTER you forgave him.

Now, determining which option is more true is probably more difficult than Chinese arithmetic (I actually don't know if that's hard, but I've heard people reference its difficulty before - truly, nothing was more difficult than Set Theory in college. If Chinese arithmetic is like that, then yowza. This was a tangent).

You need to pay attention to his actions at this point. I'm a firm believer in believing what a man says and actually think that's where most women go wrong. He says he doesn't want a relationship but will do everything you'd deem "boyfriend-esque". In this case, his actions are going to tell the story. Is he trying to make amends by making time for you and doing the little things to show you that you can trust him, like being where he says he's going to be and doing what he says he's going to do? If so, he probably just has a hard time understanding why you'd still want him. Put a pin in that, we're gonna come back to it.

Or is he doing things to constantly make you question your relationship? If that's the case then he's probably BEEN mentally out of the relationship but has too much guilt since he cheated and can't bring himself to break it off. Pay very close attention to his body language too and whether or not he seems "committed" to you all.

Back to the pin. Even if he's just having a hard time believing you took him back and really doesn't think he deserves you, this may not end well. He might still leave because he doesn't deem himself worthy and now he doesn't trust you. It's a tangled web, for sure. Just not uncommon, unfortunately.

So basically, pay very close attention to the way your man is treating you now and if he's doing everything you ever wanted him to do to show his commitment, sit back, relax, and hope for the best. If he's not, then you just might be dealing with somebody who's attempting to manipulate you into tanking the union.

It was written.