I understand your confusion. About 85% of the advice we give on this blog involves pointing out that however horny you imagine men to be, you're grossly underestimating. And dammit, it's the truth.

Nevertheless, that doesn't mean all guys want in everyone's pants all the time. Theoretically, sure, but the real world is infinitely complex, and puts myriad restrictions on our otherwise unbounded desire.

I'm talking about indecent exposure laws here of course, but there are any number of other reasons the man in question might not be hittin' 'dat. Perhaps:

--He's just not that into you.

--He doesn't want to appear too forward and scare you off.

--He fears rejection, frivolous sexual harassment charges, and/or forcible castration from one or both of your parents.

--He's an innie, not an outtie.

--He's self-conscious about his oddly shaped balls, the birthmark on his butt, or the oozing rash on his lower back.

--He's taken a vow of celibacy until the day his dojo's destruction is avenged.

--He's gay, bi, hermaphroditic or produces via spore cloud.

--His religion forbids pre-marital sex, or women wearing pants (knee-length dress, please).

--He knows his best friend is in love with you, and he's a solid bro.

--You didn't get him quite drunk enough. Some of these big guys you really gotta pour it down 'em.

--In a wacky turn of events, the man you think is your crush is actually a criminal hiding from mob lords by impersonating his twin brother! With that kind of stress on him, it's no wonder he's not in peak sexual frenzy.

Whether it's one of the above, none, or all (probably all), you've just got to respect a guy's desire to move at his own pace sexually. See? Welcome to our world. Sucks, doesn't it?