No, this is not an urban legend. This is the mark of a legend.
A man who chooses to hold off orgasming, and then has the physiological where-with-all to do so is a hero in bed. Men, like other humans, often want to bring pleasure and satisfaction to their lovers. As such, they try to postpone their explosion to give the woman a chance to orgasm first. Man will do and think of anything to not ejaculate (count backwards from 100, recite The Pledge of Allegiance in Pig Latin, fantasize about Sarah Jessica Parker or shooting pool with The Situation). After all, once a man climaxes he's about as useful to a vagina as a slice of pizza.
I suspect the reason you think it may be a myth or fairy tale is because in the early year's of a man's intercourse career, it's rarely is achieved. In the early years sex alone is the objective; touching the mountain top of sex not spending time on its summit. But in time man's goals shift, as well as expectations - he matures, emotionally and physically and it's no longer about scaling the mountain so much as about offering a path for both parties to peak.
"After all, once a man climaxes he's about as useful to a vagina as a slice of pizza."
^ Well just his penis. What about the rest of him? His hands, mouth, fingers are all still in working order. If he's talented, they will do just fine if the penis is drained.
This is true, but they are rarely willing at that point.
I have to say that my man knows how to hold back until he knows that I am satisfied! Everytime we make love it is the mind blowing can't feel your legs kind of good. He tells me that he is more focused on what I need to be able to pleasure me before he even thinks of how good it feels for himself. These men do exist! I also think it has a lot to do with the chemistry and love you share with that person. If he truly loves you he will do whatever it takes to satisfy you, by any means necessary. I wish you luck in finding the kind of man that I have found because he is certainly special.
I too have the special guy... Who puts me first.. He will hold out for at least 1 hour and then when he knows he has satisfied me when my body tremors then we climax together for the finale!!!! Oh ya!! Men take care or your ladies.. And she will take care of YOU!!!
You go girl.. If we could all be as lucky as you....