Ouch, right to the point.
There are lots of crappy ways to break up with somebody, but the worst way I ever did it was the passive-aggressive way, the one where you slowly withdraw because you don't want to deal, but don't actually want to admit it, and then get too wrapped up in just about everything else. This stretches a breakup over months. It's terrible. Don't do it.
The other party in this breakup isn't blameless; I had reasons to withdraw and not deal. But I should have at least had the testicular fortitude to lay out how I was feeling, but I didn't.
On the other hand, she dumped me for a woman, did the exact same crap to her, and now neither of us talk to her and we're good friends. So at least it makes a great story when drinking, and it was a learning experience.
I might be able to one-up that. I was broken up with on Valentine's Day. Everything was going great. Then he started making little jabs at me. Making fun of me and talking about things he knew that bothered me. I sucked it up, and he told me he was sorry. Then right before he left he broke it off. Told me he said all those mean things hoping it would make ME break up with HIM, so he didn't have to do it. I know now he was just an asshole, but regardless of his reasoning, the things he said really hurt, and part of me is still inclined to believe he meant every word.
Oh honey, I dated the champion of all douchebags.
He sent a dozen roses to my work, so everyone at work came over to look at them. (I'm a large carnivore biologist with Montana fish wildlife and parks, so we are a fairly rugged lot and flowers are EXTREAMLY rare in our offices.)
Anyways. The note attached read, "these flowers are to cheer you up, because I'm leaving you."
I was like really dude??
Hell at least a text-message breakup is private!
I had a guy do the same thing to me as you did. Except it really wasn't my fault and he had a perfectly good reason to break up with me as his father had just passed away and he could have said he wanted space. Totally would have understood. Instead he disappeared for a couple weeks, came back and talked and hung out just fine with EVERYONE except me. I had to myspace message him and ask if he was breaking up with me (yes this was a few years ago). We were friends for a while til he tried getting with my best friend and decided the death of her fish, which meant a lot to her, was not a big deal and made her cry. Now I hate him.
Was really good friends with a guy for 7 years even after he'd hooked up with one of my best friends on a one-night-stand and had me talk him through trouble with his awful ex-girlfriend. He was a WONDERFUL friend nonetheless. I was Close with his fam too. Our parents were even fairly close. We have all the same friends. We started dating and everything seemed absolutely fine. Then one weekend started acting all cold and weird but in a way that you can't point your finger at. After letting him and his friend borrow my car all day he kept it for the night without asking to party with the boys, left me locked outside of my apartment, made me miss a flight home- called me the next day to say he only saw me as a friend- after dating for 5 months.....then blames me and tells everyone I am over reacting. Never got an explanation beyond "Wasn't working out". yep. still don't know what I did wrong.
hun.. u did nothing wrong .. we women tend to think its because we did something wrong .. but it really isn't the case , at least not always.
he seems irresponsible , childish and a jerk to say the least, its a good thing you found out. YOU can do better ..