Your boyfriend probably thinks so. For most people, cheating doesn't necessarily mean sex. It can be as simple as sending flirty/racy texts or emails or Facebook messages. Whether you're making out with a guy or just giving him our number at a bar, it's still going behind his back and being unfaithful.
Flirting and cuddling with someone other than your boyfriend says that you don't want to be in a committed relationship. Think about it -- would you be upset if your boyfriend was cuddling with some other girl? You know full well that you're being unfaithful. If it feels like cheating, it usually is.
That's somewhat of a sexist remark. Just a few days ago some guy sent in a question saying he has 2 girl friends and THAT wasn't even the problem. So it's not Women. Or Men. It's people. People being selfish dipsh**s.
Isn't it sexist that you assume the person with two girlfriends is a guy?
You have a point. My apologies for the assumption, but it doesn't change my original idea. That it's not one gender over the making these bad decisions.
It's also disrespectful. I had the same problem with my wife and her ex boyfired (not the ex-husband they didn't even talk). They were just friends and "he had been good to me" etc. I have no idea if they hooked up - but clearly he wanted to. That's the problem isn't it? No matter how innocent you think it is the other person in the situation may be thinking to get lucky again.
So to make a long involved story short - I told her how I felt (upset, insecure and hurt) and told her the rest was up to her.
It's also disrespectful of the boyfriend. She needs to be aware that she is hurting him and making other people look at him and snicker in pity.
I had a similar situation with my wife and her ex-boyfriend ( thankfully not the ex-husband). The excuse was "but we're friends" and "he was good to me" etc. I have no idea if they hooked up or not, I rather doubt it but am not sure (see how this makes the relationship weaken?). Not to mention he clearly wouldn't have minded taking her to bed and made that clear in several messages I saw though. One of her mistakes was not slapping that down, but you live and learn.
Anyway - he does need to tell her she's hurting him. If she cares she'll do something. If not, well then he should move on - she hasn't.
Corey, you're an idiot.
Anyway, everyone has different definitions of cheating. I don't consider cuddling cheating, but others might. This is one of those situations where you'd have to really talk about boundaries with your partner and find out what each of you is and is not okay with.
Why do you want to cuddle and flirt with someone who isn't your boyfriend? Sounds like you aren't that into your boyfriend.
She needs to ask herself if it’s ok if the BF did it too…