Yes, absolutely I would be mad. Would it end the relationship? I don't know. For some people, it might. Others might chalk it up to a onetime screw-up and not throw out seven years because of a drunken kiss. Which is not to say you have carte blanche to go around kissing guys who aren't your boyfriend and assume he'll be okay with it.
Everyone has their dealbreaker when it comes to cheating. For some, catching your boyfriend or girlfriend sending flirtatious emails to an ex is enough of a reason to send them packing. Maybe you'll fess up, talk it through, and eventually be forgiven. But I wouldn't assume he's not going to be mad and just forget about it.
You should probably examine why this happened. I'm not going to judge you for cheating, or slipping up that one time. (If it is that one time.) But why after seven years did you all of a sudden decide to have one too many vodka tonics and suck face with someone besides your boyfriend? And where is this relationship going? There's nothing wrong with not being married at this point, but you have to wonder if this random makeout session was coming from a serious place. Maybe you're subconsciously trying to get out of the relationship. Maybe it's your way of telling him, "lock this down or else." Or maybe you just got wasted and made a bad decision. Whatever the reason, it might be wise to think about what led to this happening.
Good luck. And easy on the booze this holiday season.
Everyone has their dealbreaker when it comes to cheating. For some, catching your boyfriend or girlfriend sending flirtatious emails to an ex is enough of a reason to send them packing. Maybe you'll fess up, talk it through, and eventually be forgiven. But I wouldn't assume he's not going to be mad and just forget about it.
You should probably examine why this happened. I'm not going to judge you for cheating, or slipping up that one time. (If it is that one time.) But why after seven years did you all of a sudden decide to have one too many vodka tonics and suck face with someone besides your boyfriend? And where is this relationship going? There's nothing wrong with not being married at this point, but you have to wonder if this random makeout session was coming from a serious place. Maybe you're subconsciously trying to get out of the relationship. Maybe it's your way of telling him, "lock this down or else." Or maybe you just got wasted and made a bad decision. Whatever the reason, it might be wise to think about what led to this happening.
Good luck. And easy on the booze this holiday season.
Awesome answer, Nick.
It definitely depends on the guy. We can be really territorial about this stuff, sometimes unreasonably so, other times not so unreasonably so.
I used to forgive this kind of behaviour, everybody makes mistakes, and I've put myself in situations before where I knew I'd be tempted. Unfortunately, that seemed to send the message that it was OK, when it absolutely was not.
Nowadays, I've got clearly defined boundaries. I don't mind a little flirting, your close male friends, or your ex being part of your inner circle. If I think they cross the line, I'll be the first to let them know. Hooking up with anybody, male or female, will result in instant dismissal. If I can't trust a girl, I have no business trying to be with her.
Agreed, each guy is going to have different limitations.
My boyfriend's ex cheated on him pretty explicitly, so knowing that I'm pretty sure I'd be in big trouble if I did that. But then again, I would never do that..so moot point lol.
I honestly had no idea it was that easy!!Whenever I'm just about to kiss a random dude at a party I think to myself "self,do we really feel like dying today forcing my son into the system from daddy getting haulded off to central booking?" If the answers "NO" & it always is,I grab my coat along with my potential ax murdering husband & head home!
Any self-respecting, semi-intelligent, male on this planet would end the relationship. Now when I say end the relationship, I mean from his side emotionally. That means not really dating her or considering her as a long term partner. Staying with her just to screw her is more of a personal decision. Most of the guys I know would certainly continue to "see" her while looking around for other girls to do on the side.
She doesn't need to know that you are holding back your emotions. Just play it cool - kiss her, etc. etc. but pull yourself away emotionally. This way you will partially get over her while still with her. You are doing nothing wrong since she is the one that kissed another guy and disrespected you.
The girl deserves what she's getting since she has done exactly the same thing to him. Alcohol is no excuse for her actions. Who would want to date or worse, marry a creature like that. She is only good for one thing now.
The good thing is there are more girls like you now than ever before which is like a buffet for guys like me. Marriage and things that come with it (child support, alimony, etc.) is the biggest blow to a man's freedom. With girls like you around, guys like me can keep a list and have one for every night of the week. And we don't have to shell out a dime for it! Amazing - kinda like a really cheap prostitute.
Please ignore James's comment if you are over 15. In adult relationships, you have to forgive, and snogging another guy while wrong, hardly makes you a prostutite or any other names you are being called.I think Nick is right and you do need to examine why you did what you did. Seven years is a long time to be with someone without get hitched and frustation might be one reason. James, mind games have to place in relationships and I wonder what your advice would have been if she had actually slept with someone!
Please ignore James's advice if you are over 15. Advising a person to play mind games have no place in adult relationships as is the other advice you gave. Kissing someone else, whilst wrong, hardly justifies others calling you a prostitute or the bad names you are getting. Nick is right in that 7 years is a lot to throw away just coz of a kiss. You do also need to scrutinize your reasons for that digression and i think that 7 years is a long time to be with someone without making plans to get hitched. James, I hate to know what advice you would have given had she slept with someone else!
My gf of 5 years snogged another guy my m8 caught them both they was french kissing and had arms round each other she says it was becouse she was drunk and it should not of happend and she does not no why it happend i cant trust her anymore so there is no point in me staying with somebody i cannot trust so it all depends if you still have the trust i personely do not anymore