I wouldn't be turned of at all. I'm one of those people that believes everybody probably needs to see a therapist about something.
Shucks, I myself have seen various therapists from physical to emotional to some guy on the corner with a cup asking for money who gave me career and relationship advice once. While I didn't pay him $100 an hour, I did buy him a double cheeseburger from McDonald's which in my mind was a fair trade.
Now I'm not every guy and because of the pscyho-stigma we tend to attach to therapy, some guys might think that there's just something wrong with you and that you might be loony-bin f**knut crazy. And in some cases, they would be right. In your case, it's to deal with something serious that is possibly blocking future greatness. If a guy that you're dating is made to understand that, then he shouldn't take issue.
Truly, he shouldn't take issue either way. Nobody should knock anybody else's self-improvement. Some people read self-help books, others go see physical people.
So in long, if you make a guy aware that the reason you're seeing somebody is help you get past something and not because one flew over the cuckoo's nest, a good guy would be supportive (and not intrusive). We all have our things and issues, and I applaud your pro activity.
If a guy couldn't handle that, then perhaps he needs to see somebody on his own.
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Yeah...Don't tell him about it. Unless he asks, I don't see why you have to tell him. Its called confidentiality for a reason. If you don't feel comfortable enough to let him know, then follow that instinct.
It doesn't make him a bad guy, its just that there is a stigma attached to people who have to see therapists. I know first hand, because I saw a therapist, told the guy I was dating about it and I kid you not he dumped me over it. Now, that may be because he's a creep (hell he probably did me a favor). Or more likely, it just scared him .
love love your answers and everything and think you got the right kind of knowledge also i totally agree i myself have issues but in the past i guess i didnt made clear how inimportant it was like i wasnt crazy so it didnt have a good ending but for you too make it clear ur not it should be such a prob....but i so need someones help i tried to post this but no luck its driving me crazy. I got a question soo please can u help even if its just alittle bit it would help me ease my hectic mind... I got this ex he broke up with me an we were friends, little after he cuts of all communication with me but once in a while he would write to me like happy new years the other day he called what is up with him any insite to what is going in his mind? please any help would be appreciated! any commenters are welcome to help as well! an sorry for commenting on your question i just need help which im sure others doo but... well sorry again.
Don't read too much into it. I had an ex do the same thing. The reality is, he's feeling cruddy and probably wants to see if your just as miserable.
He is an ex for a reason, don't revisit this. If you want it to stop, put him in his place and just say you don't want his friendship.
Or if you do want his friendship then ignore said information. But sometimes we women think we can sway their minds. The reality is you can't. Don't entertain his insecurity by letting him think your a buddy.
Who you tell that you're in therapy is totally your business. It's certainly not something I would disclose early in a relationship. I myself am in therapy, since January and there are people in my life who are important to me and who I consider to be friends who I have not told and may never tell. I just have to trust that I'm doing the best thing for me, now.
I'd have to really trust someone, before I would tell them and that's why only my closest, dearest friends and family know.
You don't say how long you've been dating this guy, but I get the impression it's not that long. If it's important to you to be open and honest, then you could tell him. You should prepare yourself for fact that your news might not be well received. If not, it's totally his loss, but maybe it is something you're better off knowing now.