No. Not because I’m a bleeding heart progressive liberal with a strong anti-establishment streak and no regard or respect for law and order, but because (in my opinion) a lot of the traits one must have to be a good cop aren’t that attractive to me.
Am I making sweeping claims about what it means to be a cop and what it takes to be a cop? Sure. But of all the professions out there, I don’t find “cop” to be that recommendable for marriage.
Here’s Four Specifics Why:
1. The hours are often insane. You’re going to bed, your cop is starting the day. Or, it’s Tuesday and you haven’t seen your cop since Saturday morning because his shifts are back to back and don’t mix with your schedule.
2. The worry you will perpetually carry when your cop is out patrolling the streets or dealing with emergency/dangerous situations.
3. The pressure and stress many cops understandably have, coupled with not finding positive ways to release them, can easily result in the marriage bring the official dumping ground.
4. Often, experiencing years and years of high stress situations can lead to a sort of burn out or a coping mechanism where things are black and white and hard edged for cops. A pervasive jadedness, or inability to see nuances in things, is typical because when they’re on the job in real situations this isn’t possible and thus carries into their civilian life.
Lastly, keep in mind 3 things.
1. There are many types of cops and assignments. Maybe your cop is going to work with children in some sunshine suburb and not be chasing down criminals at 4am through abandoned bus terminals in Detroit.
2. Cops take an oath to protect people and keep justice. That’s pretty noble, right?
3. Why do you ask this question to begin with? Are you in a particular situation/relationship that prompts this? I suggest you take your own situation as its own case, but certainly draw upon statistics and those with direct experience moving forward.
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