Without manure roses don't grow. Therefore life without a generous helping of BS is meaningless, at least for the roses.
And seriously, castle of sand built in the sky? I thought I made a mean dish of scrambled metaphors, but that one is beyond my small culinary skills. I salute you.
Your beauty, or lack thereof, is something I can not report on. Your bitterness, well yeah, it is a tad obvious. Might want to tone that down. 'Cause one bit of BS you hear constantly - "true beauty comes from within" - happens to be true.
Now, as for a guy selling you dreams - he can't sell if you don't want to buy. Would you buy some cheapa*s plastic knock off copies of a pair of shoes, one size too small, simply because they were offered to you?
So who is at fault here? Some guy for taking advantage? Or you, for being dumb?
As hard as this may be to take for the women out there who have been sold something worthless: "...he can't sell if you don't want to buy", it makes a lot of sense.
Now point being taken, we've all been down that road of being dumb... Just gotta learn the lesson and pick ourselves up and make it a point we don't make the same stupid choices we made before.
I was speaking to a male friend of mine last night who used to be a player. At one point he said, "I know what words to say to a woman to)....(get an outcome). I know I have been sweet talked too. What I have learned is that if the sweet talk comes too soon in getting to know a guy I take it with a grain of sand and see if his actions back it up. If I am getting to know a guy and his character supports his words I will still watch his actions but certainly much more open to believing them. Then the final barometer is my gut. Once I trusted it and really started listening it is always right.
Always trust your gut. Learning the right moves and words is easy, but players ALWAYS give themselves away if you listen hard.
i know it's not really PC to condone BS, but...i really like this answer, and it goes right with the blog you wrote this week. we ALL do it. we all shovel a little bit of BS here and there to make things, well, easier. easier for us, easier for others, etc. sometimes people say things and they really mean them at the time. and sometimes they don't. but you can't go through life saying you've never shoveled a scoop of BS and then blame someone else because it turns out one thing they said didn't end up being 100% true. talk is not always cheap. you do have to trust your gut, and also start easing off on perfect expectations. because nobody is perfect. nobody. you aren't either no matter how pretty you think you are. failing to realize that is going to send you through life as one bitter banana and MM is right, you will have nobody to blame but yourself for that. i love that line, you can't have roses without manure, so what do you want to focus on, the horsepiles, or the roses.
My mom taught me to be distrustful of smooth talking charmers. Especially good looking ones because I always think they are trying to sell me what I don't want. It makes for an interesting dynamic. We can be friends once we get past that and can be real. (Seriously, I thought BS is what we steer clear of.)
If I fall prey to anyone, it will be with the socially inept one that knows what he is talking about that does not compliment.