As a gamer, I get to hear a lot about how violent we are as a culture and how it's my fault. And it makes me angry, frankly, on multiple levels.
The most basic, though, is this. You bet we have a culture of violence. But it's not, despite tragedies in the news, a culture of homicide or a culture of firearms death.
It's a culture of sexual assault.
Let's start with the numbers. We have no idea how many sexual assaults are committed, but we do know that they're massively underreported to the police: Estimates vary
, but they're usually from 75% to 95%. So, applying the best case scenario, here, we have a number of 145,993 sexual assaults committed, multiplying the FBI's reports
against that 75% underreporting figure.
Against women alone. In one year.
Just for a little contrast, that same data estimates there were 14,612 homicides in the US, a crime far less underreported. So, best case scenario, after decades of feminism, hard-working efforts to stop sexual violence, and increasing awareness of the problem, we still have a sexual assault rate ten times our homicide rate and the federal government has absolutely no idea how many men are being sexually assaulted because it doesn't track that data. And this is the best case scenario. We can put computers in pockets but we can't reach people to understand that you have no right to the bodies of others?
This isn't to say that homicide or mentally ill people with easy access to guns isn't a problem, but to be frank, at the best of times our culture glosses over sexual assault as something that happens to women and that anybody who isn't a weeping white woman had coming. This is not the best of times.
But if you're really worried about violence in our society and its effects, why don't we start talking about the problem that stays with us no matter how hard we try to push it away?