This goes out to the ladies. This one goes to the ones we've left behind. While there are no dumb questions submitted here, there are most assuredly sad questions. And I'm not talking about the obvious sad involving rape, molestation or mastectomy questions. I'm talking about the lot of questions I get each week that should have been answered by your own self-assurance and pride, years ago.
Will any guy like me if I have some stomach chub?
Do guys want to know what you like in bed or does it hurt their feelings?
Should I ever stop faking it during sex?
I love wearing jeans but my man thinks I look dumpy. Help
My husband refuses to visit my parents as often as his. What do I do?
My boyfriend threatened to leave me if I gain more weight from the pill.
I'd expect to get questions like this if A. There were web sites back in 1962 and B. I was alive and knew how to type. But now in 2012 to field questions about asserting your own claim to sex; claiming your body as your own; claiming your voice and your feelings as valid and equal?
It makes me wonder why so many women have not gained access to their own mojo. Is it religion? Is it cultural? Is it media driven? Political? I suspect all of the above. Even in subtle ways we diminish women day to day. That whole, "Tom, you married up when you scored Sue" is condescending. That little shtick, "Tom, meet my better half, Sue." Or, "I may make the money, but Sue makes the rules," all goes a long way to undermining females. It sounds positive, but actually objectifies and isolates. Any time we put something on a pedestal we are stripping "it" of self-determination. We are imposing our will over "it". We are using "it" instead of coexisting with "it".
Sure, I get the fact that it's a slippery slope, that some women like and expect to hear "after you, dear" and "ladies first" and so on. But if allowing women to enter a revolving door comes at the cost of their self-esteem then I say f*ck it. Besides entering new rooms is about your choice, not about being invited.