"There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day:
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
Most of these won't surprise you. Some might. Consider it a refresher.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He asks your friends questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that shit, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
Most of these won't surprise you. Some might. Consider it a refresher.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He asks your friends questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that shit, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
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keep doing lists Dr. Wise Ass, we need'em!
My guy friend did a lot of these, but I was taken. He has since gotten a new girlfriend and I'm now single (so the reverse). Do you think he still likes me?
He could, but he's with someone else right now so it's probably a bad idea to find out right now.
Yeah, I was going to be good and wait. Thanks for answering though.
My roommate does 9 of those. And maybe more with a little tweaking. (IE rarely calls me because we're usually in the same spot and even then, I don't like to just chat on the phone.)
Wish there was a way to permanently sticky this to the front page.
They do get awkward when they like you. It’s cute though...
Girls get awkward too. :) The first time my boyfriend asked me out I walked into a door. I've never lived it down. Our relationship is ending, but those awkward and endearing moments are worth holding on to.
For most of these I'd already be thinking he liked me! :-P
guys just want to get in your pants...they are all
Wait, what if they are known for awkwardness around everyone BUT you?
I'm a twat.
PLEASE ANSWER!!
My close guy friend does all of these except for like 4 of them
But he has a girlfriend, and I have a boyfriend !! And I'm so confused!
I asked him if he loved his g.f and all he said was she's cool!
He doesn't like to talk much about her!
And he messages me every single day!
So confused!! He send me a lot of love songs just to "listen to them"
we talk for like at least 5 or 6 hours a day!
Yeah, I'm pretty sure he's in love with you, sweetheart. If i were you, I'd start thinking about whether or not you liked him back.
I have a guy friend and he loves tickling me @ work and wants 2 touch my boobs and my ass and idk what he wants sex or a relationship plz help
Yeah, I think he just wants to get in your pants.
What if he used to do all these things, but its long distance and he has a crazy busy job, and now he rarely does any of them..only maybe 2 or 3...is there hope?
He does 11 of these everyday... (:
oh my god, this is so annoying, i just broke up with somebody and i like ths other guy, who seems to like me even though he's a bit more popular than me. what DO I DO ?!?!
fuck my life.
well there's this guy and it's kinda weird though. we barely talk because he seems nervous around me but he is always staring at me in class. when I catch him he looks away really fast. he is always asking questions about me to my friends like: does she have a facebook? or something like that. and he has been trying to get closer to me ever since. sitting next to me in class and joining my group of friends. I dont understand! some1 help??
Gaaahhhh This is soo adorableee...:3
I really really REALLY like this guy.... and I don't know if he likes me... 'cause he's been starting to sit by me in lunch and such... and blahh all this stuff..... but he's been doing a lot of what that list had said lately.... and 2 my friends says he likes me... but I wanna say that I agree to that.. but I dunno because . I just find it wayy to good to be true haha...... *w*.... but whatever.... I just wanna go out with him already... he's too damn cute..haha :D and some my friends' said we'd be a good couple and such......
and he's been around me a lottt♥ :D hahaha..... I feel such like a school girl 'cause whenever I'm sitting with my friend in lunch then I see him start walking to my table to sit by me.. I start laughing a lot.. and feel like I'm turning red and stuff.......ha... this list thing has helped me... I guess :B haha..........
ahh the many wonders of love when you like someone.... :3
Me and this boy are currently talking, and we text because as you can see im in highschool , thats what highschoolers do. And, my first time ever talking to him in person.. he didnt even flinch or stutter or get nervous at all, but the look in his eyes.. i can just see that he is the one and he feels the same for me. And him sharing his person information with me gives me more of a glimpse that he wants to get closer, more involved with me, and that somewhere in there he trusts me. I just ended a relationship 3 weeks ago.. i dont want to rush things. But this kid man, his awesome. I dont think ive ever felt anything like this before. Its so powerful.. unbelieveable. Im meeting his mom tomorrow, so scared! 7 of these signs he shows. #ilovehim.
I know he likes me. His face lights up when he sees me. He smiles at me all the time. He is constantly recommending books I should read and trys to read the books he knows I would like. He did make me a playlist. He calls me and texts me and we have amazing chemistry. Nothing has been said in words but this has been going on for months. Im not a kid, im in my early 20s, I know he likes me. A few days ago he started acting really mean. He told me I was bad luck in a teasing way but still very unlike him. And then he started recommending books to this other girl right in front of me and then he slyly looked at me to see my reaction. He kept ignoring me and then he came up to me to ask me where I was going that night. I had told him the day before I was going out with my friends. He was ridiculously curious and jealous. This whole time, he had been trying to make me jealous. When that didnt work he gave me a small present. It was so funny, after trying so hard to make me jealous he started being so nice. And I found that to be the cutest thing. Since then everything has been good, really good. I pick out stuff for him. And I like the chase. I like that everything is going so slowly. Then out of nowhere, he met my friend for two minutes and he will not stop asking about her. He asked me to put in a good work. To give him her number. Is he just an asshole that cant help himself?!
Ok, so i have a really close guy friend who talks to me A LOT.. Awhile ago i noticed he was doing most of the things on this list except for like 3 and i realllyyyyy liked him so i decided to gather up the courage to ask him out after his girlfriend broke up with him (i already knew she was going to). When i finally did, he hesitated and said that he really liked me but he wanted to stay single for awhile. I mean, i understood, i got it. He was a little broken and i was definitely willing to wait. So we started talking more and more, then a half a month later, he gets a girlfriend and starts ignoring me. I didn't even know they were talking! I've gotten over it mostly but i still like him...a lot. He sits with me at lunch and my other guy friend came over and started flirting and tickling me. I looked over at my crush to see what he was doing, only to see that he was walking out of the caf. So i asked his best friend where he was going and he said that he was bothered by the flirting. Right after that he started to talk to me again and texting me more. Plus he bought me thin mints cuz he knows they're my favorite. :) Does he still like me or is he just an asshole?
Guys SUCK! The guy I like,I thought was my dream guy and turns out he was being so friendly and nice to me so he could find out more about my friend! He and I have alot in common and I still really like him but whenever I try to say 'hi,how are you?' that asshole just gives me a look and keeps on walking by.Here is my advice,if you like a guy,tell him before he falls in love with your 'friend'.
This guy dose 11 of this things everone say he like me but idk if its ture and I really like him???......but idk if it ture that he dose.
im 12 i know im a little young but the guy i like is nice and stuff and makes me feel right.he does 15 off those things.when im sad he gives me hugs.he jokes with me and stuff. best part is he said he liked me but he didnt ask me out.nether did i.mabye i waited too long but he still does the stuff.(he only does most of it around me like the flirty and nice stuff.i just dont know how to ask him out
What does it mean when a guy tells u needs a gf???
Wow, this put a big smile on my face. The guy I am head over heals for does ten of these things ... that is so awesome! Guess he is heads over heals for me too! :o)
Wow, this put a big smile on my face. The guy I am head over heals for does ten of these things ... that is so awesome! Guess he is heads over heals for me too! :o)
My guy best friend has just recently started telling me that he loves me. I don't know how to take it. Help???
My guyfriend= 11 of these :)))
My friend and I have known each other two years and he was doing many things on the lust. So two separate times, about 3-4 months apart, I asked if he was into me and wanted to move past being friends. He denied ever doing anything to hint that he wanted more than friendship and we argued for a good two-three weeks. I've tried separating from being in contact but he says he doesn't want to lose my friendship. I am ok with it, but I have specified boundaries. Since then we have hung out with our normal group of friends but. I catch him just staring at me all the time and although he's cut back on some of the above signals, he still does a few of them. I just don't understand why he stares at me. When I catch him looking at me, he doesn't look away so it feels really creepy. What is going on and what do you recommend I do?
I have a guy friend that does like most of these things one second and the other he is awkward and anti. Does he like me or is it me?
i have a friend I've known for a month and a half we went ice skating with our school and talked most of the time of the 3 hours he also asked what i'd give him for running into a wall as fast as he could also in gym we are rollerblading and he said at the end he knew how to Rollerblade just not well and in wellness before he tried to say he didn't know how to read and wanted me to teach him
at the social when the slow songs were done he asked me to dance
he stares when we have a class together
he sits near me in gym when he can and in Spanish if we combined classes
if we run across each other in the library we chat and he's told me about his little brother and what he does to him (his brother has down syndrome) and what I do to my older brother and other stuff also he smiles a lot more around me then just with his friends
also in gym i threw a ball at him and later he tried to say he caught it when it hit him the he caught it and he wouldn't let it go for a couple days
he does 10-11 of the list above please help:)
I really like him!
Im just now realizing that my boyfriend did basically every single one of these things before he asked me out and i didn't even realize it. I did see it coming though. When he said he wanted to go to a movie i just knew right away that it was his speak for a date. That entire day i waited and finally it happened xD Anyway, i just want to say that this is really accurate and helpful :)
I have a guy that I am good friends with, and a couple months ago I developed feelings for him. He winded up asking me if I like him, but now I am stuck wondering if he likes me back. He does a lot of these, i.e calling me, asking questions about me, using my name a lot, calls me dear, hon, etc., says I'm cute and "awh" a lot. He also made me a special bracelet. However a couple weeks ago I told him this bracelet reminds me of him and he said "hahahahahahaha reminds you in what way, dear friend?" That sounds like a friendzone!
Omg I have a Bestfriend and we have been friends science the beginning of seventh grade just so u know I'm in 8th grade now and well he end up repeating but well he does all of those and I asked him out last year after his girlfriend broke up with him and my boyfriend broke up with me and well he turned me down flat and said that he thought I was pretty and all but that he didn't want to ruin our friendship and well we joke around all the time about how easy it would be to go out with each other but every time I get the guts to ask him out he says no I love him and want to be his girl but I also don't want to lose my bestfriend in the processwe have been through way to much for that to happen plus not only does he have a nick name for me and dedicate songs to me he for some reasons finds it weirs to hug me I have to like begg him to hug me plus we spend almost every moment we can together he knows all my deep dark secrets so y won't he just say yes is something wrong with me.
I could really use some help please and thank u
my coworker, was nursing a guy back to health. They have a connection, we all see the chemistry, the bond. he recently met a girl and now they are dating, yet he still texts, emails, and asks my coworker to meet for dinner. I can tell she is confused and hurt. She is the better person by being happy for him, but deep down I can tell it hurts her. What is going on?
I have a professor that does 12 of the things listed. Some I can see how he couldn't do because of professionalism. He is also in a relationship. I am totally confused but I do think he's adorable. Do he like me? I really think so but I'm not sure.
This guy that i sit by in science is ALWAYS making me laugh but he keepa saying that he hates my friends and jokingly calls me mean but i don know if he likes me or if hes just calling me mean. I mean well he calls me mean and i call him stupid so..
ive a guy friend he calls me nearly everyday ... or texts me ... mind u he would rather call and talk ... he said i may not be hes lover but he loves me dearly ... he gets upset and jealous when i go on a date and hes got a gf now ... im cool with it ... he doesnt talk about her much we have shared some lovely days out and times together i was in love with him once ...now hes just my bestie even thou we talk nearly everyday we dont meet up ... hes kind and worries about me even a lovely teddy and card on valentines day im confused ? whats he want ?
My guy best friend and my boyfriend HATE each other. Like really bad! I've known them both since we were all in 7th grade together (currently in 11th) they both mean everything to me!! And I really don't want to have to choose between them. My boyfriends says my guy best friend flirts with me too much and is is always talking mess on him calling him names and stuff. My best friend is constantly tellin me he doesn't want to see me with him but is willing to wait. I like them both. WHAT SHOULD I DO?? I would rather not have to choose but they both say I have too.. PLEASE ANSWER WITH SOME HELP!?!?!?!