(This one originally ran last January and got a ton of good feedback. It's also the kind of list that bears repeating from time to time, so here you go.)
"There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day:
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
Most of these won't surprise you. Some might. Consider it a refresher.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He asks your friends questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that shit, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
He asks you out. A no-brainer, yes, but you would be surprised how many times I've gotten the question, "This guy asked me out. Is he into me?"
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
"There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day:
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
Most of these won't surprise you. Some might. Consider it a refresher.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He asks your friends questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that shit, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
He asks you out. A no-brainer, yes, but you would be surprised how many times I've gotten the question, "This guy asked me out. Is he into me?"
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
How many of these things do you think a guy will do just to hookup? I know it's not an exact science, but are there any clues for knowing if he just wants in your pants and is just willing to go through the motions to get there?
Yeah.... I had a guy show most of these "signs" while spending every evening together for the better part of six months (we "weren't dating" and there was no sex). At no point did I pressure him for anything. Prior to our first convo about "us" I mentioned I would like to see him more, and on a more exclusive level. He said he knew, but said he'd had a bad history as a boyfriend, didn't want to hurt me. I didn't press it.
He told me the 2-3 nights we hung out were "a lot" and that he wasn't attracted to me and I should try and find someone else to spend all that time with. I told him that was fine and stopped initiating all contact. A week after that convo? He started inviting me to do stuff and before I knew it, we were seeing each other every night. If he wasn't crashing on my couch, I'd fall asleep on his. He was texting me all the time. Random stuff about nothing. "I saw/heard something funny", pics of innocuous nothings. I was getting the constant stream of "you're special", "I like you a lot, please don't ever think I don't", "I'd rather spend time with you than anyone else", "I feel like I can tell you anything" "Sing to me"... I'd catch him staring at me all the time. He'd look to me for reactions when he'd say something funny or clever. He'd play with my elbow when he'd sit next to me at an empty table for six or put his hand on my leg, very smooth. He sought my opinion, was genuinely impressed with my knowledge. He initiated a handful of make-out sessions (all PG-13), which I stopped about two months in when he told me he didn't want to be exclusive "but we can still kiss and make out and stuff". I took care of him when he got sick. He would suggest movies to watch together (he usually picked rom-coms). He was jealous of convos I'd have with other men, randomly proclaim that all my men friends were gay and/or mysogynists.
After months of that, I told him I couldn't hang out all the time anymore since nothing was going to happen ("How many times are we gonna talk about this?" he asked "Well, this was my first time bringing it up, compared to the three times you did"), and I needed to not feel guilty when I went out with someone else (I'd never stopped turning down invites for dinner/coffee with other guys. I didn't flaunt it). When he continued the flirty banter and I reciprocated lightly, he said it made him feel "awkward" when I joked that way, given my feelings for him, he said. "Oh, you mean with the same joke you used yesterday?" I told him I couldn't do any of it anymore and stopped contacting him, full stop. He continued to contact me in some way every week for two months. The "attempts" were usually BS FB posts to my and others' posts. When I'd had enough of that, I defriended him from FB. The day after I defriended him, he sent a BS words with friends request. I declined it. Been a week, haven't heard from him since. Don't expect to, kinda hope he doesn't.
Honestly, other than the making out stuff early on, there was nothing I did that I would not (or have not) done for any other friend. But it seemed obvious to me that I, the one with the 'feelings', was more capable of being "just friends" than the one who once told me he was "emotionally vacant". I swear, if it looks/walks/quacks like a duck, it's a duck. But it seems this duck was calling himself a horse.
A guy friend told me, "I don't know about this one... If he was playing you, he did a good job of it. Cause even I'm not so sure!!" (and this guy friend? TOTAL player!!)
It sounds like he is manipulative, but you are too smart and strong-willed to fall for his nonsense. Or maybe he's just VERY confused and too immature to figure out his own feelings. Either way, good for you for cutting off contact. I imagine it would be nice to feel a sense of "closure"--I've been through something similar before--but I doubt you'll figure this one out for at least the next decade! Don't waste your time dwelling on it; instead, use the lessons the experience taught you to better prepare yourself for the next adventure. :) And thank you for the story, it really made me wonder!
Wow... that was really long. Sorry. I'm still living that dream. Trying to figure him out. I don't think I ever will.
Guys can be SO weird! I have this guy that I'm trying too figure out too. Our situation was messed up from the beginning as I have a bf and then my best friend pegged him and basically attacked him and made out with him. Then, I met up with him a few times and we made out, he spent the night at my place (no sex) and then we spend NYE together. I've since seen him twice, both in casual bar situations. The last time he texted me around 11pm and said let's just chill and hang out. I don't hear from him during the week, only on weekends. He's really sweet and cuddly (hold me all through the night and says he wants to squeeze me "to death") and I defintely get the sense that he likes me but I could be wrong. I think he thinks my bf situation is shady for sure and his relationship was a bad one where they broke up after living together. One of my friends asked him why he's not dating me and he apparently said he doesn't know what he wants cause he got out of a long one recently. We have a connection and he's the first guy in a LONG time that's sparked my interest. Should I continue to "hang out" and see where things go or just let it be since he doesn't know what he wants...???
Don't waste your time with that one. If there really is a connection there, he'll come after you.
Also, do you really want to deal with the baggage of his very recent, bad relationship and breakup?
Are you still with your bf? If you're considering this other guy, get rid of the bf you're with. Then hang out with the other guy you seem interested in. If he;s truly not ready, there's nothing wrong with being friends. Right now, he's feeling iffy which is normal when one gets out of a longterm relationship. They need to get used to not having someone else and that can take time. But having cool people to hang out with is never a bad thing. But it's never a good idea to start gaining feelings for someone else if you're currently with someone else. THat's all sorts of issues right there.
Take some time out, think about what you want. If you really wanna see if it's possible for something with this new guy, who seems to really make you interested, then do the right thing and spare the drama. It's always possible that nothing could happen with this new guy right away and sure, you may be alone, but it's better in the long run than staying with someone you may not be happy with.
If you do go after the new guy in your own way, it's best to figure out what's up. He could be using you for some playtime (and shame on you for making out with the guy when you have a bf, that's not cool honestly) but some guys can run on different time schedules, hence why he seems to contact you on weekends. He could just be trying to take it slow.
These all seem like common sense. I want to know how you know when a guy is in LOVE with you before he may say it!
I think this is a great list. Relationships are tricky because you both have so much at risk, so much to lose or so much to gain. When you are feeling unsure of yourself and trying to get your footing, it helps to have some guidelines to go by. These guidelines can help you figure out if that guy you're so crazy about really is feeling the same way you are. There's no absolute guarantee, of course, but for the most part I think this list is very accurate and very helpful for those who are wondering where they stand.
The guy I wrote about? Sent me a text on VALENTINE'S DAY!!! WTH?!?! Mid-afternoon. I responded "HVD to you too", then nothing more. JHC, really?!
Hmm.. this is confusing. I have a couple of guy friends who are just really, and I mean REALLY nice. They don't really say no - and if any of their lady friends ask them to do anything for them, they just drop whatever they're doing.
So yeah, sometimes, if I see the ones up there, I don't really think it's a sign a guy likes me, because I almost always think that maybe the guy is just really nice... right?
ok i know it has all the signs and stuff but im still confused about this guy!!! like half of the signs apply here. he used to REALLY like me and he told me he didnt anymore. a lot of my friends think he still does.even my mom. and some of my guy friends say that guys tell girls they dont like them anymore just so theyre friends dont make fun of them anymore... im so confused! does he like me or not...? i dont know!!!!!!!!! help!!!!!!(:
Hi,
I have been seeing a guy for a few days ever since he found out I no longer have a bf but I have known him for a whole school semster. He has most of the signs including smiling, touching, trying to be in my classes, and he has even said he really likes me. I just came out of a two year relationship but I know he is definitely into me. The problem is he never initiates the calls or texts ever since I started seeing him more. I havent slept with him but we have officially kissed at this last date which he came to see me at my house hours after he had just returned from a trip to Vegas. The way he put it is, "we are not official but we will take steps that will lead us there". He said this way I have enough time and space to make sure I'm over my ex because he doesnt want to be a rebound, and this way we can trust that we are not sleeping around with others. Is it bad that I am texting him first and that he doesnt initally text or call me? I'm confused about how much he actually likes me.
So I'm trying to figure this guy out! We have worked together for 4 months. We work so many hours that we've ended up knowing each other pretty well. We started hanging out outside the office and he would buy my dinner or drinks. After a few weeks I ended up staying with him one night! Nothing happened that time but I often stayed at his house. After a few weeks we ended up having sex. He became even more flirty after that and invited me over all the time! We hooked up a few other times and had hung out with each others friends and he would hold my hand and kiss me randomly. He started to become less interested in me after about a month so I asked him how he felt. I was getting mixed signals at this point. He said he enjoyed my company but he wasn't interested in me in a romantic sense. I of course was heart broken and I still have to work with him every day. We even went to dinner and then for ice cream randomly the other day and he payed. Why would he act this way if he never liked me?
Wow that would been a hard slap after hearing him say that! Not to mention having to see him at work. Well, he likes your company, he likes being with you and it sounds like your his mate but with a bonus ability. If you want a relationship then things have got to change.
Id say he lost interest in you after a month because maybe you were too readily available? Maybe smothering him or showing you are too keen. Or maybe someone at work said something. It might have been enuff to scare him off but he still likes you so thats a good thing.
So, what to do now? Be yourself with him, say your hellos and goodbyes at work theres no need to be nasty but next time he invites you over you say your too busy. Next time he offers to pay you say no i got mine thanks. Its these small rejections and also showing that you are an independant woman that will attract his attention and hopefully he might take you more seriously and he will see that you dont rely on him to get by. If he doesnt then he isnt worth it. He will pick up on your behaviour and if he asks you only simply need to say that 'everythings fine' with a smile you cant go wrong. Dont be afraid of losing him it doesnt sound like he wants to let you go in a hurry.
Ok so I know this is like 7 months later but I think your advice was completely off base. What she described was a guy who thought she would be fun in bed and after about a month she either got too clingy or he got bored. Every woman should know: just cause a guy seems to be into you, doesn't mean they are actually into you. They would like to have sex with you; sex is the first thing on their mind. They are men after all. It's time for women to take charge of their lives and realize if you want something, you need to be up front and clear about that. You dont want to be a booty call? Tell them so up front and then don't be a booty call. You want something long term, tell them so, before you do anything. Most of the heart ache and confusion I see on here is because no one has the guts to just speak up and be honest. So girls, put on you big girl panties and learn to become women.
I think it's safe to say I overestimated the depth and potential of this "relationship" I've been trying to establish with this guy. I can admit that... but he is confusing. We met at a party, he just walked up to me and started talking to me, gave me his number. I didn't take it too seriously but I was massively attracted to him. We talked, texted.. got through the basics and hit it off pretty well. We kept it casual, as he is kinda reserved and I the same, but subtly and carefully he would flirt and tell me how attractive I am and of course I would reciprocate. The first time we actually spent alone he was really awkward and shy, he gazed at me a lot and we just talked and talked.. by the end of the night upon his initiation we had our first kiss. It was magic. Now at this point, I'm not naive, I don't expect wedding bells but I am a woman and it touched me. I don't just kiss anyone and enjoy it. I wasn't in love or anything but I felt a connection. Sue me! Still, we don't discuss a relationship between us, we talk like we've known each other for years but there is still a depth we don't reach. He lives about an hour or two away from me, so our time together is limited. Our second date rolls around, really late at night we sat by a quiet lake and kissed.. we made out, we whispered, we held hands and just bliss. The passion intoxicated me and I made the mistake of infatuated word vomit. The situation was getting heated quickly and I asked.. where we were headed, are we friends with benefits? It took him aback and I quickly dismissed it. To which he answered yes though. I'm a serious relationship girl, all or nothing and I guess I haven't learned the finesse to casual dating, but I still tried to keep it light. The night ended well but since then.. I haven't had a decent stream of conversation with him.. he hasn't come around, doesn't seem as interested. I understand I may have scared him, he tells me I make him nervous but what I don't understand is how much potential can radiate between us just to be dropped, I feel like the value he saw in me diminished and it sucks. I don't bug him, don't initiate contact, and try not to think of him too much. I don't want to make myself believe something is there when it isn't. I play it cool.. but it doesn't change how I feel. I felt like he fit so much of what I am looking for. I have so many prospectives, guys that I may date here and there.. but I'm not really into it. And the one guy I am into is so far from me. Such is life....
i have a pretty confusing situation also. i lived in this one town for three years and met this guy. me and him were just good friends ( as far as i knew) and then one day, i had to move towns. now i get texts from him all the time and we text almost 24/7 but i dont see him very often because of me moving. and when i do have the oppurtunity to see him he just kinda makes up reasons why he cant hang and he gets really nervous sounding (even tho i did persuade him to go see a movie with me) :). he talks to me about everything and he skypes me all the time, but i dont know wether or not hes actually interested or not. its kinda bugging me in a way, cus i kinda liked him before i moved and i want to know if he felt the same! lol
So I met this guy off the internet we had a really good connection...we had awesome sex and when it was time for him to leave he said" so doesthis mean that your my gf?" & I say idk as I shrug then I ask him " r u askin?" Then he says "will you b my gf?" & I said yes and we were good for a few days. But now I havn't heard from him in over a day??? o txt or calls? Should I be worried???
Yeh but guys can do all the above things but still be playing games. Or the minute their ex comes back on the scene they'll ignore like you dont exist.
Just because a guys pays you attention from the above category doesn't entirely mean their into you. They could show many signs of being into but deep down they could be shallow. I'd say dont get sucked in just yet!
So this guy hes my bestest guy friend ever but he already has a girlfriend and he hugs me but not her he talks to me more than her ad evry one says they think he likes me even his girlfriend does and I like him and I have bo clue what to do we talk a lot and he goes to my locker sometimes and hangs around even though his is on the other side and also we got in trouble cuz he hugged me but only my cloesest friends know that I like him uh dont know what to do
So me and a guy have been hookin up regularly a couple times a week for the past month or so. At first it was just sex, but then I started helping him in some classes and we run in the same circle of friends so we are always around each other. A week ago he said he couldn't have sex anymore because it was weird, he had grown to like me and care about me as a friend. Which I understand and was cool with I really would much rather have an honest friend who cares rather then a fuck buddy, but 3 days later I see him again he tells me he missed me, and we had a cute movie seen bubble fight in the kitchen which lead to makingout and then eventually...sex. We have slept in the same bed, without anything happening but the other night he actually pulled me closed and cuddeled with me, playing with my hair, kissing my neck, spooning...ect (but no sex) we go out together and talk about anything/everything, we've gotton drunk together, cried infront of each other, you name it. He told me before he didn't want to date and at first I didn't ither but I've fallen for him and I can't figure him out now. Did he just really miss the sex? But if then why would he stay over as a friend and proced to cuddle, and do some other things (like skinny dip in a public pool) when we had never done it before. He has called me from his work (as an officer) just to check to see if I'm ok cause I was having a bad day. I'm nervous to tell him I like him because I don't want to loose him as a friend, and I'm terrified of making things akward, specialy when we are in the same circle of friends (who all know what we've been doing btw). I know he talks to other girls and sometime will bring them up, to which I normaly just smile and shrug, but I also saw a message the same night we cuddeled in bed where some girl was sending him pics when we were together all day. Am I just his fall back even though we spend at least 5 hours a day together? (more on weekends) I've been very close to telling him but chicken out everytime cause I really don't want to loose him as a friend.
touching your thigh and back... he wants something and I'm sure it's more than a kiss. Play hard to get no matter what you want as well. If a guy feels there is no challange then they put you in the "non-GF" pile. If your easy to get then they think your like that with every guy... It's how it is. Men are complicated!!! I don't care what people say, they are! If he really wanted to kiss you he would ask for lean in as to kiss you and make it obvious..... Touching the thigh (inner even bigger sign!) is a sure sign he wants to mess around, not just get a good night kiss. Go with your gut- I'm sure you already knew that deep down... Your first gut feeling is probably right.
I got a Q. What does it mean if it was 1st time we finally met up to get to know each other and closer to the end of the night he slowly trying to touch the side of my thigh and then it moved to gentle touching my back while we are sitting next to each other. (not constantly just time at a time) Please Help.
My crush and I have been close friends for as long as i can remember but from above he's done 9 of the signs but whenever i ask him " Do you like like me" He says no. I don't know if he's telling the truth or a really good lier i confesed to him that i like him. He didn't freak out or anything he just stood there and smiled i asked him if he liked me back but then again he said no. So i'm confused
Well i have dated this guy like 3 times and im still madly in love with him hes been my best friend since 2nd grade i sent him something yesterday telling him i loved him he never texted me back and i havent heard from him today about anything . I thought he was giving me signs he liked me cuz i was upset and he said os it my fault im sry if i did it and i said no theres millions of things like at and he grabed me from behind and only huged my other friends from the sides when he was picking on us and he just does cute things whay should i do?
This is complicated, I've been talking casually with this Guy for 2mo. Before we actually hooked up one day , he initiated the calling and texting and invite. Even after the sexual encounter he continue to call and text, I don't text or call unless he does it first. Now this is the thing he separated has a kid and one on the way and works two jobs., so when I found out I kinda slowed down responding to his texting and now he'll text every other few days. I do like him and other folks can see that he likes me too, at his job he makes it a point too get my attention, so my questions are, Why is he being distant? Why does he ask what am l doing tonigt? Does he like me, but his situation is preventing him to pursue it? Or is he unsure of my intents? The divorce papers are filed he showed me. Guys response only please.
ok so theres this boy that i have known for a couple of years.not real well but he lives down the road from me and a couple of years ago when we were on the bus he jokingly asked me out to pick on me and make fun of me.i actally have a really big crush on him but not to his knowledge.i was just wondering if he made the joke because he likes me or if it was just to get attenchion and make people laugh at me because thats not how he really acted when it was just me and him alone he was actally nice when his friends werent around.i also was wondering why he came up with the joke i mean it was out of no where so he must have been thinking of me and him right?
Well, Cary, it seems like you opened up a pandoras box of questions!!
Oooooh....well there is this Guy I like ALOT.He hugs me everyday and called me his girl once and then called me baby. Now now he does know I like him, I think. But he sits by me on the bus and always says "hey sexy" and I always think he's playing. Then just the other day he told me he would take care of me.. nd that day I was mad at him so I didn't talk to him and after a while I was over it and he's just so cute I looked him up and down and he caught me and he said since I'm mad at him I can't do that. F also put his had on my thigh... what do you think? And thats not even everything!
Where the "F" is thats supposed to be "He"
is anyone going to answer my question...i'm sorry i dont know how this thing works.
is anyone going to answer my question...i'm sorry i dont know how this thing works.
No.
Ok, so this guy I know, me and him were alone in this haunted house, we both work there. Anyway, you know how you go pssst when you try to get someone's attention well I did it backwards, so it tsssp and he was a clown which was in the basement, and there were stairs, and I was on top of the stairs and he was in the basement, and we kept going back and forth saying tssp. He came up and we were still doing this and then I say, "This is fun!" And he's like, "So is making out!". Then this guy walks in his name is Dalton but we call him Opee and the guy that said so is making out he was like, " You interrupted something here!". Dalton just looked at me and I shook my head, and then Dalton was like,"Sorry.". And he ran down the stairs. Anyway I was wondering if this means he likes me.
Oh and he randomly comes up and hugs me but he does that to others girls too but me the most.
So, over the summer I had met someone over the summer. He was sweet, kind, but lived in California, across the country. So we have agreed to be good friends. We skype all of the time, talk, joke, all of that normal stuff... he even told me he would date me if i lived closer. It's just latley i feel annoying. I try and ask questions and he responds with one word. OR he wont respond at all and I'll say, "I guess I'll go." and his response is "K, bye." Maybe I'm just over reacting or something... but honestly i dont know.
I am a cashier and people come through my line all the time, I talk a lot and then one night this guy comes through my line and we start talking about cooking and he shares enough about himself for me to guess he is single and in need of a lady that will be there for him. I tell him he just needs to find a good woman who will cook and clean, i wasnt in anyway talking about myself or anything, i was joking. He then asks me if i want his number, i take it cuz he is good looking. i text him after work and we talk, he asked me to come over so we could talk better. I go to his place and we talk, he tells me that i shouldnt except a relationship but just friends. thats fine with me, even though this guy is amazing! then after 2 weeks of know this guy he asked me what i would say if he aske me to date him, and talks about how it would be if we were together. I am confused as hell. Does he now want a relationship, or what? Please help. for now i am playin it cool and seeing what he does, but some help would be great
Okay so if me and my boyfriend (ex now) broke up a few weeks ago. He saya he still wants me back so I tell him that maybe he should try harder to prove that to me. Because the last time we dated which was before summer this year, he cheated on me with his ex girlfriend, bus as he has been my best friend since fourth grade i couldn't stay mad at him for long. We started dating this year and I was extra careful to watch how he acted with other girls. After about two weeks he started to get what he says is "friendly" with like eight other girls, I got suspicious so i broke it off and told him to get his stuff straight. Then he told me he still wants me. Instead of listening to me and trying harder, he doesn't try at all. Until now that is AFTER i have a different boyfriend. He finally decided to try after he though i had given up even though i haven't...yet. He put his arms around me and held both my hands. Does it means he likes me or is he just trying to get me to break up with the guy i'm dating now?
There is this guy named Luis and he is my crush...he has a girlfriend but she changed schools. He sometimes talks to me, but when he does he touches my arm... And makes eye contact with me when we talk.. What does this mean?
Ummm eye contact is a normal human thing during conversations. There is no way that means he likes you.
I feel confused by a guy that I hope just likes me in that platonic sort of way. He has told me several times I am good looking/attractive-at least 5 times in the last 6 weeks have we had that conversation. He compliments the hell out of me to the extent I blush/feel embarrassed. I caught him scanning my body from head to toe and back up to my head the other day when he thought I wasn't looking. But it's not just about appearance. He tells me how much fun I am to be around, and that he is glad I am involved in the same things he is. When he looks at me, his face softens and his eyes water. Not sure what that means either. We get along effortlessly. In other words, being around him doesn't feel like work. We have made plans to go on a short day trip together. But after thinking it over, I wonder if he perceives my invitation and his acceptance of said invite as a date? That would be not so good. Maybe we can just be friends? How do I handle this, especially because it is complicated by my own attraction to him. We seem to be going from the attraction phase into the relationship building stage. Do I explore this or do I nip it in the bud?
I'm at a French high school, which only goes up to 15 yrs old, so everybody is relatively immature but there's one boy who I like because he is more grown up than the others and he does everything perfectly - it is possible that he is interested in me.
Whereas, as this is high scool, everyone has their "group" and my group is not his group.
He doesn't get on especially well with any of my friends and vice versa...
Do you think that a popularity difference should stop two people who seem to like eachother from getting together, or should I wait until people are more understanding and not everything is based on looks and cliques? Or is this impossible?
Girl, thats probly his way of saying he loves you. But the question is, is he IN LOVE with you. There is a difference.
I dated a guy for 6 months. He told me he loved me & cared about me–& showed it as well. Two months ago he told me I was beautiful, intelligent, & perfect for him but something was “missing” & we split. He says he is scared because he was hurt badly by an ex-wife who cheated on him & hasn’t had a relationship for years. But he’s been divorced for 15 years!
We remained Facebook friends. Lately, his ambivalent self is on my FB page daily, where he “likes” & comments on my posts, sometimes multiple times a day. Two weekends I went to a masquerade party/wedding reception, hosted by some of our mutual friends & posted some pics. I was wearing a sexy little red dress. He commented on the album with a single word: “Ouch.”
He also keeps finding little reasons to stay in contact with me. It’s confusing and feels like mixed messages. I know for he’s not seeing anyone else. Why does someone dump you & then behave like this?
ok i met this guy he came up to me we chatted swapped numbers he called first... we went to a friends engagment party really hit of kissed went for a run in his car and had lunch out. i never responded to all his calls texts as was busy at the time ..seemed like he backed off then i text call him more he seems less interested than before but still contacting each other odd call ect then i hang out at his some weekends few drinks no slept together cuddled no sex though. then i had major family problem he was aware of it and that i was bit messed in head we stayed on friendly terms nothing more... thennnn contact kind of stopped i asked if we were still friends he says yes just that he bogged under with work and family crisis of his own.... no contact at all for 4 weeks then a call ..we hangout at his he opens up about some of his problems we laughed chatted and drank kissed cuddled he said he "liked me but had been avoiding me because he thought he made me feel bad last time he had seen me (which he did) he wasnt chatty i thought he didnt want my company and left! he wanted me to look in his eyes which i did later told me that he wanted me to do that because he liked me .... i could have slept with him this night but i chose not too even though im crazy for this guy!! anyway i stayed over we cuddled ...woke up with huge hangovers but still cuddling had breakfast together and some awkward (nervousness on my behalf) chat .... i left he texted me telling me he felt awfull with hangover .. i said call later when you feel better ... he did i suggesting chilling together that night no drink just movie or so he was up for it then later text to say he just wanted early night.... i text him on monday saying hope your feeling better blah blah ... blunt answer bk i'll be fine. thanks. x nothing since 4 days passed no mail text call etc... dont know if he likes me or not but i dont want to call him .. as i still remember that the next morning he kinda emplied he cant remember much of what was said night before . I like him want to call him or pop round and see him for coffee but feel best not better leave him .. very confused by his mioxed signals ive known him for 5 months
I'm just wondering if you guys thinks this guy is into me. . . he works in our local mart and I see him everyday practically, I often would choose to go to his register and he would sometime say things such as "missing me already?" , he told me about his college plans, after asking me what I study, he also told me all about his new car, how expensive it is and the engine size.. I dont know how to approach him and iniate I like him. I often see him out the corner of my eye staring and he always makes sure to say hello and will always ask about my work etc etc... Please give me advice on i.e. if he likes me or how I could make a move ? ! ? ! ?
What if he WAS doing all of these things? We're adults, okay, so there is no school. We haven't gotten to the point of meeting the families yet. Let me just say this, we've been dating less than 2 weeks. All was going fine until last night. Nearly everything on your list, he was doing, until last night. We had dinner and all was going well, and then it just stopped. He was ignoring my texts and phone calls, suddenly he isn't feeling well. We were about to get busy and all of a sudden he was too tired. It seemed like we were having a great evening, then it all switched within just a few minutes. Please tell me WTH that means?!! I am so freaking confused.
i like this guy a lot, lets say his name is m. but his best friend j told me he liked me, but i dont like him back. the only person who knows i like m is my best friend. ive known m since kindergarden and we've been really close ever since, we've been in the same class every year up until grade 4, and we are finally in the same class this year. we always give each other presents on holidays, and our families are pretty close. we've hugged once, and he's friends with my older brother. m and j come and talk to me and my best friend, but i think its because j wants to. j texts me everyday, and its kinda fun talking to him, but he did something today that made me mad. but anyways, j told me that m considers me as a best friend. he also told me 2 weeks ago that he was asking him who he liked, but m thought he asked if he liked me and he said no, and even if i did i wouldnt ask her out because it would ruin the great friendship we have. he knows A LOT about me... he is the guy that knows the most about me. i cant tell him that i like him because i dont want our friendship to be awkward, but even tho j told me he liked me, we are totally ok with each other and its not awkward at all. but i dont have the guts to tell him but im not sure if he likes me or not... but most likely not :( . he always tell jokes to each other and we have a good time with each other. ive been to his house like 3 times and he has been to my house too, but that was when we were younger. he invited my and my brother to his house in the summer, but we werent able to make it. he is really nice to me, and he barely teases me or anything. he promised me that he would tell me if he liked someone and swore that he didnt like anyone.and we tell each other a lot even tho he never answers his phone. my WHOLE family knows about him (even the people who dont live with me) and they think he is a really good guy, and i agree. any advice...? please answer :)
okay well, theres this guy that i would hangout with everytimei went to my coysins. weve known each other for 7 years... last night we played man hunt in the dark and he was it
everytime he wasit he tryed to get me i asked him why and he said i was the only compition here.. anyway later on i hid in the woods and he followed me but i didnt know so i ran he cought up to me kinda like grabed me and we hugged but i let go after like 30 secs
and i clmbed a tree and he just watch but then walked away. dose he or does he not like me>?
ran into a old boyfriend at a pizza palce he told me i look great and gave me big hug,and when our eyes made contact we both could not stop smiling at eachother, what does this mean?
Okay this might be weird but its my story, well my brother plays online and only recently I found out they were my age. But only one of the lads stood out to me and I live in Britan and he lives in Australia, now I really like him and we've been talking on skype and we've been on camera. And we have eachother on facebook, but he shows like 6 of those things you said and I really want him to like me and I really want to tell him but I feel like if I do we might lose a friendship. And I don't know if he just likes me as a friend but I want to be more than friends with him and I really dont know what to say to him, Please help me :( xxx
I feel like this about a guy especially after we kissed a couple of weeks ago. How do you know there into you? I'm in an open relationship.. Do you think that would put him off telling me how he really feels?
Hi! I'm at work at the moment and feeling a bit stupid for doing this but (as all stories seem to begin with on this page!) there's this guy I know who I get along well with! Basically he's my brother's friend and I used to fancy him when I was 11 or something and he was probably 16! Nothing happened because I was way to young back then and we lost touch! I met him recently through a friend who he works with. And we all started going for drinks, the 3 of us, but one night while my friend was having some issues with his boyfriend, he told me all about his story- how his ex got pregnant and tried to use the baby to keep him from leaving and how now he's a dad of a 4-year old kid! anyway, we kept seeing each other on a regular basis. Drinks in a bar or wine at his place but never touched. he wouldn't even kiss me or anything! i know he asked about me to my friend- the usual "what is she up to?" "What kind of thing is she looking for?", etc. But he never mentioned anything to me. we just kept on seeing each other and hanging out and enjoying each others' company...until last night! Basically we went for drinks with his colleagues and then went for a quick dinner with them and then he dropped them home and we headed to his place for some wine (i suggested it!). Also, i finally started reading 50 shades of grey and that book has been giving me so many kinky ideas recently- and weirdly that involved him! I also have to say that last night I wasn't in my "normal" work clothes. Had to put on a dress and seems that he liked it because I caught him looking at me quite intensely throughout the night! and I have to admit that i was doing that too- having some flashes in my head, mostly influenced by the book I’m reading...!
Anyway, when we were at his, he was asking me about my thoughts on one of his colleagues whom we both know is trying to get with me…and at some point he turns around and asks me about what I think about him, and BHAM! Next thing I know, we’re on his couch having sex! He admitted that he has been thinking about it for some time and that he has felt the sexual tension between us for some time as well but didn’t act on it but that he hadnt been able to do that last night..so now im a bit lost and confused! I sent him a text last night when I got home and told him “I’m no expert in matters of sex, but tonight was very very good! Good night! Xxx”. Well he hasn’t replied and I havent heard from him yet but I just wanted to know about your views on this whole story, because I have to admit that im a bit lost and confused right now!
He wanted SEX it's a no brainer.
I met this guy on Easter.He wanted to talk to me for a long time.But never had the balls to do it.Than,finally he did.He intuduced hisself.Told me he sees me all the time,has wanted to talk to me for awhile.I didn't know who he evan was or really didn't care.I really wasn't intrested.Than my kids told me,I need to give him a chance.He's a great guy.My lids don't like anyone,that I' ve dated.There father passed away.So this was hudge.So I started feeling for him.He's great guy.My hang up is 7 yrs ago his wife was in an accident.It messed her up mentally.He couldn't take it.He moved out 2 yrs ago.Just sold his house.He's going tgrew a divorce.There is talk about him buying me a promise ring for Christmas.I ? if he's really ready for a relationship.He works 12 hr days 6 days a week.I understand he's barring hisself in his work cuz the divorce.He has so many signs that he really is into me.But the one thing I feel,he don't text or call me alot.However if he sees me he goes out of his way to talk to me.He always is so happy,to see me.Smiles so sweet.I just get bugged he's not making more of an effort.But I dont pressure him,or bug him.I dont believe n chasing a man.Can u please give me some advice?Thank u!!!!!!
One time I came out of this class I was walking behind this dude that's is in my class and that's where I met this guy friend since then when I get out of that class he is standing waiting for his friend but when I walk he be staring at me in a wired way kinda smiling and that's all the time I walk out of that class and also when I walk out of breakfast he states at me like if he never Seen me today I was walking to my locker and I stop to leave something and he passes by and grabs my ass but days before I bump to him and his friend and he try to touch my but but he couldn't because o had my phone on my back pocket but I want to now what does this mean and I still don't get why he grab my butt but he haven't talk to me he only stares at me ????
Hi. I am in a complicated situation...I live in a university residence, 300km away from home - where I have a boyfriend.
In here I have met this guy...We've know each other for about a year but lately we've been talking more. I asks me to watch series and movies with him - he wants to watch his favorite movie with me! He comes into my room and we keep talking until late in the night and he only leaves because I need to awake early for work. He touches me while speaking and tickles me. He talks to me about everything (and then say "I can't believe I'm teling this to women!") and asks me about my family...He remembers waht I tell him! The most ackward is when I say my favorite something is this and he looks and says "mine too" or we look at and old image and remember about the exact same thing...
When he has a bad day at work he comes to me to talk about it and even confessed how it felt like crying about something...
Just yesterday he said I was sitting to far away and asked me to come nearer so he wouldn't have to speak so loud...
But then again, if he's sitting in my bed and I sit near him he get's up and goes sitting in the chair...
I know there is a great chance I'm falling in love with him, we have so much in common and he's so respectful...But I'm not sure how to interpret his signs... I feel that he really opens up to me and trust me but I just can't tell if there's something more...
Ok he does like 7 things of this list but after 2 years of been in an "open relationship"="fwb" he hasn't asked me to be his girl...
Hi,
I have an ex colleague whom I have only used to lunch or went out with in a big group. Recently, he gets to learn that i had bake some cookies had requested whether he could have some of them.
From there on, we got to meet up alone which we had never did before as colleagues. Subsequently, we started to go out in few occasions for dinners & drink and started chatting through messages.He has also been quite gentleman and chivalrous when we went out together. He would always text me to check if I have reached home after our meeting.
There’s also times where we chatted for hours via SMS over midnight and I felt that he seems to be interested in knowing about my interest, what I like or dislike. In our messages, he would sometimes mentioned about what we could do in our future meetings. There are few occasions where i caught him looking at me and i turned and looked into his eyes for few secs before i looked away. But most of the time I was the one who initiated the chat (via SMS) while I would usually needs to create some opportunities to make him initiate the meeting. Which he did.
May I know is he interested in me by looking at what I have shared? What can I do to identify more obvious signs that he is interested in me? should I cut down initiating the SMS to him, and see if he would text me? If he don't initiate just it meant he is not interested/ is he shy ? It's confusing me.
However through his eyes contact and some body languages, I do have gut feelings that there’s some chemistry in us and that he is interested in me. There's a few occasions where I caught him stealing glaze at me n once at my boots when I was bending down slightly to leave my seat.
Should I stay patience at this moment and stop texting him and see what happen?
Ive liked this guy for ages and like we get along really good. So i decided to tell him i like him so i got my bestfriend to text him an she told him but he said he didnt like me and i only told him bcuz i thought i stood a chance heres why: when we talk he always looks into my eyes like stares right into them even if ive got my head turned from him, he told me i could trust him, he asked me did i trust him nd i sed yes and i asked him y and he didnt answer me back, he always pokes me nd he squeezes my shoulder but not hard, he plays wiv the bracelets i wear, plays wiv my pencil case, always tells me my hand writing is really nice, one time he pokes me in the arm wiv a ruler and i goes "ummm ow" nd he sed sorry nd rubbed my arm if it wuz ny1 else he wudve laffed, we talk about rly random tings 2gether, he tells me abou his rugby team, one day i cme in2 class lukin upset and he goes whats rong??? R u ok??? What happened??? I didn rly answer em so wen i left class he asked my friend wha wuz rong nd she told em nd he defeneded me nd b4 i left he did his best 2 make me smile, as well in class he wont let our desks seperate nd he keeps his feet on my chair md sumtyms pulls me closer wiv his feet deres so much more i cud say bu lyk do u tink he jus sed he doesn lyk me nd didn mean ih r he rly does mean he doesn lyk me plz help im so confused :( x
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I have a question.
i know this guy for 3 to 4 years and he always like, talks to me and always like, happy to talk to me. N to see me he sometimes gets a little shy.
Now for the past month he calling me stuff like babe, baby, and girlfriend but when he says that he smiles gets little shy, and well he keeps acting tough also he shows me what he has like twice he shows me a litter and colne. And he sprayed the colne and trying to smell all good.
So does he like me, or is just doing that just because he is my friend.
Email me what you have to say. Thank you.
hey its hazel here im so so confused about this guy ......ok he says he likes me he kisses me hugs me has sex with me and he whistles at me it feels like we aint dateing or anything he doesnt talk much to me he lives across the road from me ... what does it mean when he does all of that and says he wants to take it slow and hardly ever talks to me im so so confused aye plz help me ....on this plz i do like him but it doesnt feel rite when he doesnt talk to me he says he wants to get to no me aswell ok plz sumone reply back
hey its hazel here im so so confused about this guy ......ok he says he likes me he kisses me hugs me has sex with me and he whistles at me it feels like we aint dateing or anything he doesnt talk much to me he lives across the road from me ... what does it mean when he does all of that and says he wants to take it slow and hardly ever talks to me im so so confused aye plz help me ....on this plz i do like him but it doesnt feel rite when he doesnt talk to me he says he wants to get to no me aswell ok plz sumone reply back
Matthew. I can't keep this to myself. I like you and I really do and I mean it. If you don't like me its okay just tell me. I just want to say this bec as the day passes, I misses you so much. I know, this is funny. But this is what I feel everyday. And I know your so busy and I understand it. But I just want to know if you still interested in me. Even if you say I'm annoying or whatsoever. I'm desperate to know if you do u like me too. That's all. I hope you have a great day. And take care always. :*
This is what I said to him.
> Thanks It's just I am busy all the time and I am going through a lot right now ok? I don't know if I like you anymore than just a friend right now.
Then, this is what he said.
I just want to know if what does he mean "I don't know if I like you anymore than just a friend right now"?
THANK YOU!
Okay, I'm in a really bizarre, awkward position right now. o_o
Alright, so there's this guy that I've liked since October. At first, I basically just observed and admired him from afar. Then, on Valentine's Day, I decided to do something bold. I sent him a flower and anonymous cheesy poem that I wrote. He seemed rather pleased when he got it. A few weeks later, I came forward and told him it was me through a mutual friend. It took him about a week to actually respond to this, but we eventually talked and he said he appreciated it and that he was very flattered. Later on, he DMed me on Twitter saying similar things.
The next time I saw him, he was looking and smiling at me a lot in class. This really freaked me out because I wasn't anticipating him to return the feelings. Ordinarily, I'm very shy and I just kinda suck at being social. So, now Prom is quickly approaching and he continues to look at me a lot in class (I look back, then quickly look away). His mutual friend is telling me that I should ask him, but I don't know if I should. You see, he's really popular and I have a feeling that he'd want to take things to a sexual level really quickly and I'm nowhere near ready for that yet. At the same time though, I feel bad that he may like me and that I'm not responding to him.
There's more but this is just a quick summary. From what I've told you, can somebody please give me some guidance on what to do next? :S