(This is an update of a list I did last January. I've added a few more signs.)
"There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day:
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
His body language gives him away: standing too close, leaning in, shoulders square to you, not turning his back to you.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
You keep bumping into him in random places. "I was just in the neighborhood," he says, or, "I had no idea you ate here." Right.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He copies your actions and voice inflections. It's called mirroring, and we usually aren't aware of it when we do it, which is why it's such a great indicator that someone is into you.
He buddies up to your friends and asks them questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
His pupils dilate when he's talking to you.
He's active on your Facebook or Twitter pages. Lots of "likes," comments, retweets, etc.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that stuff, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
"There's this guy," the question always starts, "and he does this and he said that and sometimes he does this other thing," you continue. Then comes the actual question, one we get at least twice a day, every day:
"Does this mean he likes me?"
Not that it isn't a valid question. Some guys can be hard to read. Not as hard as women, but still a challenge. Problem is, there is no way to know absolutely if a guy likes you, short of him saying so (and even then he might be lying). Every situation is different, every guy is different, and there are always exceptions.
But here's the good news: there are things most guys do when they like a girl that can give them away. If a guy does one of these things, it probably doesn't mean much; if he does 4-5 of them, then there's a good chance he likes you. Not a guarantee, but a good chance. You just have to know what to look for.
He smiles at you. A lot.
He laughs at your jokes, even the crappy ones.
He defends you to others.
He asks questions about you and your life beyond the generic "How you doin'?" or "Good weekend?"
He jokes about dating you.
You catch him staring at you. Your face, that is--if he's staring at your boobs or butt, it could just mean he's perving on you.
He's awkward whenever he talks to you. The first time I talked to my wife, I walked into a parking meter. Luckily for me, she found it adorable.
His body language gives him away: standing too close, leaning in, shoulders square to you, not turning his back to you.
He always uses your name when he talks to you. He knows your name and likes to say it.
He calls you by a nickname/pet name.
He asks you to "hang out" some time. (To a guy, the word date can be like garlic to a vampire, so they'll say "hang out" instead. Whatever you call it, it still means he wants to be around you.)
He calls you on the phone. Most guys hate talking on the phone. If a guy calls you, it means one of three things: you're his best friend, he needs help with his homework, or he has the itchy pants for you.
He acts more respectable and mature when you're around.
He compliments your appearance. "You look nice today" is guyspeak for "I'm attracted to you."
When he cracks a joke, you're the first person he looks at for a reaction.
You keep bumping into him in random places. "I was just in the neighborhood," he says, or, "I had no idea you ate here." Right.
He tries go get into the same classes as you.
He copies your actions and voice inflections. It's called mirroring, and we usually aren't aware of it when we do it, which is why it's such a great indicator that someone is into you.
He buddies up to your friends and asks them questions about you. He knows they will probably report back to you, but he doesn't care.
He touches you, even subtly--a hand on your arm, a pat on your back, a grab of your shoulders. Humans are naturally drawn to things that attract us--we want to look at them, touch them. If you find a guy's hand on you, especially more than once, that's a huge giveaway that he likes you.
His pupils dilate when he's talking to you.
He's active on your Facebook or Twitter pages. Lots of "likes," comments, retweets, etc.
He asks you what you think about certain other guys. He's trying to find out if you like anyone.
He shares an iTunes playlist with you: the 21st century version of making you a mix tape.
He asks your advice about other girls. This one could go either way, but getting your take on relationships could be his crafty way of finding out what you like and don't like. Or maybe he's just trying to make you jealous.
He notices and remembers things about you that most people don't. Your birthday. What you wore on a certain day. Your favorite TV show. When and where you met your best friend. What you had for lunch yesterday. Average Joe won't remember that stuff, even if you tell him. Hot For You remembers all of it (but if he knows stuff about you that you never told him--creeper alert!).
I hope this helps. Feel free to ask the question again. We may or may not refer you to this list.
You just described my ex-bf. Explain to me again why I let him get away? Scared I guess. Damn…
Well, this was a great way to start my morning, cary! The guy I like does almost everything on here.. I did think he liked me, but having a guy's opinion on it sure helps. Thanks!
Related to staring at you is eye contact. When someone likes you there is a lot of eye contact.
I think my favorite telltale sign is the last one: he remembers and notices things about you that most people don't. My boyfriend went from being a friend to being a romantic prospect for this very reason. I had become a pro at hiding my emotions or nervousness etc (my last relationship had taught me to "suckup" difficulties and to not even flinch when things stung), but we'd hang out with our mutual group of friends and somehow he always recognized when I was out of sorts or even when I was trying to keep some sort of happy secret to myself. Even now, I still don't know how he does it, but it makes me smile every time we go out to dinner and he knows exactly how to order for me (and I'm a food snob, so it really amazes me when this happens).
That is the most beautifulest :-) I have ever read.Sweet
What about those that are obssessed with you? Don't they exhibit the same signs???
What if a guy did al this things and then suddenly stopped? Does that means he doesn't likes me anymore? He got scared? All of the above?
Sounds like he may have moved on. Just think about it for a second: what do you do when you have lost interest in something? Do you keep on paying attention to it or just let it not be the main focus everyday?
if hew stooped all of a sudden he might be gauging your reaction to see if you notice if he feels you did and you care he will continue if not he WILL move on.
What everyone always says he never smiles, but when im around him he is always smiling and giggling... he knows i want to kiss him and trust me he gives me plenty of chances to go for it.. can that be a sign of him liking me?
i got an eleven is that really good?
This just describes my Ex.. I really dont know why i let him go... I think am regretting it now... Badly...
WOW I just nevera guest that he actually would like me but thanx
and also if he trys to help you or trys to sit by you at like lunch or anything that means he is trying to get to know you better
Is this actually true? if it is then i am stunned i guess..
i always think that guys would never go for me :L
:)
When its sum1 uve know for awhile its hard to tell tho. Cuz i have loved the same guy for 4 whole years but he is older than me and my bros best friend. He does all of those above to me and knows how i feel why wont he just kiss me already(that is if he likes me) imma skeptic. My parents even say he likes me tho my parents love him 2.
My bros best friend does all of those toward me but he is older. I dont get it ive known 4 years. Could he just rlly care about me, i mean he is partically part of the fam?
Is it a sign if he hug me and put head on my shoulder?
Okay so out of the blue this guy calls me and text me everyday. Does that mean he likes me?
Hi please do answer urgent, I am in College at my ex-spanish Professor did like all of things of the above and still does but right now he is no my spanish Professor, but do this mean he like me? what I am asking if a Professor does all that stuff will be the same? as he do not act the same way with others girls students. So what is your comments he is 30 I am 25.
great advice i found out he likes me
Hmn, I just want to ask a question about my crush...
He once asked me if I ever had a boyfriend.?
Could it mean he likes me.?;>
I'm in grade 8 and this really hot guy ( same grade ) is soooo obviously into me cause he
1. Is extremely cool and smooth but the moment he's with me he can't think of anything to say and is really nervous
2. His friends at lunch time sometimes swarm up to me and asks "would you ever go out with ___( keeping his name secret to respect him ) ______???" And " you two make a really good couple together!!!". And he justs stands in the corner blushing.
So there's this guy I like and he calls be beautiful and tells me I'm super cool but he states in my eyes a lot! And one of my friends asked him why we always made eye contact and he said he couldn't help it my eyes attract him and when very we make we contact I always look away first and I smile and when I look back he has a huge grin on his face! And we were talking last night and some how it got brought up and he said that there is deffinitally a connection and he said he just wants to get to know me first! But then he called me his friend! And now today were texting and he always gets me first but it's like the normal contact! Does he like me?
Oh and he says he thinks I'm attractive or I'm beautiful! And he says he wants me to wear his jersey next game and I said o give it to his crush and he said okay so I'm gonna give it to u then he's changed the subject!
This shy guy always stares right into my eyes for a while, even if we're done talking and then he looks down, or to the left or right. I also catch him staring at me alot, and we just stop and look at eachother and then look away. + He also says hi when i walk past him. He get's really awkward and laughs alot when I come near him.. I really like him, at first sight i was like;
Write a comment... I dated and married men that i know now they never liked me as me and i let go that ones that did like me why i was so blind ,
He likes me :)
Urg I still don't know! I got about 5 of these... But the guy I like is SO hard to understand. I really wish I could read minds :(.... I can't tell if he thinks were just pretty close friends and does this to everyone (he's a very friendly/outgoing person) or if I'm the only one he does it too? Wish I knew!! ://
I got 13 (maybe 14? :P ) Is that a good score? :P
this boy i like is really funny because when someone says,"u guys are perfect for each other," he starts blushing and kicking the guy who says it he gets so angry then looks at me
and then when he does something really stupid and he catched me watching i raise my eyebrows but he brecks into a smile :) sooooo cute
I gotte about 9 of them but still Im not sure cues he sends me deffirent sings these are the signs and u tell me
He teases me makes fun of me calls me by a nickname but not a nice one he brags in front of me and tells me how awesome he is and how he is a player that girls go crazy four him but he tells me that he dose not cheat on them he flirts with other girls in front of me and tells me that he wishes that I was more like those girls and jokes about how ugly I'm and how I'm just like a guy he doesn't help me and he doesn't want any other guy to help or even speak to me only if the guy was not his friend we can idly talk if we are in a group but not by our self because it will get awkward unless we are joking about dating and how we are in love with each other in the other hand he always spend his time with me he can't stand that I'm upset from him he gave me his coat once and lab coat he cares a bout my opinion on him and on girls he never lie to me he begs me to hang out with him he deafens me he open the door four me some times and he always speak to his mother about me but I'm not sure that I'm the only girl he speaks to her about some times he tells me that I'm better then other girls he begs me to move to his group in college he jokes with me in a flirty way he jokes about dating me he calls me at night he always smile at me across the room and winks at me and he doesn't talk about his current girlfriend and when I ask him about it he avoided me so dose he hate me or like me?
I don't give a damn if he likes you or not. He's a Douche. Run away screaming.
Theres a guy in my church and i think that he likes me,,,,he touched my shoulder alot and held my back for a few seconds....i saw him looking at me, and when i looked he turned away.......I want to know if he likes me because im totally into him!
There's this guy at my school I used to like and on the third day of school we got paired up together in a group. It was all guys except me. I had put my head in my hands & the first thing he says is" Wait, is she crying? " Is that also a sign?
PLEASE HELP! There is this guy that i started being friends about five months ago. We got to the point where we were really close. He also would compliment me and tell me things that gave me the feeling he was into me. The problem was it was all by text. We were in summer so we couldnt talk personally. When we went back to school, he started ignoring me completely and so i did too. I had no idea why this happened. But a week ago, he finally came up to me and we talked and talked. He said he was very sorry for not talking andthat he thought i was angry at him. He also said he liked this other girl a lot which broke my heart cause i liked him. But this is the thing, he does all of the signs above, he stares, he smiles, he compliments, everything. Do you think its possible for him to like me and just told me about the other girl to make me jealous? Or am I going crazy?!
What if a guy just texts you a lot? Then loads of those indicators are exempt! We've known each other for years through work events, but suddenly started chatting on Facebook, then he asked if we could text. Now we text every few days for hours at a time. We've both talked of doing something in person, but never actually have done so. Its been nearly 2 months of this. What's THAT about?
So there is this guy that does most of these things but idk if hes lying or being honest. Hes dating someone
I aked him ybr u flirting wit me when u r dating someome? Nd he denyed it"! Wat does tht mean??!!:o
I like this guys but I don't know if he likes me HELP!!!
he likes me! yay he's a bragger too, its adorable but sometimes I get so confused!
I got 6..and my guy friend tries to look cool when other people are around..but also when he takes me home he wıll smile but not look me in the eye. Whenever i give him a hug he is like afraid to touch me. ıt's soo weird because whenever he sees me his face lights up. İ really would like to be more than friends..but he is younger so i don't want to scare him off.
The guy I like has done 12 of these.
He's weird...
He makes fun of me and calls me ugly and short in front of friends, and then is so sweet and playfully blocks me in the hallway and ALWAYS stares at me in class and talks about me a lot to his friends, even though it's not always very nice things, and the other day he said "come here I'll give you an early b-day present," then later he told me it was going to be a smack in the face. Like, whaaat? Then when I ask him if he likes me he says IN A LEGIT SERIOUS VOICE, "EWW I'd rather die!" Ugh
WHAT TO DO
This is great thanks. I like a really hot boy his name is Tyler I think he likes but wasn't sure. Most the things on the list is what Tyler has done. Even today he dropped by my house. He kept calling my name. I thought it was romantic thanks for the tips
wow 15 >
This really helped me because now I know the guy that loves me. But he's a creeper because he knows information about me that I have never even told him.
Hopefully help me, I'm in love with a guy in a while .. but not what I feel like saying.
Thank you!
Hmmm, I got 12. This guy I know never passes up the chance to tell me how nice i look. He also calls me Hun ever time he text me, or is addressing me. He also has a nickname for me... Does that mean he likes me?
He drives me nuts ! We work together - We spend an evening chatting, then, he just doesn´t talk to me the days after. Then he invites me for lunch, after that, he avoids me for 2 weeks. Then he joins a work event, chats the night away, invites me to go to the movies the next sat. Monday ? We´re back to square one. There´s loads of tension when we´re alone in a room and we got off in the last event but none of the awkwardness is attached to that - it started way before. I´m tempted to sit him down and say - What the heck is the deal with this ?
There's a guy in my group of friends that ticks off a lot of these but it's a lot down to when we are both intoxicated (but not every one). Every time we are very flirty and all over each other but neither has made a move yet (which is odd because he's a bit of a lad and is someone too make a move) This confuses me about how he may feel towards me and how I feel towards him. Friends don't really flirt the way we do, but it doesn't really happen when we are sober. I can never understand my own feelings and I would like an outsiders view if anyone can relate or shed light on my situation?
WA, I just find it so cute that you walked into a parking meter! You cheered me right up!
I like this guy but idk if he likes me I got 12 of the things above... He smiles at me, laughs at my jokes, jokes about dating me,I catch him staring at me,he's awkward around me, the body language (close and leaning in), uses my name, uses nicknames (nice and mean),complements me sometimes, when ever he says something or does something funny he always looks at me for a reaction, touches me and pokes me ( pokes me above the hip on the side of my stomach), and he tries to make excuses to get me to go to his class like today was tacky day at my school and he took my bead neckalace and told me to come to his class later to get it. Sometimes he can be a jerk but does he like me and is just being a jerk because his scared or is he really a jerk and has no reason for doing this. He doesn't do this to other girls (that I've seen) he sometimes ask for my opinion but for dumb things like haircuts, does he want my opinion on how to look good for him?
This one guy at my school was staring at me seductively and biting his lips. Then he told me he wanted to have sex with me! Does it mean he likes me?