Want to know how to get noticed by guys? Of course you do; why else would you ask us every single day how to make that happen? No surprise there, given the nature of this site. What is surprising are the things you think you need to do to draw guys to you.

Should I cut my hair really short, you ask? Wear feathers in it? Wear skinny jeans? Get a boob job? Flaunt my cleavage? Wear more makeup? Less makeup? Ignore him? Tease? Flirt? Play hard to get?

Yeah, sure, any of those things might turn a head or two, but I think we're missing the point when we focus on the superficial. Real attraction, the kind that lasts, starts with you--who you are, how you act, what's important to you--not the way you wear your hair or display your boobs. The internal you, the core you--not the external adornments. The cake, not the icing.

Yes, you know this already, but somehow we forget the simple things. That's why I'm about to remind you of a few and help you get back to the basics of attraction.

Will these work on every guy? Of course not. Some people will never be attracted to you no matter what you do. Such is life. But doing these things will get you more attention than a new haircut, I assure you, and will draw a better class of guys than those who talk to your cleavage all night.

Be yourself

It's not rocket science. Just be yourself. Don't try to be something you're not.

There are guys out there for every type of girl, so be yourself and get a guy who fits you. Or fake a personality that isn't you and get a guy who's a terrible match, then watch the relationship fall apart when you get tired of faking it and your man wonders why you suddenly changed.

Know yourself

How can you know what you want in a mate when you don't even know who you are? A lot of self-awareness comes with age, but, in the meantime, get to know the unique individual who is you: what matters to you, what you want in life, what you value.

We all know women who say they have bad taste in men. I think the reason is often that they don't really know who they are, so they either pick guys who are a bad fit or let their guys define them and then resent it later.

Be nice

No matter what you've heard, being a jerk isn't cool. Even Dalton (Patrick Swayze) in Road House knew this. Be nice, he told his fellow bouncers, over and over again (bouncers can be kind of dumb). This goes for romance, too. Be nice. Not just to the guy you like, but to everyone. Not only is it a better way to live, but it makes you more attractive. It's also rare enough these days that people notice it.

Nobody wants to date a mean girl. A hot mean girl can get laid, but the layer probably won't stick around long.

Be confident

You want a guy's attention? Just talk to him. If you like a guy, go up to him and introduce yourself. What have you got to lose? Self-confidence is a turn-on, and sometimes guys need to be thumped on the head to notice what's right in front of us. When your subtle hints of attraction don't work, take the direct approach. We'll always remember the girl who came up and introduced herself to us.

If you don't have confidence, get some. How? By doing things that make you feel good about yourself: hobbies, self-improvement, helping others. Lack of confidence doesn't have to be a lifelong sentence. Find a way to beat it.

Take care of yourself

Everyone interprets this differently, but I'm talking about things like good health (both physical and mental) and balance and self-respect. I'm not going to tell you that working out and reading and meditating will snag a mate, but they will make you a better, more grounded person. And if there's an overall theme to this blog post, that's it: taking care of you is step one.

Not just so you can win a guy. So you can be happy and healthy and enjoy your life. The fact that it will make you more attractive to guys is just gravy.

Smile

"I've never seen a smiling face that was not beautiful," some wise person once said. Believe it. A smile makes you approachable.

I hope you find these helpful. Good luck out there.