Nah. I don't think guys really care all that much about height. It's seems to be more important to women. You rarely see a really tall woman with a really short man. It's like seeing a unicorn or a douchebag not wearing an Ed Hardy t-shirt. Sure, it happens, but it's more common that you see a short woman with a tall guy. 

Most of the short women I know are funny, sexy, feisty, cute, and all that good stuff. That's what really matters to guys. Sure, you could look for guys who are also short, but I really don't think it matters. If he's attracted to you, height isn't really going to be an issue. Look at Snooki from Jersey Shore-- she's like three foot zero and has no trouble meeting guys. Good things come in small packages. Like Girl Scout Cookies and Hobbits. 

5'4" represent! I can attest that tall guys are down with the shorties. I've dated two 6'4", two 6'1" and a 5'7". So don't wish you were a little bit taller - the ballers like you just the way you are. (And for all my tall mamas - a real man with confidence won't be able to resist the way you rule the room. You have crazy powers you may not even realize - use them!)

Kissing successfully is the mastery of LISP: Lips, Inside, Speed and Presence. Study my guidelines below, IGNORE YOUR INSTINCTS, and your lady will be happier than a rabbit with a carrot. 

 

Lips: Make sure they're not chapped or dripping with gloss (though, if anything, caution on the side of well-lubed). No one wants to kiss desert lips.

Inside: The tongue is a powerful tool but must be used properly. It's to be used for soft poking and swirling; it is NOT a strep throat tongue depressor.

Speed: Kissing isn't a race but isn't time for a nap, either. Keep it steady and vary your gears. This will keep things dynamic

Presence: This is the final tie-in. All things mentioned above must be adhered to with a sense of being "in the moment." Be alert ,dude: If she's gagging, pull back ; If she's enjoying something, stick with it.

That should cover it. Now put down that ice cream cone and start LISPing.

It may sting to hear, but I'd be grateful for the honest feedback. (And your lady should be grateful that you haven't skipped the kissing stage altogether...sigh.) Amit's given you some excellent smooching pointers. Now for the fun part...practice makes perfect!

Oh yeah, fishy. Big time.

You're dating for five years and still not his FB friend? That's very odd. Most guys with girlfriends are happy to plaster pics of them all over their FB page, unless they are hiding something. As for the text thing--are his inbox/outbox empty because he never texts, or do you see him texting all the time and they are still empty?

I think you're at the point now where you just have to take him at his word. If he hasn't betrayed you in five years of dating, then you owe him the benefit of the doubt. I always say it's best to trust someone in a relationship until they give you a (solid) reason not to. I agree that his behavior is suspicious, but you have no proof that he's done anything wrong. "Innocent until proven guilty" isn't just a legal motto, but a good practice in everyday life.

If he is cheating on you, he will slip up soon enough and you'll catch him. Until that time--if it ever comes--you can't obsess over something that might or might not be happening. You'll drive yourself nuts.

Maybe I have less faith than Cary, but I wouldn't put up with a guy who wouldn't acknowledge me on FB. (My guy isn't actually on FB, but if he were, you better believe I'd be front and center - especially after FIVE years of dating.) And the hiding his phone thing is for sure suspicious - does he actively hide it from you? I'm not one to advocate snooping, but in this case I agree with some of the commenters that you might take a peek to confirm (or deny) your suspicions.

According to both Einstein and Doctor Who, yes. So who am I to argue?

Do get a lot of questions about needing some space or some self time, and being clingy, so may as well put my thoughts in here. Guys tend to use the word space, more than self time or me time, primarily because we think in more concrete terms. No jokes on the density of the male skull, please! But it means exactly the same thing.

As long as your needs for self time more or less match and you manage to get the timings right, it actually helps a live-in relationship flourish. A good match leads to household peace, more fun in general, and much, much better sex. A bad mismatch leads to accusations of one partner being too cold, the other too clingy, with the break up express coming down the road towards you at a gallop.

Now when it is used as a reason for a break up, that is slightly different. It is usually code for "I am bored, you are getting on my case and she looks far more fun to be with."

Such solid advice. I've found myself of feeling totally rejected when a guy doesn't want to snuggle the second he walks through the door. As much as we're ready for love, we often forget to consider our partner's day and the solitary breather they might need to be a good partner to us. My tactic is to go out with pals, take myself to a movie, slip into a bubble bath or dive into the dishes - any active task that engages me and keeps me from poor-pitiful-me thoughts - when my boy needs some "he time."

No it's not totally weird (though you might be insane for other reasons). Thing is, you've fallen in love with the idea of the person, not the actual person. And truly, it sounds more like an infatuation than even an idea of love. Basically, you have a crush.

I remember back in college there was this chick that I fell for hard. Except I didn't know anything about her really. I knew the superficial, peripheral stuff, but I really didn't know her as a person or anything about her that would lead me to believe that we were even remotely compatible. I was under the impression that I truly had feelings for her. But I didn't. I just thought that there was some special connection between she and I that only we knew (I was convinced she felt something too...oh youth).Over time I forgot about her until I saw her at homecoming one year. She's married now to somebody who did love her and who did get to know her.

Point is, until you've actually met and gotten to really know somebody, it's fairly impossible to love them. Lucky for us, we can love ourselves multiple times a day in the shower if necessary.

Is it weird to fall in love with a TV star you've never met? Yes. Unless the TV star's name is Matthew Morrison, in which case your love is completely justified and I encourage you to actively pursue it.

Tell him you need to take the lead. It's really that simple. If you're the one who wants sex less, you need to be the one who chooses where and when. Lay it out for him that it's because of your libido, not him, and he needs to back off.

It's even possible that your low libido is because you're stressed out over having sex with him. If he backs off like he should, you might find yourself a bit friskier solely because there's no pressure to perform. Sex should be stress relief, not stress-causing.

Gal Pal says: 

As one of the commenters pointed out, your low libido could be linked to birth control pills or other medication you're taking. If you'd like to raise your lust levels, talk to your doctor about a possibly simple fix (that, or spend night and day fantasizing about the GuySpeak guys).

That's it for this week, thanks for playing, guys and girls!