It's that special time of the week again. Satisfy your cravings for the most decadent questions, the silkiest answers and a dash of Gal Pal's salty commentary. We've got oral sex aversions, first-date cocktails, married men meandering, dumb breakups and the eternal Cute Girl vs. Hot Girl debate -- all in this edition of GuySpeak Best of the Week!
My boyfriend isn't into oral sex - giving or receiving - how do I change his mind?
Girl's BFF is tongue-tied on this one:
Wait, wait, he doesn't like RECEIVING head? My goodness woman...you're dating a Martian. Honestly, I can't imagine sticky-sticky with no licky-licky. I think the only thing you can do is let him know how much it would mean for him to engage in such acts with you as part of the experience that you enjoy and want (need?) to be satisfied sexually.
Then again, you could always get him while he's sleeping and maybe he'll realize what he's missing.
Like a lot of the commenters, I think Panama's final thought is way off. Yes, she should use her mouth to deal with this issue - but by talking to her boyfriend, not going down on him while he's fast asleep. I agree this may be a sad case of sexual incompatibility. Because if you love downtown and he's not willing to visit? Time to get a new travel buddy, girlfriend.
I'm sick of being 'cute'. When do I get to be 'hot'?
Chic Geek, for one, thinks she's already hot as a button:
Why are you sick of being cute? Being cute is awesome! I've never heard a guy say, "She's too cute. I could never date her." Plus, cute can often turn into hot really quick.
You could tart yourself up with a push-up bra, heavy makeup, a low-cut top, tight jeans or a short skirt, but it's just going to make you look like everyone else. Be confident in your cuteness, and you'll suddenly start to be seen as a hottie.
As a 5'4" tiny lady, I've always hated being called "cute." But Nick's answer may have just changed my mind. (Except for the push-up bra. You're going to have to pry that from my cold, dead nipples.)
Reformed Player talks guy-to-guy, pointing out that ignorance is marital bliss:
No, you shouldn't tell your wife everything. Sometimes discretion is the key to a healthy relationship. There are people who confuse honesty with verbal dysentery. We all have fleeting fantasies. Thoughts are not actions. And for the most part, they pass.
Okay, but... we're not just talking about "darkest fantasies." An "indiscretion" implies an action. Something you did. I say don't tell her. Learn from your almost mistake (assuming it's not a full blown act of infidelity. Kissing counts.) Do as The Man In Black says and walk the line. Walk the motherspelunking line.
Is that a six-string I hear playing under John's answer? I'll join the chorus - if nothing serious happened, it's best to keep your lusty imagination quiet. A moment on the lips - a lifetime in divorce court.
Why do guys ask me out for drinks - not dinner - on a first date?
Funny Guy offers this intoxicating reply:
Because dinner food rarely has high alcohol by volume. I mean sure, there's vodka chicken, but you've got to eat like eight of those before you even feel a buzz. There are many, many reasons a guy would want to get drunk with you on a first date. Half of them are sex-related, but at least a few of them involve crippling social anxiety.
It's likely he's a little nervous and thinks drinks will help the evening go smoothly. Or he's broke and dinner would have to be Double Downs and Big Gulps, and he's not ready to let you know that yet.
In my experience, guys always go for the first-date drinks. (Which if fine by me ... glug, glug...keeps things low pressure.) Men also hate spending dinner-level cash on a girl unless they really like her. Drinks are a cheaper and faster way to see, um, how cheap and fast you are.
Wise-Ass says there's no room for wimps when it comes to love:
Did you try getting him back? If you like him that much, why give up so easily? Apologize. If you still want him back -- and it sounds like you do -- say so. Tell him you miss him and want a relationship again.
Sure, you run the risk of rejection, but that's life; when you make a mistake, you have to set aside your pride and, as the saying goes, eat sh*t. Don't worry -- you'll get used to the taste.
Yes, I've found it pairs nicely with white wine...leftover from first-date drinks. Thanks for playing, guys and girls, see you all next week!
She agreed with mine! VALIDATION. Although I had kind of an easy one. Everyone loves the sauce.
I can't see half of these questions on the site for this week... is it just me or is the site being glitchy?
It's not just you...If it hadn't been for this, I wouldn't have even seen these questions
you have to look at each guy's profile individually and look at past actions in order to get the recent questions. I have never been able to get this site to work properly so I finagled around a bit and found another way.
Nice work, Carrie. I think you may have finally found your rhythm with the Best of recap. I like seeing your comments about what the guys had to say.
As far as the glitches with the site, sometimes you just have to refresh the home screen (even if you did JUST get there). Usually the new questions will then be posted.
i like this version!
well done Carrie! : )