this Super Dude, you are in fact out of your league in this regard:

1.      Face

2.      Body

3.      Career

4.      Dress/Style

5.      Wit

6.      Creativity

7.      Social skills/ network

8.      Overall Charm

 

BUT PLEASE NOTE: It doesn't mean Super Dude won't go for you. It just means you have your work cut out for you.

Yes, professional dating has different leagues - but I think each of the criteria Amit helpfully lists should qualify as its own sport. Do you suck hard at Social Skills? Maybe this season you should go out for Career, instead. Are you always last-picked for the Style team? Hang out with the Wit Club kids after school. Nothing wrong with being a good all-around player, but remember that dating is a lot like trying out for a JV team - chances are you won't go pro, so it's best to pick the team with the players who make you happiest. 

Problem. First question: why didn't he take you to the party? I've never been to a work Christmas party where you weren't allowed to bring a significant other. 

Obviously they all got drunk off their asses and no one wanted to drive--good thinking--so they crashed at the hotel. Makes sense. Whether something happened there or not, you'll never know, and you can worry yourself sick trying to guess, so don't. I'm with you, though--the whole situation is fishy, but the only solid thing you have to go on is his behavior since the party, and that's enough of a problem on its own.

If you are his girlfriend, why is he texting and hanging out with another woman? Isn't that taking away from time he could spend with you? I assume he's texting her when he's with you, since you've noticed it. Not good. I'm sure he tells you they are "just friends," and there's nothing wrong with guys having friends who are women. I have several--some I text here and there, some I meet for lunch twice a year or so. But if I started texting and hanging out with a particular woman "all the time," my wife would have something to say about that. And if that behavior suddenly started after a holiday party where everyone was wasted and spent the night in a hotel, she would have a lot more things to say about that, and they wouldn't be happy things, either.

Gal Pal says: 

Where does your BF work that he gets to have sleepovers? PajamaGram? Snuggie, Inc.? As Cary said, you'll never know whether he played "light as feather, stiff as a board" with his female coworker that night. But if he's still texting her and it's giving you that sinking feeling, things need to change. If he insists this work chick is just a pal, insist that all three of you "pals" go to lunch so you can get to know her better. What you'll really get to know better are your boyfriend's intentions. (Click on the question link above for an update on this sleepover showdown!)   

If it looks like a duck, walks like a duck, and quacks like a duck - it is a duck. That's what your body says, and believes. So, no. You are still totally straight for being attracted to them, if that really worries you.

Make no mistake, transmen are men, pure and simple, in every way that matters. The fact that it took an operation or three to align their physical sex more closely with their gender identity makes absolutely no difference to your reaction to them. Of course, they may not be attracted to you. That depends on their sexuality.

Gal Pal says: 

If he looks, feels and smells like a tune you'd like to whistle, then stop fretting and take Mae West's advice: "Just put your lips together and blow." (Click on the question above for more excellent advice and links from Mystery Man on transgender dating.)

Sasha Grey? Is that you? Are you still dating Vinnie Chase? I thought you broke it off with him. Scandal. Swindle.

Your boyfriend is basically a hypocrite. What's good for the goose isn't good for the gander. I'm sensing he has control issues and thinks that things are okay when he does it, because you can trust him and it's just business, but he doesn't trust you to know how to separate business and pleasure and also doesn't want any other man to have any parts of his body on you.

Insecure. That's what your boyfriend is, ESPECIALLY considering the line of work you two are both in. He can't trust you because he's got major insecurities. Until he gets to the root of those and accepts that you two are going to be doing something very similar acting. 

What's more important to you? His ego and insecurity, or your career? Only you can decide that.

Seriously, time to yell "cut" and find a new leading man. Or maybe you should audition for a part in your community playhouse's version of "Black Swan" ... 

Really great! A creepy portrait of obsession. It definitely showed the darker side of professional ballet (the physical toil, the stressful rehearsals) in a disturbingly original way. The ending had me literally on the edge of my seat and into the lap of the guy in front of me. (Sorry dude!) 

Also, SPOILER ALERT: Anyone looking for some hot Mila Kunis/Natalie Portman action better be prepared for a ton of scary stuff too. They'll be making out, and you think everything is fine, and then it's SCARY EVIL NATALIE PORTMAN out of nowhere. Natalie Portman deserves the Best Actress Oscar this year. (Hopefully she didn't get crazy skinny for nothing.) And how awesome was Winona Ryder? As a huge fan of Heathers, Beetlejuice and Edward Scissorhands, I've always had a soft spot for Wino. Could this be the start of a comeback?

Gal Pal says: 

Read the rest of Nick's Oscar picks at the link above. Me? My money's on the psychological thriller GuySpeak Swan: Hard Bodies, Dangerous Advice. That's it for this week, thanks for playing, guys and girls!