The V questions have started pouring in. No not 'Vagina' V, or 'Veiny penis' V but 'Valentines' V. They usually come in two forms:
"What should me and my man do for V Day?"
or
"I'm single. Valentines Day hurts my heart. Help."
This piece is dedicated to those seeking some thoughts on the latter. As for those seeking help with the former - the answer is simple: candlelit restaurant, new underwear, sex.
Maybe this is a gender thing, but I always found it very easy, when single, to totally skip Valentines Day. It's such a made up "thing."
I suppose all things on our calendar are made up "things" we buy into -- birthdays, July 4th, Thanksgiving, but some thing's are so purely manufactured and thrust upon us by Hallmark and the powers that be, that sometimes it's OK to say, "Wait a minute, I have a choice here. No thanks, Valentines Day 2012. I'm not playing this year. See ya next year, if I choose."
Because for all the sappy commercials and heart shaped candy out there, think about it like this, you're either with someone or you're not. February 14th is not relevant. It's an arbitrary day "we" say, "Stop what you're doing and show us your dating card." Now I get it, when everyone is wrapped up in the red balloons, white kitty cats and swanky restaurant reservations it's easy to feel like a lonely Shrek cooped up in your attic. But Don't.
One questioner asked me how to celebrate herself on this day and I think she's pretty spot on with the sentiment. And don't celebrate you to defend yourself against Feb. 14th or validate yourself in the shadow of Feb 14th. Do it because you should celebrate you every day, single or not.
I don't know specifically what makes you smile and purr, or laugh and breathe deep with joy, but do that which does. Pick up a Book. Take a bath. Go to a yoga class or a movie with the fam. Masturbate in your favorite pajamas. Write a short story. Read a short story. Go to a comedy club. Volunteer. Bake. Veg out. Go to the Gym. Go to bed early.
AND, tell us what you decide ...
Though who knows, single women, you've got nearly two weeks between now and then. Stuff happens...All Year-Round.
I have a different issue, I have a boyfriend but we're not going to be able to spend valentine's day together.
Same plan: treat yourself, but call or skype him if you can ^_^ We're skyping this year, but it's going to be really late because I'm in a show that night. So even if he was here we wouldn't be able to go out or anything.
Even with a boyfriend I dislike Valentines Day. It was invented by the greeting card and flower business to just generate money.
I also dislike that it forces guys to buy things that they know will just go to waste (flowers die, cards eventually need to be tossed out, adult women don't need or want stuffed animals...chocolate is cool though)
So, guys, save yourself some money and tell the greeting card corporations to get stuffed and just cook your lady a nice meal at home, watch a chick-flick with her (WITHOUT COMPLAINING) and maybe spring for some nice chocolates.
I like stuffed animals, and my roommate and I take turns buying flowers to brighten up our dining room/living room. But I actually agree with you. Most people don't feel the need to waste money on flowers, and I think cards are terrible, I don't buy them ever, not for anyone or any holiday. If written words are exchanged I just write them a letter.
I'm single and I vouch for valentine's day. Yes, you should be able to tell people every day you love them, but you think about it more this day. Last valentines day I spent with a best girlfriend- we went to dinner and exchanged gifts. I have never felt so special. I don't need a boyfriend to love v-day. It's a great excuse for the normally emotionally inept to give thanks to those you love.
I just saw that Valentine's Day is a Tuesday. So I'll be doing what I do every Tuesday: Work and kickboxing. Maybe I'll buy myself some chocolates.
Same here, girl! :)
***masturbating in your favorite pajamas***
HAHAHHAHA!
Silly AW, didn't you know that was reserved for every Thursday?
LOL... I vote as well for the masturbating in favorite pajamas... OH YEAH!! lol
My advice for riding solo on Valentine's day? Do something for someone else that is riding solo. We're too focused on ourselves. Last year I made cupcakes for my roommates