You can ask him, but he might be offended. If he likes you enough, he may go along with it. But he also might feel uncomfortable lying to your friends. And there's a chance he might think you're embarrassed to be with him. Also, you're going to have to tell people eventually. Making up stories will get awkward. If you say you met him when you were out with, say, Karen, then your friends will assume that Karen knows the guy. So what happens when he eventually meets Karen? WHAT HAPPENS WHEN HE MEETS KAREN? So were you at the bar by yourself? Did he buy you a drink? What drink? What bar? Does he normally go to this bar? Was he out with friends, or flying solo? If he was solo at the bar, will your friends think he has a drinking problem? He's just hanging out at the bar by himself scamming on random ladies? Ew, sketchy. Is that really any better than meeting him on a dating site? 

Unless you have a story that you both agree on ("We met at Barnes and Noble. We were both reaching for a copy of Freedom by Jonathan Franzen. Our eyes met, and it was love at first sight..."), you're bound to get caught in a lie. In the end, your friends will think it's weirder that you lied about how you met the guy than that you went on an online date. Unless he also feels uncomfortable with your friends knowing that you met online, honesty is the best policy in this situation.

I disagree with Chic Geek on this one. You don't owe an explanation to anyone as to how you met your new guy. As long as the fellow agrees, the two of you can weave any tale you like. All's fair in love and online dating! 

Girls' BFF says:

On a first date, a man is trying to figure out two things: 1) Is this a woman I genuinely like and will want to spend more time, energy, and money on; or 2) Is this a woman I have no interest in whatsoever, but I wonder if I can see her naked.

You're already on the date so he's clearly attracted to you and interested in you for something. He's trying to decide if that interest goes beyond the physical. And he's looking for chemistry usually - something that draws him to you that ensures that he has to spend more time with you. Truly, if a guy is really interested, he's probably just as concerned as you are about how the date is going to go. If he's a dude who's only out for you underoos then chances are he's a pro, really smooth, and more or less going to let you know via conversation his intentions, and early.

You'll figure out what kind of guy you're dealing with early on, I think. He's got a lot on his mind too. Heck, you could be the woman he ends up marrying. Do you know how stressful that is for a man too!!? Shucks. First dates are fun.

I used to live with four guys. If they're making the effort to go on an actual, real-life first date with you, they're interested. And nervous. So much that they'll rethink their date shirt. Take the lead and focus on making him feel at ease. Think of a funny story from your day, ask him about the favorite job he's ever had and compliment his shoe-shirt-belt combo.

You have nothing to feel weird and disgusting and unlovable about. You know why? It isn't your bloody fault!!!

You went through something worse than rape. Worse than murder. As this is usually done by somebody trusted, the betrayal is extreme. Don't make it worse by thinking it is your fault, or what you deserved. It isn't. You don't. Take that to the bank. Your words are not silenced - I hear you, so do the readers here. You are not alone. Not anymore.

This is one of those times where I am going to say, stop procrastinating and get professional help. Right now. You have made a start. You have admitted, anonymously at least, that it happened. Now you need someone trained in dealing with this to work through it with you. I may be willing - but I'd honestly do more damage than good trying to help, as currently I just want to kill the person in question. I'd go on about reporting the guy (I assume) and getting his ass arrested and hauled to jail, where he'll find out all about forced sexual behavior, but your first priority must be yourself. Time for that stress later, once you are healing.

You'll need to have courage, to do the next step. You have masses of courage - your daily need of courage far surpasses what most people need in a year. Get help. Take care of yourself. Stay strong.

Mystery Man handled this perfectly. Know that you've been heard and go get all the help. You can do this. We're all here to help if we can.

Wow, that's a long phone call. I hope you're using a headset. My ear gets sore after an hour on the phone, much less three weeks.

Is he for real? Yes--real ridiculous. He doesn't know you well enough to love you after three days. Infatuation, maybe; love, no. He's either a giddy schoolboy who just met the first girl he's ever really liked, or he has an ulterior motive. Was the declaration of love followed by a request for a naked photo. Whatever his reason, he doesn't love you. He might think he does, but he doesn't. He might love you someday, but not after three days.

Cary, don't lie. You know you had to upgrade to unlimited minutes to fit in all our calls. As for this girl, she should invite the guy to her town to stay for three weeks. We'll talk about love and disgust more then.