Women are constantly told that men won't change. But for some reason, we soooo want to believe you will...just for us. Guys -- have you ever changed anything about yourself (behavior, goals, clothing style, gang colors, etc.) for a woman?
Funny Guy says:
In hopes of winning over girls/women I've:
Worn Baggy Jeans, Worn Skinny Jeans
Grown Goatees, Ironic Mustache & Hippy Beards
I've gone to Ani Defranco shows, Regional Theater Productions of Macbeth, Coffee House Poetry Readings
I've Smoked Pot & I've Stopped Smoking Cigarettes
I've Cancelled Trips, Moved to Australia & Lived in New Jersey
I went to Church
I went to Temple
I went Buddhist
I went Yogi
I went Rasta
I've Stayed at Bad Jobs And Took Classes I didn't Need at Colleges Too Far to Travel
Yup, I've stayed true to my self -- & All for a little love.
Reformed Player says:
No one, men or women, ever change for another person. Not fully. At best, it's superficial play acting. I have, however, been persuaded that certain changes will benefit my own self-interest, in addition to a relationship. For instance: I purchased a loofa. Man, does that thing make my iron man face glowy!
Chic Geek says:
We all change somewhat as we grow older, whether for a relationship or for self-improvement. Like animals in the wild, we have to change and adapt lest we get eaten by some douchebag tiger.
Mystery Man says:
Well, I did stop motorcycle racing for one when she had a total fit about it.
Or I let her think that, at least. The truth is I couldn't really afford the bike upkeep anyway.
Wise-Ass says:
Sure, I think all people adapt somewhat to a new boyfriend or girlfriend, but you have to remain true to yourself. Clothes and music are one thing; behavior and goals and values are another.
Girls' BFF says:
Well I definitely stopped repping for my set because of a woman before. It was terrible, but I did end up on Gangland as a former *CENSORED* and talked about the long and arduous task of making it out of the gang and then going to college, and eventually grad school with the blessings of all my former homies. So that was fun. Thank you baby. By the way, everything you just read was a lie. But other than that, I've attempted to change my attitude about things. I've learned that you have to let women feel needed, which can be very difficult when you're raised to be self-sufficient. Oh, I also decided that wearing the same jeans four days in a row was not conducive to keeping a woman around. I'm joking. About wearing the same jeans four days in a row. I've never done that. But it will totally keep a chick away.
Gal Pal says:
I've definitely changed because of a relationship, but not strictly for a guy. In fact, I usually make my changes after the relationship ends and I've had to time to reflect on what I can do to grow as a person and partner. But I prefer to think of it as a pre-changing for the next guy!
I think any time you encounter someone in your life who can offer you a new perspective or get to know you better than you know yourself will change you. It is not uncommon for a person to change when they are in a relationship. I even think it is healthy as long as those changes are attempts at self-improvement or self-realization. I have come out of some of my best relationships a little stronger, a little wiser, with a much more varied view of the world. I've eaten foods I never would have tried and gone places I never would have seen if I didnt have these people to push me.
see your all saying different answers.. but i believe that you should change. you shouldnt change to impress the person your with, you should change inhoped that you can keep them happy.. stop smoking because she hates it, and its whats driving her away, dont start smoking to get her attention.. or wear skinny jeans because thats the kindof guy shes into.. dont lose yourself, change to keep them interested.. read up on some of the things that he/she likes, weather hes into anime or sports, watch it with him and take a interest in it. and if she needs a man to take an interest in some of the things she likes to do.. for gods sake keep her happy!