Politely.

Look, like it or not, she's going to be around. Asking a guy to ditch his friends is a bad move (how'd you take it if he asked you to ditch your BFF), so that's out. So, you're going to have to settle it calmly, and reasonably.

Take her aside, or set up a lunch. Explain to her how you feel using non-accusatory "I" statements. For example, "I feel you don't exactly approve of me, and that translates out to how you interact with me and him." Be diplomatic in how you say things; keep in mind both interpretations of how this went are coming back to your boyfriend.

Then, listen to what she has to say. There might be something you're doing that rubs her the wrong way. From there, you should be able to work out your differences. Good luck!

In the comments, the woman asking this question explained that the female BFF had also slept with her boyfriend in the past...and is angling to do so again. I have to agree with the other commenters that this is something the boyfriend needs to handle. If his girlfriend is uncomfortable (and it sounds like she has good reason to feel that way), he needs step the eff away from the female BFF. Before she becomes a BFF with benefits.  

In my heroic and celebrated sex life this has happened to me twice.  Yes, both times were humiliating - to me, to the girl and to my dear penis. But both times were because I was trying to will myself to get sexy with someone I probably shouldn't have been with in the first place. No, not because it was a farm animal or my best friend's wife, but simply because I wasn't all that attracted to her, didn't click with her on any emotional basis and was just trying to get laid for lay-sake.

 

Here's the deal:  The penis is like George Washington. It cannot tell a lie.

 

If it's really not feeling it - it will let you know. Usually by shriveling up or just playing dumb. The more you try to force it on him, the more likely he will retreat and get pissed. "Screw you, Owner!" Your dick will say. "Go down on her or something, cuz I ain't touching her with a ten foot pole."

 

To put it another way, your penis is like your emotional thermometer. It gauges how hot or not you are for someone at the moment and rises accordingly. I wouldn't beat yourself or him up about this. Rather try to find a partner that feels more right. I'm not saying leave everything up to your dick and take a back seat, but find someone that satisfies and engages you on more levels - physical, emotional, personality, etc.

 

As for mending things with your female buddy, it might take some time, but slowly work towards meeting back in the friend-zone. You don't have to tell her point blank why it didn't click -  A. she can probably figure it out and B. if you guys were really tight she'll soon be able to not take it so personally. She will hopefully laugh about it and chalk it up to a "Hey, we tried. That was a hot mess. Now let's grab a beer you Little Bastard."

But here's a critical point you're missing. If "George Washington" isn't feeling it, it doesn't necessarily have to do with the girl at hand. GW could be feeling ill, feeling tired, feeling drunk, feeling depressed or having physiological challenges. I would guess, in fact, that General Washington's reaction has little if nothing to do with his Martha for the night. AND, this girl sounds like a pretty rotten friend for being angry with you. If she's young, you might want to explain that this is just something that happens from time to time and reassure her that you find her attractive. Or, you might consider finding a friend who's a bit more mature about these matters.

Yes indeed. Haunted houses, carnivals, apple picking...all fun fall stuff. In fact, 80% of haunted house attendees are couples. Or at least that's what the old haunted house proprietor told me, before cackling wildly. "They check in...but they don't check out!" He was spooky. And always complaining about "meddling kids."  

Getting scared with your sweetie is a time-honored tradition. It's fun, and a great way to inspire spontaneous hand-holding. (Or huddling together to hide from teenagers jumping out at you in monster masks.)

Plus, it's a good way to tell if a guy is into you. When something is scary, does he look over to see how you are? Does he squeeze your hand, or pull you closer? Or is he enjoying the thrills, oblivious to the screaming person next to him? It might seem small, but his behavior could say a lot about how he feels towards you. Also, is he willing to relax and have fun? Or is he all uptight about being afraid in front of you? It's fun, and a good way to take the temperature of the relationship. 

Finally, there's nothing more entertaining than a cheesy haunted house. Particularly when you're with a date who will make fun of it with you. 

I love this as a date idea! And it satisfies what's known as the Shaky Bridge Study, which demonstrated that adrenaline and unpredictability play a big role in attraction and sexual arousal. Those who scare together, stay together! 

I don't get it, either. That's very odd. I can only guess that he's embarrassed, or just really doesn't like watching other people have sex, neither of which is completely uncommon. His reaction, though, is just a weeee bit over the top.

Have you asked him why he gets so bent out of shape about something so trivial? That's the first thing you should do. I'd love to hear his explanation, because I sure can't think of one that makes any sense. Maybe his parents forced him to watch Last Tango In Paris as a child, and now he has issues with sex (and butter.) Is he weird about sex in general or just big-screen boffing?

All I can say for sure is that his behavior is very odd and a little bit disturbing. You need to find out what that's all about. In the meantime, stick to PG-rated movies. We don't want the guy to implode.

In the comments, the poster explains that her boyfriend is 39 years old and sexually active. So there goes my theory that he's just a 16-year-old, prudish, Jesus-loving virgin. Hmmm, this is a tough puzzle to crack. Have you asked him why he's so shy of sexy cinema? Is he also shy in the bedroom? My only advice to you is to tell him that movies are a way we parse and examine life - and that sex is a heck of an important part of life...and that you, dear reader will still be watching sexy flicks. With or without him.   

Ah, what a romantic guy. Hugs in a drafty stockroom where you should not be, all while dissing his wife. Sounds like you found yourself a real Romeo there.

Yeah, right. More like a retail Casanova.

What is wrong with you!!!

The guy works in a department store that either has a one mistress in the back at a time policy or he is desperate enough to risk getting fired. He's married. He's out to get laid at his convenience. Do you want to be his convenience?

Look, if a reasonably attractive young woman started giving me the signals, I'd be tempted too. The bad relationship with the wife? Maybe he has, but 99% of the time it is total bull designed to get you in the sack.

You want to know what to do? Walk away and chalk it up to experience.

Start shopping at Target.

This might be rough to hear, but one reason he stopped saying it could be because that's not how he feels anymore. Guys are notoriously non-confrontational when it comes to women in our lives.

Sidenote: I recognize that's not a universal truth, but more times than not, we just want peace.

And we do not like hurting feelings of women we are tied to. Nobody wants to be the bad guy if they can help it. So in the most bassackwards attempt at chivalry, we'll just avoid the situation with gusto and hope that it fades out on its own. Or that you'll leave. Which is stupid because we still caused the departure. Man logic is definitely as flawed as chick logic.

I think what you need to do is talk to your man and ask him where his head is at. If you ask him if he loves you, outright, he'll probably say "yes" very quickly. Tell him to slow down and really think about that because you're noticing a difference and you want to know if there's a problem, what it is, and if it can be fixed. Pretending to be there is going to do more damage than he thinks.

Part of the reason why I think that's the reason is because men use the word "love" in a very cavalier fashion a lot of times to get what we want out of women. So a man who stops using it probably means that he did in fact mean it...and now he's not sure.

Again, man logic can suck as much as chick logic.

Normally, I'm more of an advocate of showing love than declaring it. But wait - do you say "I love you" and then he stares back at you in a stony silence? Because that is ice cold! And a serious relationship red flag. Panama's right - ask him to consider his feelings for you carefully. Does he not love you anymore? Or is he just not saying it out loud? You need to know. It hurts when love goes away, but it hurts longer when you stick around without it.

That's it for this week. Thanks for playing, guys and girls!