It's tough to know what to say when our favorite guy is feeling blue. Psychiatrist Robert Leahy offered some solid do's and don't's a few days ago, but I want to know what the guys think. Whether you're having a tough day at the office or going through a life-changing disaster - guys, what do you wish your significant other would say or do for you?
Chic Geek says:
If he's a geek, it never hurts to dress up as Princess Leia in her slave costume, the White Queen from X-Men, or April O'Neil from Teenage Mutant Ninja Turtles. (What? That yellow jumpsuit was pretty revealing...)
Reformed Player says:
The best thing I can think of is to be available to listen but not to push. Especially if it's something they've got to work through in their heads, the absolute worst thing, and it's something women do a lot, is try to push a guy to talk about it. He will talk about it with you, but he wants to get it set in his head first.Wise-Ass says:
Girls' BFF says:
Just leave me alone until I'm ready to talk about it. And I will eventually. I'm a guy so I will stuff my emotions initially. But at some point, I will open up. Like Dan said, the worst thing is to try to push me to talk about whats bugging me. Let me live. And leave me be. It's not your disaster, it's mine. Don't make it about you. Let me be with my thoughts for a minute. Nudity also helps.
Mystery Man says:
Feed him and talk, very lightly about your own day. Just so he knows you are there. Don't bug him. Let him get his ducks in a row before he talks to you. He'll talk it through when he is ready. (More a stockings, heels and a smile man myself - but nudity works!)
Funny Guy says:
I wish my significant other to know when to hold me, know when to unfold me, know when to walk away, know when to run. In other words, be receptive to how I'm feeling, and work with me to get to a better place. Sometimes that means allowing the silence while we go at a bucket of Kenny Rogers Roasters chicken. Other times that means talking me up while we go at a bucket of Kenny Rogers Roasters chicken.
And yes, I seek to provide the same intuition and care for my gal.
Gal Pal says:
Here's what not to do: Tell him he's being a little cry baby and that he didn't even bother to ask you about your crappy day and he needs to take some responsibility for his problems and that you're not his mom. Those things don't go over so well (even if they're true)! You catch more flies with honey...or as Wise-Ass points out, your mouth.
Can we have the ONLINE Version as well? BJ? stockings?
cuddling. And yeah, BJ. Treat him well when he's down, telling him you might not help him solve his problems, but you're here if he wants to talk.. Or just needs a shoulder to lay his head.
An important and key discussion. Not to be underestimated.
Online versions online blow jobs? my first BJ online!!
Seriously! who gives a shit.
And for gal pal, why dont you just ask wise ass out, youve already told him youre into bjs.