I think the guy in question is a jackass and your friend isn't much better.

Seriously, in this scenario, the problem is not what you wore, or your physique, it's the guy. So he's not into you, OK, but there are better ways of handling that than being a complete tool. You took the time to dress well and show up, he could at least have dinner before making some excuses, leaving, and giving you the friend speech over the phone the next day. It's not awesome but it has the distinction of not doing something the Situation would look down on.

Also, how you didn't explain to your friend what the five fingers said to the face for that see-through blouse comment is pretty much totally beyond me. It's not your fault she's a friend to douches: no blouse you own is going to fix that.

Gal Pal says:

That guy is a despicable, horrible person. So is your friend. Do not talk to that friend again. Go find better friends. Real friends would never, ever put you in that position. For better guys, I encourage online dating (of course, be upfront about your age/height/weight etc., just as you would expect guys to do.) There's no guarantee you won't meet more bad apples, but hopefully you'll be able to screen out most of the rotten ones before wasting more of your sweet time. No one should ever have to face that humiliation you went through. I believe karma will take care of that guy - and everyone here at GuySpeak wants to take care of you with a big hug!

No. There aren't. And any way that you might try would be manipulative and potentially evil and could cause you severe bad karma later on in life.

Plus, why would you want an ex to crawl back to you? He broke up with you or something and now you want him to realize he messed up and beg you to take him back? Fat chance. We're dudes. We keep it moving. Sure, we reminisce at times about the love we lost, but unless he really didn't want to break up in the first place he's not coming back. He'll go sulk in some other chick's Venus fly trap.

I do have to say, the fact that you want him to beg you to get back into his life seems problematic. Grow up. I know you feel wronged and want him to have to worry about whether or not you want him back, but who does stuff like that nowadays. Well, probably a lot of people actually. Point is, if you want dude back, make a phone call. Don't try to manipulate him back into your life. If you do, chances are he won't last long there anyway.

You want to get an ex back? Go live an extraordinary life. Find someone extraordinary to share it with. Never, ever call your ex again. Trust me, he'll come crawling...but you'll be too busy with your wonderful life to ever notice him trailing behind you.

Why do so many men come off with the "CREEPY" factor when they hit on the ladies? Are they aware of this? I know most of them are harmless and (let's hope) have good intention. But still THEY ARE F*CKEN CREEPY. 

Accidentally Creepy

The lingering stares, inane chat, slightly in your personal space and checking out your boobs often enough that you want to say "Hey, my eyes are up here!" This usually is totally accidental, brought on by a combination of inexperience, shyness, alcohol and sometimes body habits you simply don't like. 

I'll give you an example - a friend of mine is 6' 6". To look less intimidating on nights out, he always tended to lean forward to appear shorter, which of course creeped women right out. Nothing creepier than a guy who hangs over you like an unstable cliff, looking straight down your cleavage, is there! Once he learned not to do that, he was fine - the discomfort gals felt went away and they were able to realize just how funny and sweet he actually is.

Totally Creepy

The sweating, heavy breathing, crudely sexually aggressive type of guy. Players without any skill or empathy, basically. Some guys are creeps, simple as that. They don't ever see you as a person, simply an animated doll or a scoring system, or a plaything to be used and discarded. Fortunately for gals, most of them have never managed even the touch of a living boob and mess up the approach so badly that they give you plenty of warning.

You have instincts for a reason. Use them. Listen to them. They are not going to be 100% right, but they are frequently more correct than either your heart or your mind.

I always feel bad for that first type of creepy guy (ye olde accidental creep). You know he's just trying to put himself out there and find a little love, like all of us. He has no idea he's sending the (totally wrong kind of) tingles down our spines! I think we should follow MM's example, take him aside politely and explain those odd things he's doing that are freaking us the freak out. In fact, let's make this Saturday Adopt-A-Creep day! Who's with me??

You probably don't have to worry but it does seem kind of lame. On the one hand, I can't knock him for using Facebook to network with other artists. Plenty of people do make connections and meet other people in their field that way. And, to be fair, a lot of the women he's friending might wear revealing clothing and be actual artists. 

That said...Boy, has he hit on a way to ogle a bunch of scantily-clad women under the guise of "networking." Is he attending art shows where these people might be and showing them his portfolio? Is he sending out samples of his artwork? Or is he just adding a bunch of other artists hoping they'll notice him? I can't say he's definitely looking to cheat on you, but he is definitely going about his networking in a super half-assed way. 

Is he also adding guys? If he's only adding women, he's not really networking. Tell him how you feel. If it makes you uncomfortable, it's fair to ask him about it. "Wow, you sure add a lot of skanky-looking women..." If the tables were turned, he'd probably be jealous if you were friending a bunch of shirtless dudes taking self-shots of their abs with their cameraphone. Anything that makes you feel uncomfortable should be addressed. If you feel like he's being disrespectful, speak up. 

Also, he's a sucker if he doesn't realize that half of the profiles are probably fake. 

I'm not buying it. Has he proclaimed his devotion to you on his FB relationship status? If not, then I really don't buy it. Is he communicating with these ladies in a flirty, non-professional-artiste way? Then I super, duper, double-dare don't buy it. If you really want to find out what's going down, you could always create your own sculptor-skank FB profile, friend him and see how the flirting flows. Just don't paint yourself in a corner with too much deception. If you're feeling uncomfortable, it's as simple as letting him know.

Ah, yes--the Bickersons. There's one in every group. You're right, they totally ruin the mood and put everyone on edge with their non-stop quarreling. Or they're not quarreling but everyone spends the entire night uptight anyway as they wait for the inevitable fireworks to begin.

I think you have to do something--keeping your mouth shut and letting this continue will eventually kill your group outings. People will drop out or start making excuses not to come until there's no group left. Tell her you are concerned that she and her guy fight all the time, and that it's also a total mood-killer for everyone else. Ask her what you can do to help.

If she gets angry, so be it. All you're doing is telling her the truth, and if you do it with tact and compassion, she will have no grounds to be upset. If she can't see how they are making these group outings miserable for everyone else, then you are wasting your breath and they need to be excluded anyway. You can tell her that as soon as she and her guy can go out in a group without fighting and making everyone tense, they are welcome to join you. Then stop inviting them until something changes.

I have been that couple. Ugh. On behalf of my former self, I want to apologize to you and to my sister (I had the decency not to argue in front of friends, but my own flesh-and-blood didn't deserve it either). In my experience, the fighting will never get better until that couple gets counseling or gets away from each other. Either way, it is CRITICAL that you tell her how upsetting it is, otherwise you're contributing to the cats-and-dogs situation.

Listen don't be hard on yourself. Balls are an insane thing. I myself own two and barely know what the hell to do with them. As idiosyncratic as dudes are with their wang, they are double when it comes to the nuts. That being said, there are two pillars you should know and breathe when handing the balls. The first being a cornerstone for both Doctors and ball handlers: Do no harm. If you don't know what to do, do nothing at all. A scrotum is stupid sensitive. All those '80's movies with guys getting socked in the nuts come from a place of truth.

Squeeze, press, poke or pull even a smidge too rough and the nuts will let you hear it. Rather, 

they'll let their owner hear it and you (the lady) will be subject to man's primal survival mode. You'll be choked out, thrown off the bed, or hand slapped so hard you'll think you're in grammar school in the 18th century.

Second, ASK your man what feels good. You can't expect to navigate a man's nutsack blind. That's like asking an Amish kid how to get to Brownsville, Brooklyn from Central Park. They need a map, a gentle guide and a willingness to fail. One size does not fit all when it comes to hand jobs and especially ball play.

I'm sorry it's not more specific, but that's the point: it's on a nut by nut basis. What's lovely is that you've shown you have the interest and gumption to incorporate your man's scrotum during sex play.  You're forward thinking, and I'm sure in no time the four of you will have a ball. 

Can I just say how relieved I am that Amit got this question and not me? I do think she should "play ball," as it were, and keep up the hard work! Maybe practice on the Happy Sack? 

Happy weekend to all - thanks for playing, guys and girls!