It's a well-documented fact that geeky guys make the best boyfriends. Our formative years of spending Friday nights alone with our role-playing games and comic books have made us humble and appreciative of the women in our lives. We're typically sensitive and more in tune with your needs than your average vertically-haired Jersey Shore meathead. We learned the ways of love from Star Trek: The Next Generation and Buffy the Vampire Slayer; and when we find our Buffy or Counselor Deanna Troi, we will fight to protect her and make sure she doesn't dump us for a Jersey Shore meathead. Plus, we're like a one-man Geek Squad for all your techie needs.
But how do you score a geeky guy? It's not as easy as you think. We're a hot commodity these days. Hollywood courts us with their Avatars and Capricas. We start online trends through memes, and blog about the latest nerdy videos and gadgets. Well, I'm here to tell you how to score the elusive geek. Take a look, and share your tips in the comments.
Show interest in at least some of our nerdy passions. You don't have to care about our action figure collection or encyclopedic knowledge of the films of zombie master George Romero. But we appreciate it when you show interest in at least some of our passions (and also have some of your own). For instance, before she met me, my girlfriend had zero interest in comic books. But then I got her into the Scott Pilgrim series, which I thought she would be into for the humor, relationship drama and goofs on terrible indie rock bands. Now she's a super fan and can't wait for the final book and Michael Cera movie to come out. So give our geeky interests a chance. You might just find a new obsession of your own.
Video games can be great foreplay. Couples who game together, stay together. There are so many great video games--from Rock Band to classics like Super Mario Bros. on Wii virtual console-- to play together these days. Don't be afraid to play with your favorite geek-- a little healthy trash-talking during a game of Mario Kart is a surefire nerd aphrodisiac.
Never call comic books "funny books." Comic books are no longer solely for social rejects who freak out whenever DC changes Green Lantern's costume or Marvel kills off Captain America for the tenth time. They are the basis for hit TV shows and mega-blockbuster movies. Therefore, you should never use the term our grandparents used to describe the Archie and Jughead digests they'd buy for us at the supermarket. Call them comics, call them graphic novels. You can even be trendy and call them "comix." But never "funny books."
Don't assume we're desperate. Like I said, geeks are in demand now. We're no longer social outcasts, shunned by our peers and forced to hide indoors with our Magic: The Gathering cards and giant robot anime DVDs. Okay, fine, we're still social outcasts. But social outcasts with cred! Don't just assume that you're doing us a favor, or lowering your standards, by going out with us. We have feelings too, just like the android Data in Star Trek: TNG or Golem in Lord of the Rings.
Hang out at trivia nights, comic book stores, bars with spelling bee events, Guitar Hero nights and anywhere else nerds congregate to do nerdy things. Take a break from the usual bar or club scene and go where the geeks are. The geeky event will give you an easy icebreaker if you see a cute guy at the bar. You'll have fun, make new friends and maybe meet your soulmate.
Compliment our nerdy t-shirt, the graphic novel we're reading, PSP game we're playing, etc. Many of you have asked how to approach a geek in public. This is an instant conversation-starter. While shy, geeks love being complimented on their interests (particularly by a cute geek girl). Plus, if you get the nerdy reference on our t-shirt, you'll earn instant brownie points.
Be persistent. Geeks are notoriously shy and awkward. Yes, some of us are also outgoing karaoke studs who aren't afraid to, say, "Rick-roll" an entire bar with a little "Never Gonna Give You Up" or "Together Forever." But many geeks are also adorably shy wallflowers. It might take a little work to get them out of their shell, but your persistence will pay off. Attracting a d-bag is easy-- getting a quality geek takes time.
Don't be afraid to "geek out." Everyone has something they nerd out over. Maybe it's Twilight or FarmVille. Or maybe you can't wait to finish the crossword puzzle or catch up on the Glee episodes on your DVR. Embrace your inner geek, and you will attract a nerd who just might join you for a round of Lexulous or take you to see New Moon for the fourth time.
Buy a mint condition copy of Incredible Hulk #180, aka the first appearance of Wolverine. Place it on a giant "X" in the middle of the sidewalk. When a geek tries to grab it, that's when you spring the net. Voila! A geek to call your very own.
Good luck!
But how do you score a geeky guy? It's not as easy as you think. We're a hot commodity these days. Hollywood courts us with their Avatars and Capricas. We start online trends through memes, and blog about the latest nerdy videos and gadgets. Well, I'm here to tell you how to score the elusive geek. Take a look, and share your tips in the comments.
Show interest in at least some of our nerdy passions. You don't have to care about our action figure collection or encyclopedic knowledge of the films of zombie master George Romero. But we appreciate it when you show interest in at least some of our passions (and also have some of your own). For instance, before she met me, my girlfriend had zero interest in comic books. But then I got her into the Scott Pilgrim series, which I thought she would be into for the humor, relationship drama and goofs on terrible indie rock bands. Now she's a super fan and can't wait for the final book and Michael Cera movie to come out. So give our geeky interests a chance. You might just find a new obsession of your own.
Video games can be great foreplay. Couples who game together, stay together. There are so many great video games--from Rock Band to classics like Super Mario Bros. on Wii virtual console-- to play together these days. Don't be afraid to play with your favorite geek-- a little healthy trash-talking during a game of Mario Kart is a surefire nerd aphrodisiac.
Never call comic books "funny books." Comic books are no longer solely for social rejects who freak out whenever DC changes Green Lantern's costume or Marvel kills off Captain America for the tenth time. They are the basis for hit TV shows and mega-blockbuster movies. Therefore, you should never use the term our grandparents used to describe the Archie and Jughead digests they'd buy for us at the supermarket. Call them comics, call them graphic novels. You can even be trendy and call them "comix." But never "funny books."
Don't assume we're desperate. Like I said, geeks are in demand now. We're no longer social outcasts, shunned by our peers and forced to hide indoors with our Magic: The Gathering cards and giant robot anime DVDs. Okay, fine, we're still social outcasts. But social outcasts with cred! Don't just assume that you're doing us a favor, or lowering your standards, by going out with us. We have feelings too, just like the android Data in Star Trek: TNG or Golem in Lord of the Rings.
Hang out at trivia nights, comic book stores, bars with spelling bee events, Guitar Hero nights and anywhere else nerds congregate to do nerdy things. Take a break from the usual bar or club scene and go where the geeks are. The geeky event will give you an easy icebreaker if you see a cute guy at the bar. You'll have fun, make new friends and maybe meet your soulmate.
Compliment our nerdy t-shirt, the graphic novel we're reading, PSP game we're playing, etc. Many of you have asked how to approach a geek in public. This is an instant conversation-starter. While shy, geeks love being complimented on their interests (particularly by a cute geek girl). Plus, if you get the nerdy reference on our t-shirt, you'll earn instant brownie points.
Be persistent. Geeks are notoriously shy and awkward. Yes, some of us are also outgoing karaoke studs who aren't afraid to, say, "Rick-roll" an entire bar with a little "Never Gonna Give You Up" or "Together Forever." But many geeks are also adorably shy wallflowers. It might take a little work to get them out of their shell, but your persistence will pay off. Attracting a d-bag is easy-- getting a quality geek takes time.
Don't be afraid to "geek out." Everyone has something they nerd out over. Maybe it's Twilight or FarmVille. Or maybe you can't wait to finish the crossword puzzle or catch up on the Glee episodes on your DVR. Embrace your inner geek, and you will attract a nerd who just might join you for a round of Lexulous or take you to see New Moon for the fourth time.
Buy a mint condition copy of Incredible Hulk #180, aka the first appearance of Wolverine. Place it on a giant "X" in the middle of the sidewalk. When a geek tries to grab it, that's when you spring the net. Voila! A geek to call your very own.
Good luck!
Okay but how do you prevent it from going into that awful "friend zone" ? I've met plenty of "geeks" at shows.Which then turns into "I can whip you at World of Goo and build that bridge before you!", the next conversation being, so how do i get a girl? Wait, what? I'm sitting right in front of you, ugh! That always seems to be my problem, not finding the geek but getting him interested in me.
Ultimately it comes down to making your intentions clear up front. Flirt, drop hints that you're interested in being more than friends. If you really like him and being his friend is unbearable, straight up tell him your feelings. If he isn't interested in being more than friends, you can move on to someone else and not waste your time. Pining over a friend, whether he/she is a geek or not, is the worst. Better to move on to someone else who will return your feelings.
Also, maybe try dating sites where you can search by interests to try to find your perfect geeky guy.Then there's less confusion about whether you're looking for a friend or a date.
Good luck!
I've always dreamed of a man who learned the rules of love from Buffy.
Um, hello? 'Commander' Troi? I understand that was her rank in the last season, but she was generally referred to as 'Counselor' Troi. Puh-leeze don't tell me that the person to out-geek the Chic Geek is a girl!
I love a man who spends his time contemplating whether Superman or Hulk would win in a fight and rolls with pockets full of 20-sided die.
Question though. How does one get past the 'nerd-paranoia'? Most datable dorks that I want to be all up ons get bent out of shape at being thought of as geeks even while sporting Batman tattoos and level 73 Beastmasters in FFXI. How do I convince them that a pretty lady can dig a man who knows how to overclock his processor?
What, she can't be referred to by her earned title? That's just sexist. But, yes, for clarity's sake I changed it. Thanks.
And plenty of girls (and women) can out-geek me. What is this, the 1950s? Be confident in your geekhood. Show the guys that you're the biggest geek of the bunch and they'll feel more comfortable. But ultimately they have to get some backbone and take a hint. If you're into geeks and they aren't comfortable with the label, just show them you are into them for who they are and drop the labels. Say you're into guys with tattoos, not just tattoos that happen to be nerdy. (Though having a Batman tattoo isn't exclusively geeky.)
I already landed a geek and have been with him for 2 years... but half a year ago he asked me to play WOW with him and I told him that I wouldn't pay 15$ a month to play it. he eventually gave up the fight and a half year passed. I found a new game that has the same basis and looks of WOW for free. I tired it out just to see how similar it was and it was almost the same thing. so I ask him if he wanted to game with me on there... he just gives me a face and tells me he doesn't want to play games with me anymore. should i be insulted or is this some kind of payback for being broke half a year ago?
Jess (Great name, btw) you have to understand WoW is not a game, it's a way of life. They have friends, and a place in the WoW community. Some people become so immersed in Warcraft they never want to play anything else simply because it doesn't look like it's that much fun. Talk to your boyfriend and ask him why he doesn't want to play with you before you assume he's snubbing you. And I'm pretty sure if you buy Warcraft you get a month free or something... But I'm not sure, I stick to my XBAWKS.
I always have a hard time with 'how to land a geek' help articles. I feel like I've be better suited because... well, I work at a comic shop, have about ten long boxes in my room, shelves and shelves dedicated to my action figure collection (and lego bionicles), and I play D&D and love trivia nights... So why am I still single? All the luvnerds are taken. I'm told I'm cute, smart, funny, (and humble), but holycrapdontcomenearmebecauseIhaveagirlfriend.
I also feel like a lot of the advice goes towards girls who aren't nerdy that want a nerdy bf. How about girls that are super awkward that are trying to land the geek boy dating the chick that knows nothing about Avengers Disassembled and can't pronounce the Green Lantern oath by heart?
@Josie
Lovely comment that pretty much sums up all that I'm feeling as well. I'm an extremely geeky girl myself with a deep unabiding love for Star Trek and who is extremely well versed in all things Deadpool. :)
Does that give me something to talk about with a potential BF? Not really cause I live in Romania where maybe 0,000001% of the population shares my interests. Does that make a little special? I believe it does, but ultimately I really don't think my geeky interests would give me an advantage over the prettier girls when it comes to hanging out with geeky guys. Sure, that other blonde girl may not know that Picard got stabbed in the chest when he was in the Starfleet Academy, but gosh darn it she's so pretty to look at! :)
Wow, bitter much? :)
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hahha I agree