Why are you so competitive with each other?Why are men so competitive I don’t care whose team won in Halo, or on the bball court, who wins at arm wrestling etc. I guess the issue is we do the thing we think the opposite sex cares about.

Why do you date a-holes? The same reason you date bitches. You ‘fall in love’ with the person and delude yourself into thinking their behavior will change. To nice guys everywhere stop being doormats, no one wants to date a doormat. Stand up for yourself more and call us on our crap, cause we are going to it to you.

Besides, does size really matter? To some women it does. To me not at all, as long as you can work with what you have or have other talents.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? Because we are coming to you for validation, not criticism. So just nod your head and agree.

What do you really think when a man cries? I think, ‘My God, you have actually feelings beyond hungry and horny

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? Some women enjoy and others do it out of courtesy. The same thing could be said about going down on us.

Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of? Honestly every woman is different. I look for kindness, respect, sense of humor, intelligent, supportive, understanding, adventurous, laid back personality....

Why do you date a-holes? -I think assholes just come across more manly AT FIRST. in reality, a nice man would be the most manly because he would probably treat his woman with the most respect.. and the a-holes turn out to be..not even men at all most the time.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? -doesnt bother me!

Is height really that important? -Im 5'1... so if hes shorter than me, yes. its TOO short!

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? -Myself, i dont think ive ever seen a "shower"! all my guys have grown a lot when they become hard.. sooooo

Besides, does size really matter? -Too big IS painful.. thats all i have to say on that lol

What do you really think when a man cries? -Depends on what hes crying about...but if its called for, i dont think anything of it.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? -The maturity & stability

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? -your absolutely right!!

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice? -.......were just being nice

How do you remember all these anniversaries? -Just call us hopeless romantics

Why don't you go topless more often? -Make us feel like we have the best bodies ever and we will =)

Ohh...any talk of mens anatomy and my eyes glaze over...sorry, did you say something?

An observance of mine: I've had guy friends complain that they keep meeting women who act like they don't need any man - and these are nice, cute guys who want to get married and have kids, but maybe we all sometimes go for people we shouldn't.

Although I have a weakness for mens chest hair (something raw & animalistic about it for me), I'd have to say a quality I go for is kindness. It runs the whole gamut: nice to strangers, parents, friends, children, animals, servers in a restaurant. I equate it to mean the man would be nice to me. Shows compassion - yup...irresistible.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? Its incredibly sexy to hear a man moan and lose control!

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? A kind heart

why are we so competitive? there's millions of girls and like 10 "great catches." making other girls (that we aren't friends with, of course) feel less confident helps us gain more footing, since you guys like those confident chicks and all. if you were facing those odds you'd be an uptight jerk too. also - it makes us feel good.

why do we date a-holes? variety of reasons: we're still looking for a great catch, he has a giant you know what and the sex is great, he's hot and we want him around to show off, he doesn't care about picking up the tab unlike our LAST boyfriend who wanted to go dutch for a redbox movie.

pubic hair? i'm not an idiot, i don't obsess over pubic hair. yeah, i have my preferences, but who wants their stuff to be compared to a chia pet? never again.

razor stubble? YES because it's hot and sexy and scruffy. NO because making out with a razor stubble face can only possibly lead to hot sex with razor stubble guy and can definitely lead to a red irritated face for the rest of the day. some people say it's worth it.

why don't we believe them when they tell us they're not interested? oh we believe them, but GAME ON. it has just become my mission in life to prove your shortsighted, over gelled, probably fake italian suit wearing ass wrong. also because we all think we're special and somehow better than every other girl and when someone says we're not we just think that they just don't see it.

is height that important? dealbreaker, no, but it's nice. along the same line of reasoning as "are big boobs that important?" maybe you'll say no, but ms. AA that comes around is going to have to make a pretty strong case for dating her, because if you marry her for the rest of your life you'll be the guy with the girl with no boobs. no girl wants to be the girl with the tiny boyfriend. plus short guys look sad next to our girlfriends' average/tall boyfriends.

some girls think they can judge the size of a flaccid penis. they're also the type of women that "always have to be right and smarter than you." so you know, most of us. why? i don't know. they couldn't have slept with very many people, because i think that's something you learn around #5-#10.

does size matter? YES. if anyone says no i would guess that their boyfriend that they're madly in love with has a small penis and they're just saying that to try to make themselves believe that they don't care. OR they can't get any penis at all and will take any they can get. OR they've never had sex with a man with a really big one. but i talk to girls, lots of girls. and we care. once you go 8 or longer, hard to go back.

why do you care when you say we have pms? because you're undermining the argument we're really making - you did something dumb and now you have to feel bad for it.

men crying? oh god. limit it to once or twice a year, or else you're a drama queen. exceptions for when family members or friends die. not coworkers/barely known acquaintances/when "friends" went off the air. i once had a boyfriend who cried during the last episode of friends. gross.

initiating sex? because you guys don't give women enough time to crave it in a long term relationship. outside of a long term relationship, different story. i don't think anyone that knew me in college would say i had trouble "initiating sex."

older men? money, power maybe? easier to fantasize that you're having sex with george clooney/richard gere?

power of boobies?

appeal of gay men? THEY GET WHERE WE'RE COMING FROM.

morning sex? guess what, if you're somewhat endowed and jump us first thing in the morning, we hurt all day. yeah fun every now and then, but cleaning your you know what out of my underwear during my lunch break is all but sexy.

getting up close with a man's junk: because other girls have done it and they lived? i don't know. if i did not know of one person that did that to a guy i think i would be less likely to go through with it. but with porn being more widely available because of the internet we see that lots of girls do it, so we do too? but sometimes it smells really bad and then someone has to draw the line. go shower.

anniversaries? girls who remember too many anniversaries need those dates to justify that what they have going on with a guy is "real" and "special." see: "insecure." having 1 a year anniv is ok and a good excuse to do something extra special together.

topless: without bras, boobs look kind of weird and slightly unappealing. i would go topless in my bra if society didn't frown upon that. oh, topless at home? feels weird.

looks fade, i know every woman varies but i guess i'm looking for someone that isn't TOO hard on the eyes (doesn't have to be brad pitt but come on, SOME facial symmetry is necessary), i have to see something in them that will keep me interested in the long haul. smart guys usually satisfy this requirement. sometimes super fun guys do. also, it's good if a guy is original. they can make their own decisions, decide where they stand on positions and don't let people easily sway them. oh and they don't quote the simpsons every other freaking time they open their mouth. that was the genesis of the "be original" requirement.

turn off? being dumb. that's it. i will accept guys that are "not smart," but dumb/not educated would just be setting myself up for a life full of spinning my wheels and not getting anywhere. can't reason with an idiot.

thank you for the procrastination break!!! now back actual work.

Here are the answers I can think of, kinda long, but hopefully helpful.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
For one, I don't think women do it for guys, most realise guys don't notice/care. As for the real reason? Ego. It's the cheap (who am I kidding?) way to raise our self-esteem.

Why do you date a-holes? What is this allure of the Bad Boy? You like being used and abused and dumped? Really? Why? Does being nice automatically make a guy a wuss?
Blame nature on that one. Ever seen two male *(insert animal)* fighting? Do females go help the wounded and have their babies? Do they care if the winner was a douchebag for starting the fight? Women who fall for douchebags usually can't see past these instincts and haven't developed better ways of choosing guys to be with. Women who stay with douchebags are just idiots. If you don't know you're with a douchebag someone will let you know, so it's always on you if you keep up with their crap.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? I think somehow we're wired to think men are as likely as women to do one thing and mean something completely different. It's not exactly reasonable, most of the time I don't understand other women.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him?
See the part about douchebags. Sorry for being so "Sheldon-ish".

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"?
Depends on why they're crying. When there's good reason to cry, though, I'm more likely to think a guy's a jackass if he doesn't cry than think he's a wuss if he does.

What is the appeal of gay men? Almost every woman we know has at least one gay male friend. What's the attraction? They are non-threatening? They're just one of the girls? What?
Ever hear a woman rant about how annoying it is to have men ogling her? Gay men don't do that. That's how much we appreciate not being thought of as sex dolls. Also, they're not as competitive (with women) as other women are.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice?
Sometimes it's raw animal instinct that makes it appealing, sometimes it's knowing you like it. (So please be thankful and don't pretend we're disgusting for getting up close and personal with your junk, it's yours to begin with).

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks?
Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of?
I'll put it this way: learn to use your eyes. Know when to look at me lovingly, when to be playful, when to overlook the huge pimple on the tip of my nose, when to look at me as if I were *(insert porn star/actress of choice)*, and when to look at other women (hint--> whenever I'm not looking).

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).
Shameless stupidity. I'm not secretly hoping you're Einstein's zombie undercover, just learn your limits.

Size only matters if the guy is too small, which is very rare since most guys fall in the average category, as you pointed out. I've never known a woman to criticize the size of man's schlong when he's flaccid - that's just neither fair nor relevant.

Crying is okay as long as there's a good reason and isn't at the drop of a hat or every time there's a sad commercial on TV or something.

Women don't like having their bad moods pointed out or being accused of having PMS any more than men do. It's just rude.

We don't mind getting up close & personal with the junk because it makes men feel good and they do the same for us. Besides, as long as everybody is clean it's not that big a deal!

The one time I had a crush on an a-hole... he was a full-on jerk, totally not my type. But he was very attractive and he would give me attention one day, then take it away the next. It was dangerous and exciting, never knowing what to expect. I don't think it's the fact that the dude is a prick, he just mixes up the mundane. For some people (me) anyway. Got over him, dated his (much sweeter) roommate :D

Penis size? Only matters when it's hard, then it's more about what you do with it. (Girth over length, personally.)

Boobies? We are well aware of their power. We just choose to use it for good and not for evil. Most of the time.

Gay men? Fab-u-lous. They are like girlfriends but with better sex advice.

Everybody cries. I don't want my motives judged when I cry, so fair is fair.

What am I thinking when I'm up close and personal with a guy's junk? Depends on the guy, but usually, "Oooooh, mama like!"

Most important? That's easy. A kind heart. (Although a nice ass never hurts.)

Why do we date a-holes? Mmmmmm - I think it is the drama aspect of it, plus the whole "we can totally turn him into a good guy I just know it" thing we women seem to have even the most callous bi*** still seems to have that nurturing side. We are weird, what can I say?

Razor stubble yea or nay I love razor stubble, I think it looks incredibly sexy, but it's not a requirement.

Does size really matter? For me not really, I mean if a guy has a small dick it isn't a deal breaker. Although I do have to say I prefer width over length any day.

What do I think of a man when he cries Depends what it is over, if his team lost the football I may just have to mock him. But if his dog died then I would be a full on sucker and probably sleep with him then and there to make him feel better.

Why don't we initiate sex more often If I had boyfriend at the moment I would initiate sex every god damn chance I got! I miss sex.

Why do we underestimate the power of boobies I am still amazed that boobies or a bit of cleavage can get me anywhere, it truly is astounding. I guess I forget about them at times, I really need to remember to use them the next time I go out. I guess we don't think men are that stupid, we think "nah they won't fall for boobies" but you do! It's awesome!

Why don't we have morning sex? Morning sex is one of my favourite types of sex ever. Nothing hotter than waking up and jumping each other in my opinion.

Why don't we go topless more often? For me personally, it is being incredibly self-conscious about my body, stupid I know but for me that is the reason. Other women I can't speak for.

Most important characteristic in a guy? For me it is definitely a sense of humour and being able to laugh at himself. Nothing is sexier than a guy who knows how to laugh at himself.

Biggest turn off? Not standing up for himself, his beliefs, his relationships, his choices. I can't be with a guy who can't stand by his choices he makes in his own life.

Now those answers are just my personal opinion. From the looks of it all us women agree on some things and vary on others, go figure huh :)

Dear Wise-Ass,

Why do you date a-holes?

I'd like to believe that dating a-holes is our hardships before we finally earn the right to find a good, decent man and have a happily ever after. Life can't be all good, that includes our love lives. I believe the same question also applies to men.

Razor stubble: yea or nay?

Yay. Stubble is sexy as hell.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?

Because we are either denial or proud.

Is height really that important?

To me, yes. I'd like my man to be taller, and being 157 cm (that's about 5'1"), I don't think that's a tall order.

What do you really think when a man cries?

I think, "He has a gentle heart". And not afraid to show it. Men are human too, crying is a sign their hearts haven't turned into stone.

Why are many of you attracted to older men?

Because older men have many qualities that can only be gained or cultivated as time goes by. For example, maturity and stability. Some women, including I, don't want much drama in our relationships.

What is the appeal of gay men?

My gay friend is lively, cheerful, friendly and just make me happy to be around him. And they're better listeners than most straight men. I often find myself confiding in them than in my girls.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning?

Because, my dear Wise-Ass, 3-5 minutes is to boil eggs, not to have sex. To me, at least, sex is never done in minutes .. And it's not about the teeth, the breath, etc too, for me is about quality.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?

Because a man's junk is a Nature's wondrous gift, that's why. I am able to appreciate a man's junk just as much you guys appreciate our boobies.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?

Well, I don't make it a point to remember it on purpose, nor I force my man to remember them, let alone celebrate it or something of the sort. I remember because they are important events in my life that involves you, the man I love. That's reason enough to remember.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?

Maturity.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?

Immaturity.

Sincerely yours,
Dita.

Why do you date a-holes? Personally, I have never dated an a-hole. I've only ever had one friend date an a-hole, and it was during a time when her self esteem was really low. I have to add though, that guys who constantly complain about how nice guys never win are the worst people to date though. It's nothing but emotional manipulation.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? And aren't you sick of seeing guys with Van Dyke beards? Razor stubble hurts sometimes when it comes into contact with skin, but it looks really sexy. And I think the other question is rhetorical.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? He called you for two weeks, you had sex, now he's MIA. It's not rocket science. - Well, sometimes, our sensitive delicate hearts like to think that we mean more to him than just a lay and it hurts to accept that it was nothing more. It's hard to deal with rejection rationally.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him? I'm really short myself, and the only requirement I think, is that a guy needs to be able to pick me up and run. Evolutionary reasons no doubt.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? You've heard of "growers" and "showers," right? Famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey found that shorter flaccid dongs tend to gain about twice as much length as longer flaccid ones. The truth: a vast majority of penises (anywhere from 78-90%, depending on whom you believe) are about the same size when erect.

Here's a question, why are guys so obsessed about penis size? Girls don't really care unless it's pathologically tiny/huge. Seriously. I don't know, do men think that one extra inch will cause non-stop orgasm in a woman or something?

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? We hear what you're saying; we just think you're overreacting a little bit. Because you are. Why deny it?

I don't deny it. But I fully claim my right to act like a crazed gorilla. Too much estrogen/testosterone/pain for friendly me to function.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection? Welcome to our world. If you want some, why not come and get it? You won't be rejected very often, trust me.

I initiate a lot with my boyfriend, but I can't imagine approaching a stranger for it. I'd feel really easy, I think.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?

Older men are less stupid, more likely to remain calm, more likely to behave chivalrously, more intelligent and I think, generally in a better place financially.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? Yes, you do -- even those of you who think you are fully aware of the power of boobs. You aren't. A little bit of cleavage has power beyond your comprehension.

I don't like to use my body to get what I want. Makes me feel like I'm less of a person.

What is the appeal of gay men? Almost every woman we know has at least one gay male friend. What's the attraction? They are non-threatening? They're just one of the girls? What? Gay guys are super protective, but they don't want to sleep with you and it's great. It's like having your own Edward Cullen, but significantly less creepy.

Why don't you go topless more often? We wouldn't object. Just saying... Don't want to flood the market with boobies.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of? I like guys who have a clear image of who they are and they don't pretend to be anything else.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above). Whining. When I see a guy complain all the time, it just gives off the impression that he's not worth my time.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
it doesn't have much to do with men, unless some broad's hitting on your fella.
i think it's a passive-aggressive way to dislike someone. if she's my friend or she seems nice, there's no problem. but if i dislike her, i'll mentally ridicule everything from her personality to her shoes.

Why do you date a-holes? What is this allure of the Bad Boy?
they come in disguise! i've dated or had crushes on so many guys who seemed nice until their best behavior wore off. but sometimes then you're already emotionally invested, and when they do anything that isn't obnoxious, if gives you false hope. i can tell you that i, and most ladies over age 19-ish, would never intentionally date a jerk.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
the potential horror of someone being grossed out by your hair choice is terrifying!

Razor stubble: yea or nay?
i like it, but it doesn't really matter. i kind of love handlebar mustaches.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
i guess that's false hope, too. i don't do that. i try to out-disinterest them. like, "you didn't call me back? well, i didn't like you in the first place, and i'm pretty sure i don't even remember your name."

Is height really that important?
not really. i'm pretty tall, so i got used to being as tall as men, and taller in heels, a long time ago. as long as he doesn't care, i don't. but if he makes an issue of it, then i feel like a lumbering freak.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
it seemed reasonable, but i guess we're wrong.

Besides, does size really matter?
no...i'd say it's more about a good match.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
everything that's annoying (or blood-boilingly infuriating) when you're pmsing is annoying/infuriating the rest of the month. pms doesn't change what makes you angry, it just messes with your ability to tolerate things. so when you complain (or totally blow your stack) over something that's truly irritating and it gets dismissed as pms...argh, that's just fury squared.

What do you really think when a man cries?
i want him to feel better, of course, but it makes me glad to know that he's not icy-cold or a robot or anything.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection?
yes! fear of rejection!

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?
aside from gold diggers, i guess it's just a personal preference. and some men get better looking with age...like the blue wiggle, as i learned while babysitting my niece.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
lots of ladies feel like their racks need to have all the best qualities of fake and real boobs at the same time, which is impossible. so most women are insecure about them.

What is the appeal of gay men?
i ususally have a lot in common with them, but without the unpleasantries that can come with female interactions (like in your first question).

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning?
no problem!

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?
we like 'em! i guess it's pheromones or something. some miracle of science/nature. and vaginas aren't exactly a rose garden.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?
i don't remember them...maybe vaguely, like, "it was in the beginning of january". but making a big deal of every, single anniversary is overkill.

Why don't you go topless more often? We wouldn't object. Just saying...
insecurity, like i said. also, i find it physically uncomfortable to just let them go willy-nilly for long.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of?
i'd say sense of humor. laughing's fun, of course, and it tells you a lot about your compatibility. is there anything more awkward than a date with someone who doesn't laugh at your jokes? also, you can tell when someone's a d-bag by what he thinks is funny.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).
cockiness has such a wide spectrum...it can range from a little swagger to donald trump. maybe that's why there's confusion. i'd say rudeness, myself. being out with someone who's not polite to the waitress, for example, is horrifying.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
it's not always about competition. And guys are just as competitive, just in different ways.

Why do you date a-holes?
because everyone is kind of an ass-hole. but personally, extreme asshole-ness is not cool.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
You never know what your guy will prefer the first time around. Sometimes they care, sometimes they don't.

Razor stubble: I can't stand selective shaving. beard or go clean.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
Naiveté. After a while you catch on. P.S. guys have done this to me too...

Is height really that important?
Not really. But everyone has preferences.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
I don't. Who does that?

Besides, does size really matter? I look at this like I look at politics/religion: extremes are bad. But for the most part I've never complained.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
It shows a lack of sensitivity for our feelings.

What do you really think when a man cries?
If he is a crier in general, I can't stand it. But everybody hurts, sometimes.

Why don't you initiate sex more often?
Sex with strangers? probably fear of rejection. Sex with boyfriend? they are just silly.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? usually maturity.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
I'm not sure anymore. I thought I was well aware...

What is the appeal of gay men?
For me, I was in theater so I just happened to make a lot of gay friends.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?
No problem.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?
Being horny makes everyone do crazy things.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?
This is a girl stereotype. I can't even remember my guy's birthday half the time.

Why don't you go topless more often?
Gravity.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?
Varies, just like it does for guys looking at girls.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?
Laziness.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
I don't know why they are. I try not to be friends with girls that are because I don't get it either. That's why most of my friends are guys. I would say they are that way (just like some guys are) out of insecurity. You wanna compete with me? Fine, you win. I don't give a rat's ass.

Why do you date a-holes? What is this allure of the Bad Boy? You like being used and abused and dumped? Really? Why? Does being nice automatically make a guy a wuss?
We like a guy with a nice set of balls and who has a backbone. Those tend to be the bad boys or assholes. We try to bring out the nice guy in them, but it usually fails. Being nice doesn't automatically make you a wuss--being meek does.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
I don't obsess over my pubic hair. I keep my area tidy just for cleanliness sake and so when I wear certain clothes, you don't see a big lumpy bush spot.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? And aren't you sick of seeing guys with Van Dyke beards?
Hate razor stubble. Van Dyke beard? REALLY tired of it.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
I can't say for other women, but if they say they're not interested or show me that they're not, I walk away. I don't need to be told twice.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him?
I don't give two shits about height. As long as I find him attractive I don't care how tall he is. As long as he not a Little Person, I'm okay. But who knows. If I ever met a little person who was awesome, I might have dated them.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? You've heard of "growers" and "showers," right?
I never did judge a flaccid penis. Only hard ones.

Besides, does size really matter?
I think to some girls it does. I think it's really personal. Too small for some and they feel nothing, so they need something bigger. A really large one, and it may be painful for a chick. So I think size does matter, but that doesn't always mean larger.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? We hear what you're saying; we just think you're overreacting a little bit. Because you are. Why deny it?
I don't. I know when I am and I don't care if my husband calls me on it. Usually I'll call myself on it first.

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"? Awesome! He has feelings and he's not afraid to show them to me.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection? Welcome to our world. If you want some, why not come and get it?
Personally, I just don't think about it as often as men might. So it ends up that he initiates it more often because he's thinking about it more often then I am. When I'm in the mood though, I don't mind jumping his bones.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?
Never been attracted to any age range of men. I just like them. Doesn't matter their age as long as they're legal and have a good personality and I find them attractive.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
I don't underestimate mine. I use them to their full advantage.

What is the appeal of gay men? Almost every woman we know has at least one gay male friend. What's the attraction? They are non-threatening? They're just one of the girls? What?
I just like all kinds of people. I'm friends with gay guys because I find them just as cool and interesting as any of my other friends.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?
Plain and simple--For me, I'm not a morning person AT ALL.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice?
I don't like it. I do it to be nice.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? First date... first kiss... first time you spent the night... first Dutch oven. Does it matter? Why? Are we really supposed to remember these things, too? Why?
I don't need a guy to remember all the little ones. Wedding anniversary and birthday is all I need them to remember. How do I remember? Pop up calendar on my computer.

Why don't you go topless more often?
I get cold easily.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of?
A great sense of humor. I really need a guy who can make me laugh. Smart and a good heart.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).
Cocky to me is a turn off. Confidence is not a turn off. There is a fine line between the two. Biggest turn off? When they treat all women like their whores or bitches. Those guys have issues.

Why are you so competitive with each other? Well I want the best for myself. But, i do play fair.

Why do you date a-holes? Because they are so masculine. It seems these days like many guys are so timid and scared and just not confident and masculine, its SUCH a turn-off. Ladies date assholes because they are chatted up and flirted with by assholes all the time. Duh.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? I groom for myself too! I just dont feel clean when I have stuff grown down there. Yuck!

Razor stubble: yea or nay? SEXXXXYYY!

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? SOmetimes I just get vibes like they are lying lol, but 99% of the time I accept it as true.

Is height really that important? He just has to be taller than me (5'6''). But the taller the better. I like tall men, they are so strong and manly and sexy!

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? I dont. know they aren't indicative of real size. I'm a smart cookie!

Besides, does size really matter? For a boyfriend, not really. For a friend with benefit? YES. Its no like we like them bigger..but theres a lot that guys could do otherwise. I'd rather a guy who's just really sexy aggressive in bed over a guy with a big dick but was so boring.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? We hear what you're saying; we just think you're overreacting a little bit. Because you are. Why deny it? I'm actually on the pill and take it continuously so I dont have periods. Yes I know, I'm the ideal woman! Jkjk....but not really..

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"?
It's sexy that he's in touch with his feelings.
Why don't you initiate sex more often? I initiate all the time, I'm not one of those scared women ;)

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? The maturity. God I'm so sick of college boys and thier pot and ramen. I can't wait to date men with their sh*t together!

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? EHH I feel like its cheap. I'd rather impres with my brains.

What is the appeal of gay men? THey are just so intoxicatingly fun!

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?
I love morning sex, count me in! but it better last longer than 3 minutes!

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice?
It's sexy, it really is. I dont know, its just fun. and sexy.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? I have the memory of an elephant seriously, but i dont consider stuff other than an actual anniverssary that important.

Why don't you go topless more often? I keep my boobies in my bra! They gotta stay perky! but i do walk around in just a bra and panties so there.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Tenacity.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? Lack of confidence/shy.

OK, so I have been told by my boyfriend that I am intimidating....what does that mean? I am fairly good looking and my body is ok, I have great boobies and butt to match and MY GUY turns me down all the time...he says it's LOW 'T'. talk to me about that. I would love to have sex with my guy just after brushing of the teeth. I adore him and would do anything to make him happy, with that being said leads me to his junk that is his preference and he says all my bady parts are tight and wonderful he just prefers the BJ....I am very very clean and he hardly gown down there and when we were younger he did all the time....So now what. I feel that when men feel vulnerable and in love or heven for bid "INTIMATE' they BOLT in their minds and seperate them self from us....then we feel empty and unLOVED or not loveable which in turn makes us retreit and pull away to protect ourself from the heart pain of the preceived rejection. So, my big question is how do we as men and women over come that cycle?

Why are you so competitive with each other?

Don’t know – this is why I’m not a lesbian This is also why I don’t have that many female friends.

Why do you date a-holes? What is this allure of the Bad Boy? You like being used and abused and dumped? Really? Why? Does being nice automatically make a guy a wuss?

This one I have to address – maybe in several parts.
1. The bad boy doesn’t waste hours or years worrying about whether a girl likes him, if he’ll get rejected etc. He goes right in and makes his move. We don’t know the decent guy is interested . . . so quit sitting around waiting and get right in there and make your best shot. Then YOU’LL have our attention (and possibly a hook-up) too.
2. We’re all young and inexperienced once and we’re entitled to a mistake (or two). After that, you’ve gotta figure the girl who likes this stuff is kind of psycho-crazy anyway - so why do you guys keep chasing those “unbalanced/scary” chicks anyway.
3. Ultimately, those a-holes make even the most average guy seem 10,000 times better, so ultimately he’s doing the rest of you a favor.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? I don’t. Unless I think I’m definitely getting laid. Then I get OCD about it. Take it as a compliment – if I’M worried about it – it means I plan on sleeping with you. .
Razor stubble: yea or nay? Honey you’re hot EITHER way. So have fun, go stubble, then shave, then go stubble, etc. . . . However when you get to the ZZ Top beard stage, I’m totally grossed out.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?

Even worse, we don’t believe men when they show or tell us they ARE interested. Deep down, we don’t believe ANYTHING you say. O.k?

Is height really that important? No. Unless you’re painting my house that is.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? Never thought about it really. So we definitely don’t think about it NEARLY as much as YOU do.
Besides, does size really matter? No, and again,. we definitely don’t think about it NEARLY as much as YOU do. (Big hint: What you do has far more impact than what you do it with).
If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? Because WE KNOW.!!!!!! WE’RE DEALING WITH IT!!!! O.K.??????????????? Just give me some wine and chocolate and leave me alone. O.K.???????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
What do you really think when a man cries? Same as when anyone cries – someone needs a hug.
Why don't you initiate sex more often? Trust me. I do. It’s just when you respond, you think it’s your idea.
Why are many of you attracted to older men? Maturity? Yes. Security? Maybe . . . . Or do they remind you of Daddy? Definitely not (yuck).
Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? I don’t think we’re talking about my boobies. But for those who have that power, I say use it and lucky you.
What is the appeal of gay men? What's the attraction? They are non-threatening? They're just one of the girls? Yes and Yes.
Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? It’s my favorite form of alarm clock. Isn’t that everyone’s favorite way to start the day?
How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? I can’t, unless it’s yours. But yours is perfect and fun to play with.
How do you remember all these anniversaries? Actually, I really don’t. But I’ll make something up if I want to bug you.
Why don't you go topless more often? I still don’t think we’re talking about my boobies. But hey, I’ll happily play are they real or not if you want to watch a topless movie. On second thought, if you’d like to invest a boob-job I’ll be happy to go topless anytime you want. I may not be able to leave them alone myself!!!
What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Not really. Money? Not at all (I’m far more worried about my money than his anyway). Sense of humor? Yes. Kindness? Absolutely. Or some intangible we're not aware of? Oh Yeah (although I’m not sure what that intangible is either).
What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? Self- centered. Immature. Mean and angry (has high potential to become abusive). This can also be seen in someone who is incredibly rude (or another name for it, cocky).

Why are you so competitive with each other?: Because, we think that if we aren't the pick of the litter you'll drop us like a surprise prom night baby in a dumpster (yes, I'm probably going to hell for that.)

Why do you date a-holes?: Because A-holes don't always show at first. They kinda tend to cover it up, and then it shows once we're already feeling something for them.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?: This? This is a good question. Hell if I know.

Razor stubble: yea or nay?: Depends, if he's go anywhere below the belt, no stubbles. Nothing kills a moment like cooch-tickling.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?: I believe them.

Is height really that important?: Height is not a make or break deal. It's nice to have someone taller just because it feels like that person is bigger and stronger, and more capable of protecting you, but I think that's just something ingrained in the female brain from back in the day when it was all about mating with the biggest, burliest caveman, so that your babies were healthy.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?: I was never aware that I thought this. Thank you for telling me I was thinking this. But seriously, I don't think all girls do. I don't.

Besides, does size really matter?: Not really. Being good in bed doesn't mean you've got superjunk, it just means yo can work with the equipment you've got.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? Because sometimes you guys call PMS and it's not PMS, it's you actually being a d-bag. Now on the times when you say it and they are, then they really shouldn't get pissed off. I don't.

What do you really think when a man cries?: I instantly kick into nurture mode and want to hold him and make things better for him. But I don that with everyone.

Why don't you initiate sex more often?: Depends on the girl. Some girls just don't think about sex as much when it's readily available. Some are afraid. And some were raised in the mode of being sexually submissive, to where they HAVE to have the man make the move.

Why are many of you attracted to older men?: Maturity. Not only that but older men are more likely to want to settle down sooner and have families, get married, whatnot. Some girls dig that.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? I don't. I loves me some boobies. Yes please.

What is the appeal of gay men?: I think it's the best of both worlds, kinda. He can still play video games with you, but he can also talk about that hot guy you met at the mall or whatever.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning?: Bring on the morning sex! But seriously, for some girls a quickie just isn't enough, and then they've gotta go the whole rest of the day wanting more.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?: Mostly, we're doing it just because we want our guys to feel as good as they can make us feel. That and it's kinda empowering knowing you have control of when and how long it takes for them to get off. But that just might be me.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?: Good question. I usually only remember two things. The day we officially become a couple (facebook tells me, lol) and his birthday. That's about it. Girls who remember more scare me...

Why don't you go topless more often?: Because then you'd have nothing to work for. ;)

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?: Respect. Hands down, because it's all inclusive.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?: Lack of priorities.

Wow, I feel all cool answering all of these.

-- Why are we competitive? I don't think I am that much. Or I try not to be anyway. I'm not much into worrying about clothing brand labels or shoes or makeup and such. I just don't have time for that stuff and think most of it is just frivolous nonsense. I try to set goals for myself instead of comparing myself to some one else. I'm not always successful at that, but I give it a go.
--Why do we date a-holes? Sometimes they are the only ones who will notice us or give us the time of day. It's a lonely world out there.
--I don't obsess over pubic hair. That's just silly. I have more important things than that to worry about.
--Razor stubble, I don't like it much. I prefer a man to be clean-shaven. Makes a face much nicer to kiss and be kissed by. Beards, neatly trimmed, are OK too. Razor stubble is scratchy and makes my skin all red. Razor stubble just looks like the guy was too lazy or didn't care enough to shave to me.
--Height? Not a deal breaker, either way, but I think we all have some sort of ideal that we seek out. It has more to do with being a good fit with someone than anything else, I think.
--Penis size, flaccid or not, or whatever. Not an issue. What kind of a lover a guy is matters much, much more. Being giving, generous, caring, and respectful during sex is where it counts. Paying attention to what your partner needs and likes and wants is what is really most important, in my opinion.
--PMS We just want you to be extra caring and understanding for us during that time. We know we are crabby and sad and not feeling well. We say things we don't mean and get teary eyed over nothing because our hormones are off balance. We don't want you to make us feel like our feelings are unimportant just because they seem unreasonable to you. Even if they seem unreasonable to us as well, they are still how we feel. Our brains can see the situation as it is, but our emotions are the ones in charge when we are PMSing. Seriously, our bodies are literally chemically altered then. Our backs hurt, we have migraine headaches, every little thing makes us want to cry. We just want a little kindness and respect and maybe a little extra TLC.
--Men crying? I have no problems with that. My first response to a crying man would most likely be to want to comfort him and give him a hug and try to make him feel better. Happy tears are always good too.
--I have no problems with initiating sex. If I'm in the mood, I'm there.
--I'm not particularly attracted to older men or younger men. I think I am mostly attracted to men approximately my same age within a few years range either way who think like I do and who have had similar life experiences to my own which we can talk about. I don't want to date men who are a father figure or men who are young enough to be my son either. Somewhere in the middle there is just fine for me. There has to be some common ground in there so we have things to talk about and share.
--I realize the power of the boobies, but would generally like to be known for other things besides being able to let the girls roam free. Anyone can wear a low cut top. I'd prefer to think of them as just a part of the whole package not as the main and only attraction. They are there to be shared, yes, but I don't need to share them with the whole world.
--Gay men. Hmm, to my knowledge, I don't have any gay men friends. I wouldn't be opposed to the idea. It just hasn't happened. Or I'm friends with them, and they haven't revealed their sexual preferences to me, which is possible.
--Morning sex? Absolutely! Let's have at it! There is no bad time of day for sex as far as I'm concerned.
--Up close and personal? Oh baby... It's not hideous. It's all good. Really it is! Yes, yes, yes.
--Anniversaries? Well, you fellows don't have to remember all of the ones that you mentioned. The anniversary of your wedding day seems like it ought to be a pretty important one to remember and perhaps take note of, though, in my opinion.
--Topless? Where I live six months out of the year, going topless would make the girls turn blue from the cold. That's not good. The other six months of the year, I am very fair skinned and they'd end up sunburned. Also not good. Aside from the weather, there's that whole "it's sort of against the law to roam around town with your breasts exposed" thing that makes it rather prohibitive. Additionally, see the answer above with regard to the power of the boobies. That answer also applies here.
--Most important characteristic? Kindness, above all else, kindness.
--Biggest turn-off? The opposite of kindness. Being rude and mean and cruel to someone just for the sake of it is the biggest turn-off for me.

I like this game!

Why are you so competitive with each other?
--> You're right, most of the time women are competing for male attention and do what they think you guys want. But competition is biologically ingrained in us, just like 'spreading your seed as far and wide as possible' is biologically ingrained in you guys. In the animal kingdom there's usually 1 male to a whole bunch of females... so we have to try to out-do each other in order to hold your attention.
But the secret to holding a guy's attention isn't to be 'better' than other women... I think it's more like being different, exciting and ever-changing... I mean, we should have a core personality, but be fun and open and adventurous... well that's how I am anyway haha so of course I would want to think that's what's important to a guy

Why do you date a-holes?
--> I don't. I've got a lot of pride and self-respect.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
--> I've been waxing for years- before I even had a bf. Truly, I do it for me... he just benefits from it haha... though I do try to schedule them so that I'm nice and fresh when I know he'll be around :)

Razor stubble: yea or nay?
--> It's very sexy... unless it gets too long... then it looks kind of gross... but I actually prefer stubble to clean shaven...

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
--> If a man doesn't show interest in me, I lose interest in him. I've got a lot more to do in my life than chase after a guy... besides, I never trust guys intentions to begin with... so if you're going to date me, you're going to wait a while before getting any

Is height really that important?
--> I like to think it is... I'm tall for a girl (5'6") but my bf is only 5'10"... so in theory and ideally, yes... but in actuality, apparently not! Kind of like how you'd all ideally like to date Jessica Alba, but in actuality, well, you won't...

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
--> I don't have much experience in this field (only 1 bf ever! even though I'm 22 ha)... there is a big difference though, I'll say that...

Besides, does size really matter?
--> Once again, I've only experienced one... though I think it may be on the smaller side of average... but honestly, it's perfect for me... but I think it depends on the girl... we're all different down there and we all have different preferences... so I don't think there's an easy answer here...

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
--> Just the word PMS makes the situation worse... I refer to it as being 'more sensitive' or 'more emotional'... I try own up to it... I will admit when I think that's the root cause of the 'issue'... but if a girl is angry or upset, stay away from those 3 letters

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"?
--> Please do not cry in front of me... it makes my heart feel like it's tearing apart... since I'm so used to men being manly and not ever crying (my father), it makes me think that when a guy does cry that it's really the end of the world or something... I can't bear it...
But on the other hand, there have been times where my bf got tears in his eyes (like when we almost broke up) and I actually found it endearing... so long as they stayed in his eyes, of course

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection?
--> Yes, I am afraid of rejection... it's also different for women bc men are 'supposed' to always want it... you're all used to it... it's scary for me! My bf has actually turned it down a few times and it's actually really hurtful... but I've been getting better and initiating more... slowly but surely ha

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?
--> Don't be creepy please... but yes, all of the above... mostly security... also bc older men appreciate women more and really know how to take care of us (at least in our minds)... plus, they are fabled to be better lovers and understand that real love-making cannot be learned from porn movies...

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
--> Yeh, I really do underestimate the power of boobies... I just don't understand the obsession... mine are on the larger side but I don't really use them or flaunt or advertise them... I actually wish they were one cup size smaller!

What is the appeal of gay men?
--> In my experience, they tend to be very dramatic... but yes, many women find them to be comfortable to hang out with bc they are male but are non-threatening

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?
--> Hahaha, I laughed out loud... I love starting my day off right ;) no problem for me! And truly, it's better when you just wake up, before even brushing your teeth... took some convincing from my bf but I tried it and now think it's just super :)

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice?
--> Yeh, everything you said (plus a a bunch of other reasons) are all reasons why I have never found the appeal to get up close and personal with my bf's crotchular area... so I don't have any experience with this matter... but at least you're aware!

How do you remember all these anniversaries? First date... first kiss... first time you spent the night... first Dutch oven. Does it matter? Why? Are we really supposed to remember these things, too? Why?
--> Well, I actually don't remember our technical anniversary date... we kind of made one up... but it's in the ballpark... there was never a defining moment... it just kind of happened anyway... it's not like one minute we're just dating the next we're bf/gf... it's gradual so it's hard to really judge... I think it's really nice to have an annual anniversary though... both me and my bf think it's special and important to share that (made-up) date haha

Why don't you go topless more often?
--> I'm one of those people that loves to be naked... like, every chance I get... I typically prance about in my undies... I can't help it, I like to feel free!

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of?
--> I can't pick just one... sorry

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?
--> Selfishness.

Why are you so competitive with each other? :Same reason men are. Everyone's competitive. And it has nothing to do with attracting men. If, say, a girl gets promoted over me at work despite being younger and possibly less talented than me, you better believe I'm going to show up the next day with a nicer purse.
Why do you date a-holes? :Because that's what most people are. What other option is there? Celibacy?
Why do you obsess over pubic hair? :We don't. Unless you're a swimsuit model or something. Who have you been dating?
Razor stubble: yea or nay? :Depends on how rough it is. It looks good on some guys, but it's not worth it if kissing you is going to feel like steel wool on my face.
Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? :We don't. We're not idiots.
Besides, does size really matter? :Of course it matters (yes, to everyone), but that's NOT the same as saying "bigger is better." Any time you're going to have a foreign object inserted into your body, you try telling me that you have no preference as to size. But everyone's different as to what dimensions, curvature, overall stiffness they prefer. Anyone who thinks that big, small, long, short, curved, straight, fat, or thin all feel the same should probably wonder why the most pleasure-sensitive part of their body seems to be so numb. Either that, or they might want to be a little more engaged in what's going on down there. Or maybe they've only experienced on esize and wouldn't know the difference, I don't know. But size and shape of a man's member changes everything about how (the penis-insertion part of) sex feels.
If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? :While of course there are hormones in play, the fact is that having PMS is a pretty miserable time. You feel sick, you're in excruciating pain (for some people), you're stiff and sore all over, your body feels gross and uncomfortable, and you have to haul your ass down to the drugstore in this condition to pick up pads and tampons. Imagine someone squashing your balls for an entire week. Now add nausea and genital bleeding. Then, have someone dismiss what you're going through as "just PMS", as if it's either unworthy of attention or is somehow a crime. If you had to menstruate once in your life, I guarantee you'd be a lot more sympathetic from then on.
What do you really think when a man cries? :Depends on why he's crying. A man crying is no different than a woman crying. Some do it because they're genuinely upset, some do it because they're way too oversensitive, and some do it for attention. So the question is: why are you crying, Cary?
Why don't you initiate sex more often? :Because most men are bad at it. If sex were a mutually enjoyable experience (as it ought to be), we totally would. But we're not usually in a rush to play out some fantasy inspired by an industry (porn) targeted at you and not us which will only leave us feeling humiliated and unsatisfied. Just sayin'.
Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? :They're just round chests. Get over it.
Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? :Personally, I'm not a morning person. But once I've had that first cup of coffee, I'm game.
How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? :Being nice. Actually, we sometimes feel like it's mandatory- how many men have told a woman that they "need" a blow job. It's expected of us. Girls are giving blow jobs at age thirteen now, convinced that it's the only way to get a boy to like them. The whole thing's pretty sick, when you think about it.
How do you remember all these anniversaries? :It's called a calendar. Ours usually has firemen on it, so we look at it a lot.
Why don't you go topless more often? :Because apparently our boobs are so powerful, they could rip open the space-time continuum if unleashed.

Competitiveness: I don't give a flying f**** about what others use, and I don't use designer items but if challenged, I am compelled to show the might of my superior intellect and looks.

Dating a-holes: I don't. See reply to question 1.

Obsessing over nature's growth: I don't.

Razor stubble: Only if it goes well with the face. Any type of stylized beard is lame.

Men being not interested: I get if they don't want me quickly. I care for my dignity.

Height: Someone told me that there's no short dude who isn't an a-hole. So far no one has been able to disprove that to me. Men with my height or above are OK for me.

Size: It's more of an aesthetic issue. Guys should care more about being good at the activity.

PMS: I'm the first to admit when I'm having it.

When a man cries: "Do I have to comfort him?" or "Dude, get over it, there's another game next week".

Initiating the boat rocking: Rejection is the worst thing evah!

Older men: My dad was 24 when I was born. I am creeped out by men closer to his age than mine.

Boobies: I don't underestimate their power. I just don't unleash it very often.

Gay men: I don't have a close gay friend, so I don't know.

Morning duties: Best way to wake up.

Up Close and Personal: Sweat and bad odors are bad. Clean junk is just fine.

Anniversaries: Never remember that crap. Only birthdays.

Toplessness: Gravity.

Most important characteristic in a man: Being a loving, faithful, decent guy is 80% of the job. Not being a loser is the other 20%. Money and looks are better than not having them, but being fun is the cherry on the top.

Turn offs: Weakness, a-holery, very bad hygiene, being a show off.

I love that women love to talk... All these comments just prove that much like men, women are all different. You may be able to pick out some similarities, but everyone is different and it's hard to come up with universal "girlspeak."

That being said...
Why are you so competitive with each other?
- yeah, this one's not about guys at all. it's a girl thing and has nothing to do with you, except that sometimes it makes me feel better about myself and more confident in all areas of life, including attracting men. Even when it comes to looking hot at a bar- it's not really about attracting men, it's really "ha ha, he's looking at me, not you." This doesn't apply to close friends tho. I surround myself with people who I fully support. Seems contradictory? No- it's a pack thing. My pack is better than yours. This has lessened for me over the years tho. I tend to worry more about making myself happy than how i'm doing in comparison with others.

Why do you date a-holes?
-umm, I totes want a nice guy. A-holes are just most likely to ask me out because they are confident a-holes not afraid of rejection. The girls I know that ended up with nice guys just had dumb luck (e.g. locked lips in college and just fell into it) or did the pursuing.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
-really? who obsesses? I just do what I can to feel sexy.

Razor stubble: yea or nay?
-yea. sexy.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
- OH I believe. It just takes experience and good girlfriends.

Is height really that important?
-Sorta. Guys make it so. My super short friends got snatched up quickly by short guys. Which to me just proves that it's the guy who projects those kind of issues. God forbid they attempt to find a soul mate, but instead just pick a girl who doesn't threaten their self-image. Whatevs. Tall girls do it too (end up with really tall guys). I'm not trying to discount what they are attracted to, but I think it has more to do with the individual's view of themselves.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
-my ex got offended when I called him a "grower." Wasn't a judgment, just an observation... I don't judge.

Besides, does size really matter?
-I don't know. I'm going to give you a "guyspeak" answer and say, "does it matter if it matters?" if she's having sex with you, then just do whatever it takes and don't worry about it. If she's not having sex with you, then find someone who will.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
-I don't PMS that way. But my advice would be to just not go there. Just take it in stride, don't get all patronizing, know that it will pass.

What do you really think when a man cries?
-it breaks my heart that guys are programed to not express themselves more.

Why don't you initiate sex more often?
-we get rejected too...and since you are telling us that we won't get rejected often, it hurts that much more. I must be the most repulsive girl, cause what guy would turn down sex, right? And I think i'm personally afraid of appearing desperate. It's a double-standard. Men can appear desperate and it's funny...women appear desperate and it's sad.

Why are many of you attracted to older men?
-maturity. Fo sho. An older man WILL CALL YOU BACK. And prob ask yous on a proper date rather than suggesting that you "just hang." Plus older men can be freaky in bed because they are so confident. Fun.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
-I read this a few days ago and snagged me a guy for the night. I have been totes underestimating my boobies. Thanks for the heads-up.

What is the appeal of gay men?
-they're fun to hang out with? what's the appeal of anyone?

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning?
-I think most everyone gives a thumbs up to morning sex. I would say that no morning sex, and no initiating sex (addressing the previous question, but in this case assuming you are in a relationship) means she's just not that into you... Yikes. She's probably settling for a guy who doesn't really make her toes curl...but maybe he is nice and wants kids. Sad. One of my guy friends once said that it was a cruel joke that men and women have such different sex drives. Umm...no. It just means you don't really do it for her in the ways she needs you to. Or is due to hormonal birth control (lowers sex drives). Man up and use a condom.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?
-Yum.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?
-they are representative. For the same reason I remember the date my grandfather died. It's just one way to remember/acknowledge an important person/event.

Why don't you go topless more often?
-Don't pretend like you could handle that.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?
- a similar sense of humor. Mine is down-to-earth and kind, with a hint of dry quirkiness.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?
-closed mindedness.

first of all, most of your questions are statements follow by question marks, so i guess ur mostly trying to show u deserve ur nickname. nice! and i do find the humor in those :). but there are few that look like real concerns to you so ill give it a shot.
Why do i like a man taller than me? why do u like a woman's shapes(boobs ass or both)..its genetically programmed for a man to be attracted to a woman who is more likely to have children (it doesnt matter if u are the family guy or not, if ur in for a one night stand or for the long road) thats how youre built. the same way we are programmed to be attracted by a man who is more likely to be the protector type. constitution is a factor that shows it. its no conspirative discrimination, its just hormons :). Plus i know for a fact short guys are sometimes complexed, complexed people tend to have authority issues and agressive behaviour.(Im not saying all of them do, im just saying i dont have time to find those who dont, especially since im not attracted to them anyway).
What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?..some girls dont just make this pattern and go hunt for the one the fits in and see what comes of it. sometimes we just see that guy and the little light turns on..dont know why, it just does. dont make it general..u wouldnt like a girl saying: "he's a guy, i cant talk to him bout what i want, guys never listen".
And the one about aniversaries..c'moon! i've NEVER remembered when i met either of my bf, never known theirs, i wont even remember my best friends aniversaries cause i never try to. i know the time of year when its close but its no big deal being the first to call at midnight for happy b-day..that doesnt mean anything. Plus last year one of my ex's called me to remind me its his b-day. So i think thats a matter of choice...if u tell those around ur not interested in keeping no's in ur head just to show how "devoted and careful" u are (pfff), they'll get it. For some of us (male or female) the concept of aniversaries are for those who cant make it special everyday, and we dont care how others make theirs and at which date, we dont judge and dont need judgement.
Why we dont initiate sex? We're the ones with the boobs, deal with it and be the ones with the "cohones" :D
Biggest turn-off in a guy? I got 2: bad hygiene and too much! Dont come off looking like a girl with nail polish and waxed legs and chest (that not hygiene thats female hygiene. Let us be the girls. Dont get in the competition since u brought that up.
What do i think when a man cries in front of me?..hmmm...lets see what do u think when a girl burps in front of u. At the begining of the relationship its not ok, it spoils the image i need for a man to be the strong one...after years and years and years..i dont know..ill tell when i get there, haha.
Does size matter? It matters when u try to match it with all the females out there!!! of course it wont fit! If ure tryin to be the universal size and satisfy all women..thats what u get haha..find a match type and stick within the range, dont be cocky or if u are you shouldnt care if it matters, we'll never tell u its too small, cause mostly its not.. its just a bad match.
In conclusion to all ur questions..Dont make general statements, read more, see more, move around more, dont stick with fixed ideas that u know everything about women, its dangerous trust me ;).
All in all was a funny article, id give u a B.

PS: excuse the bad spelling..im not english native

The "competitive" question and "Why do you date a-holes?" question has the same answer:This is a self-esteem issue. Women are, almost as a rule, only praised for thier looks and not their accomplishments...sad but true...even from our own parents. We are constantly seeking approval. When a man treats us poorly, we try to gain approval....like you said, "it's not rocket science".

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? I don't....I hear Kate Moss is bringing "the bush" back.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? Cuz it's Oh, so sexy....tumbled-out-of-bed-look.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? He called you for two weeks, you had sex, now he's MIA. It's not rocket science.....I refer you back to my answer for questions 1 and 2.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him? mmmm, yeaaaaah....sorry.

Besides, does size really matter? I prefer the average size myself, as I think too long does hurt and too big of a girth, my experience, doesn't allow me as strong of an orgasm...don't know why....but, perhaps there isn't as much room for my V to "spasm"???.....sorry... I can't express myself or write as well as you do........

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"? I think it's great. Men should be allowed.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection? Welcome to our world. If you want some, why not come and get it? You won't be rejected very often, trust me. Cuz I'm already getting it everyday.....I don't think I need to do it more.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy? I don't pay attention to age. I'm actually dating a man 8 years younger.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes? I can't get off in the morning....again, don't know why....so, for me it's not what I want....but I won't deny my man either. If he wants it....go ahead....just don't expect me to get too worked up.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice? I really do enjoy it....I like my man's scent.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? First date... first kiss... first time you spent the night... first Dutch oven. Does it matter? Why? Are we really supposed to remember these things, too? Why? When I was younger it was important...now, not so much. I can't remember shit!

Why don't you go topless more often? We wouldn't object. Just saying...
Because 38DDD sag too much.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of? Me....I like funny!

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).
I hate crude, lewd and rude talk. And just plain meanness in general.

Why are you so competitive with each other? I'm not competitive with women in particular. I can be competitive with other people when the situation warrants it. But I typically use my intellect and/or skills when competing and not my impressive shopping abilities. On a side note: I am a petite, attractive woman and do notice and enjoy when I walk into a room and all eyes are on me. It makes me feel desirable but that has nothing to do with any one else. The only person any of us are ever competing with is ourselves.

Why do you date a-holes? I don't. People tell you who they are, it's your choice as to whether you believe them. I am attracted to men with confidence, not a-holes.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? I don't. I trim the top because I like the way it looks. I love the way I look naked! But if i'm planning to get laid that day I really get down in there with the razor so it's pleasant in case they go down on me. and I expect the same courtesy. He better be shaved if he wants me down there. :)

Razor stubble: yea or nay? Depends on the guy but really don't care. Some guys facial hair grows out patchy so they should shave.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?

Pride. Rejection hurts. Guys have definitely done this with me and not taken the hint. They think they can change my mind but they never can.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him?

Yes. I'm 5'8" and a guy has to at LEAST be my height. But what's equally important to me is being physically bigger and stronger than me. I don't want to feel like I'm dating a little kid. My ex used to lift me up to his face and eat me out. It was wild to be able to touch the ceiling. Plus, I felt like if he could lift me into the air this easily then he could definitely protect me if need be.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
I don't. Why would you think we would?

Besides, does size really matter? Yes, but as others have said, it's about the fit. Every woman is different. For me 9 inches=Perfection. and a guy being too small for me would be a deal breaker cause I wouldn't enjoy the sex. I would rather not have sex than have it with someone that is too small for me to feel/enjoy it. If he's the only one enjoying it than it's like he's just using me to masterbate.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? We hear what you're saying; we just think you're overreacting a little bit. Because you are. Why deny it?
First off, PMS is like someone made you swallow a big bag of emotions then punch you in the stomach. It's a nauseas, painful, uncomfortable situation. Plus, you have to go to the bathroom every few hours if you don't want red stains on your pants/undies. It's just unpleasant.
If we're a tad touchy during this, please please excuse us. (said sarcastically)
But for me, when it's that time of the month, seeing my man calms me down and puts me in a good mood. Should he be nice enough to rub my back and tell me i'm beautiful, so much the better. :)

What do you really think when a man cries? Depends, if he's been drinking than I will think he may have an alcohol problem and definitely has issues he needs to workout WITHOUT me. Also, if he's a cry baby and is emotionally draining and uses crying to get his way than I'm not ok with that either.
Aside from those reasons, if my man cries I will be understanding and caring. Just don't cry in front of me too much.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? If a woman isn't initiating sex/seems uninterested in sex than you probably don't do it for her. When i'm in a relationship I initiate ALL the time or at least let the guy know that I want him. Wish I was having sex right now!

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?

I date guys 2-5 years older than me. Men take more time to mature than woman. I feel that guys a couple years older than me are on the same maturity level as me.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? I don't know. Mine are pretty small so I don't get a lot of stares at the chest. But, luckily I have a beautiful face and men typically focus on that. and my adorable ass. :)
I am usually aware of the power of my body as a whole but some times it surprises me.

What is the appeal of gay men? I'm not going to not be someone's friend just because they are gay. Whether they are a man or a woman. I like people based on their individual personalities. I enjoy being friends with gay guys in particular because it's fun to talk about guys with them. They understand where I am coming from. And they usually have good style.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?

3-5 minutes? Ha, maybe that's why women don't want to have sex with you. Morning sex is great and no need to brush our teeth. We can have sex, we just can't make out till we brush our teeth.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? I usually really enjoy it, provided the man is clean and shaved. I have no problem telling a guy to take a shower if he wants that. But sometimes i'm not in the mood and am just being nice. I do really enjoy being in control of a man's pleasure. Hearing him moan and making him cum. I love to hear that I am the best they ever had and most woman can't make them cum when they do that.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? I remember important events in my life and if that includes you than I will make the extra effort to remember things involving you. But I don't expect you to remember everything.

Why don't you go topless more often? We wouldn't object. Just saying...
I love my body and enjoy being nude. If the person i'm with makes me feel beautiful and comfortable than I will probably be naked all the time. This usually leads to us having lots of sex though. So, when I want us to do other things, I have to put clothes on so the guy can focus.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of? A man that clearly knows himself and what he wants. This makes it easier to determine whether we would make a good match or not.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).
Someone that doesn't know who they are or what they want. Not having passions in life.

Woohoo!!! I'm done.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
Ego boost, though I've never seen women genuinely compete over incredibly stupid things like hair and shoes. Maybe because I try to stay far away from such women.

This is kind of a stupid question (yeah I went there), because guys are just as competitive with one another if not more so, just over different things.

Why do you date a-holes?
If a girl ACTUALLY dates a jerk, which doesn't happen anywhere near as often as guys think, it's probably because she thinks she's special enough to change him and/or thinks that his persona is akin to the fictional guys we love with that Shakespearean angst.

But you know what I've observed? 85% of the guys who whine about girls won't date them because they're "nice" aren't actually nice at all...because girls do like ACTUAL nice guys. They're just bitter. When I hear this over-used excuse, it makes me think that you're just jealous and are thus trying to put those other guys down...something you accuse women of doing all too often.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
We obsess over it because you do! Thank you pr0n industry!

Razor stubble: yea or nay?
Looks better on some men than others. Most of the time, nay.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
Again with the every-girl-wants-to-be-just-that-special thing.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him?
Kind of.
No.
Really tall guys are just as odd to date as really short guys.
Yes.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
You are pre-menstrual syndrome?

All sarcasm aside, it's rude, unnecessary, and a favorite way for guys to cop out of having to figure out and deal with what's actually wrong.

What do you really think when a man cries?
Depends on the reason and how often.

Why are many of you attracted to older men?
Because guys take so damn long to grow up.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
Because unfortunately we like to fool ourselves into thinking men aren't such simple creatures as that.

What is the appeal of gay men?
They are more fun than most straight men - not to mention better listeners and a much more helpful emotional outlet. They will listen and offer advice without expecting something in return, cough cough. It's like having a girlfriend but without all the nasty side effects that come along with girls, like the competitiveness factor.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?...Why?
Um...because we care about you? Is that a good enough reason? We don't expect you to do anything about them, but it's nice if you remember them too.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?
Genuineness.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?
Ignorance.

Why are you so competitive with each other? We awful to each other, and of course, it’s all over men. Probably because of evolution: girls have always had to compete for the best guys while men have been able to move on and take what they can get. It isn’t a conscious thing, but that worry is always there.
As Dave Chappell said “If a guy introduces a friend to his girlfriend, his friend will say, ‘Man, I’ve got to get me a girl like that.’ But if a woman introduces her boyfriend to a friend, she will say ‘I’m going to get THAT guy.’”

Why do you date a-holes? Every girl wants to be the special one who will change him, the one who makes him forget his a-hole ways. When guys are a-holes, it’s the same as when girls play hard to get. It makes it a challenge, and the meaner they are, the more we are driven to gain their acceptance. Not to mention bad boys make a girl feel sexy because it gives her the freedom to be bad and not be judged.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? Because we think it matters to guys.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? Not all the time, but occasionally a five o’clock shadow is hot :) especially in the mornings.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? Because we desperately want to believe that they are. Women do not take rejection well. We overanalyze everything a guy does and convince ourselves that there is “hope,” usually with the well intentioned aid of our girlfriends

Is height really that important? Tall is hot. Short is fine as long as he is not shorter than me. I do have a very short friend though who says that she likes short guys, so evidently it can vary.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? Because at that moment we don’t think we are overreacting and it sounds like you are just writing us off. You don’t mean it like this but what it comes in as is “What you are saying and feeling is unimportant and annoying because you are a woman.”

What do you really think when a man cries? It depends on why. If you are crying over a tv show, then you are a wuss. If you cry after your father’s funeral, you just lost a long time friendship, or if your child was just born, it will make us adore you. This is especially true if you let us be there for you when you are sad.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? We don’t want to be seen as sluts! It has been drilled into most girls heads since they were born “Let him chase you.”

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Yes, it is the maturity. Also, it is the security. Older men are usually more set in their lifestyles and make better “husband candidates.”

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? We don’t get visually turned on like that by men, so it’ hard to imagine. Not to mention with all the pressure from magazines etc, most women feel very insecure about their breasts (size shape etc)

What is the appeal of gay men? You hit the nail on the head. They are unthreatening! Gay men also have the added benefit of not being competition for the men you are after :) and they give great guy/sex advice

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? If it’s only going to take only 3-5 minutes why do it at all? And it does NOT take only 3-5 minutes to get ready after the fact. However, if its the weekend, morning sex is a blast :)

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? I wouldn’t say just being nice. We want you to want us, so it makes us happy when we can make you happy.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? I am terrible at anniversaries and the only days which really matter are when we first started dating, major holidays, and my birthday.

Why don't you go topless more often? Again, it is our insecurities about our breasts and our bodies in general.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? For me it has always been kindness. If I see a guy standing up for someone or just being kind in general that will turn me on to him like nothing else.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? You are correct, cockiness is a bit of a turn on in fact I’m going to have to say three turn offs, I can’t decide between them.
Number one is meanness, cruelty, or blatant disrespect. Number two is a total lack of ambition to do anything. Number three is being too easy or too emotionally needy. Sorry to be blunt and stereotypical, but dudes, be men. Respond if we seek you out and PLEASE call after a date, don’t call two days in a row and for the love of God, keep your emotional history to yourself for at least the first date or so. :)

I'll make it simple for you. Women want to be wanted, but we want you to want us specifically, not just the nearest female.

I answered all the questions, but some of them were dumb answers, so here's just the good ones.

Why do you date a-holes? - Girls want to be the magical one and only who can turn that a-hole into prince charming.

Is height really that important? - For particularly tall or particularly short girls, yes. We don't want to feel like freaks.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? - We often forget about their awesome powers. It's because they're below our general view most of the time.

What is the appeal of gay men? - Shopping. Have you ever shopped with a straight guy? I like Best Buy and all, but there's more stores in life!

... what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? - I would LOVE sex before work, but I take too long tying my shoes.

Why don't you go topless more often? - Our boobies are too powerful. We are trying to prevent the apocolypse by keeping their awesome powers restrained.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? - Confidence! The same stuff you go for. A confident, happy person is always win!

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? - Talking about your ex-gf. I'd say stinky pits, but we'll gladly put up with that if you make us feel special.

Why are you so competitive with each other?
I dunno, to be honest. I notice the girls in my school constantly trying to get themselves noticed by the guys and putting each other down over stuff like hair. Speaking as a teenager, we girls really have this issue with liking to crush each other's self-esteem. Bitchy girls rarely keep a guy for very long, so why compete? Chicas, you'll all find a guy who loves you for who you are... but not if you're too busy pushing others outta the competition to notice.

Why do you date a-holes?
Don't ask me. I prefer the sweet and sensitive, kinda nerdy guy to the Bad-@$$ jerk.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?
Can't speak for everyone, but I think we do it because we're worried about what our guy will think. Or, y'know, we might go to the beach in a tiny freaking bikini and be worried about hair.

Razor stubble: yea or nay?
Depends on the guy. On some, it's sexy. Others? NO.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested?
We're overly sensitive and often have feelings for the guy that screwed and ditched us?

Is height really that important?
My preference is a guy my height or taller, but a lot of shorter guys are really cute and I'd not mind dating them =]

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid?
Being a scientist, I already know the length variation between flaccid and engorged. I don't date a guy for the size of his package! I prefer the size of his heart!

Besides, does size really matter?
No. I'm a virgin, so all I can say is that if it doesn't hurt I'm probably fine with it.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS?
*COUGH* We're female. With hormones everywhere. I have broken down over the fact my hat was on the floor. PMS for most girls [especially teens like me] has the equivalent of over-active emotions and a lot of b!tching and crying at guys for being "insensitive @$$holes" for pointing out the truth.

What do you really think when a man cries?
"Who the HELL am I beating the sh!t out of!?"

Why don't you initiate sex more often?
Virgin, kthx, not ready to lose it.

Why are many of you attracted to older men?
Personal preference? I like older guys, but usually because I relate to people older than me better than children my own age. I get along better with 18-year-olds than I do with other 14-year-olds.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies?
I'm bisexual. Boobs are the most wonderful creations on this earth, and I'm sick of people saying they get no attention for their boobs or whatever. I've gotten looks from my classmates or friends, and I've been caught staring once or twice. I know the power of the boob. Fear the boob.

What is the appeal of gay men?
Gay men seem to understand us better than straight men, and are often open to answering questions we have about men. Same goes for guys with lesbian friends.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning?
Again, virgin, not gonna be able to answer this.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?
xD You guys should take your advice on boobs. You underestimate the charismatic pull of the male genitalia. I'm not saying any more.

How do you remember all these anniversaries?
I don't? I forgot my 1st year anniversary with my boyfriend last year. Also forgot our first kiss, and a few others. Girls place such ridiculous importance on stuff like that, I just have to laugh. Or cry.

Why don't you go topless more often?
I dunno, possibly because society isn't always open to nude or shirtless chicks walking around. I'd personally not mind at all if hot chicks walked around naked, but I'd have to keep from staring too obviously. Some girls are also insecure about their chests, and you just have to roll with it or help them build confience.

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy?
One word. PERSONALITY. I would honestly never have noticed my boyfriend as anything other than a "cute" boy if it hadn't been for his sweet, sensitive and caring personality.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy?
... I was gonna say cockiness. There's this jack@$$ at my school who I used to think was epically sexy. Then I found out he's a jerk who thinks every girl in this school wants a piece of him. He isn't hot anymore, he's just a total jerk.

Why are you so competitive with each other?

Ans: Stock feminism answer -- patriarchy. I'm not, actually, and neither are some of my friends, but many other women are. They see you as threats.

Why do you date a-holes? What is this allure of the Bad Boy? You like being used and abused and dumped? Really? Why? Does being nice automatically make a guy a wuss?

Ans: I suppose the allure comes from the fact that Bad Boys are usually very confident and not overly needy -- which some nice guys are. And no, I don't like it, and no, it doesn't automatically make a guy a wuss. But you knew that already, since those were rhetorical questions. You ARE a wuss, however, if you try to show off how macho you are.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair?

Ans: I don't! The media thinks we do

Razor stubble: yea or nay? And aren't you sick of seeing guys with Van Dyke beards?

Ans: I prefer nay but it's not a big deal.

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? He called you for two weeks, you had sex, now he's MIA. It's not rocket science.

Ans: We make emotional connections and we'd like to believe it's something more. But you already knew that.

Is height really that important? Would you not date a guy just because he's short? What about really tall guys, like 6'5" or taller? Does a guy have to be taller than you for you to date him?

Ans: It isn't really. But so much depends on the girl -- and how tall she is. I know some girls who won't date guys shorter than them. Their loss. For myself, I'm about 4'11'' so the chances of a guy being shorter than me are very low. Someone who is very tall -- around 6'5'' -- might give me reservations, but I won't rule him out just because of his height!

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? You've heard of "growers" and "showers," right? Famed sex researcher Alfred Kinsey found that shorter flaccid dongs tend to gain about twice as much length as longer flaccid ones. The truth: a vast majority of penises (anywhere from 78-90%, depending on whom you believe) are about the same size when erect.

Ans: I don't. It's all terribly confusing to me.

Besides, does size really matter? Some say yes, some say no. Some say longer is better, some say wider is better. Some say too big is painful, some say too small is pointless. What's a guy to believe? (Not that he can do anything about it either way.)

Ans: I don't think it really does. The average guy shouldn't have any problems. Although I have no idea what I'm talking about, because I haven't done it.

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? We hear what you're saying; we just think you're overreacting a little bit. Because you are. Why deny it?

Ans: I wouldn't. But the notion of PMS can become a crutch for men who slide right into gender essentialism and blame everything on women's hormones. Leave it to us -- we know when we're PMSing. What's annoying is when there is a disjunct between what we perceive and what you perceive. Sometimes this is less due to hormonal reasons than personality and/or religious beliefs or what have you. But attributing it all to women's biology is reductive -- and it also eliminates the space for open discussion of the problem because it naturalises the behavior (thus, perversely, justifying it, because we tend to assume that what is 'natural' is 'best'. The ethics of this is too complicated to go into here). So guys, you're doing yourself a disservice. In any case, the most important thing is to talk to the girl, preferably once she's cooled down. And if she isn't PMSing, she should admit it. If she doesn't, then you've got a woman who's not self-aware. Congrats.

What do you really think when a man cries? "Oh, he's so sensitive"? Or "God, what a wuss"?

Ans: It really depends on the reason. Cry because you listen to Bach and it's so beautiful? O yes, that's hot -- you're so sensitive. Cry because you didn't get to talk to me for 3 hours a day? What a wuss.

Why don't you initiate sex more often? Afraid of rejection? Welcome to our world. If you want some, why not come and get it? You won't be rejected very often, trust me.

Ans: I can't answer this properly but afraid of rejection is one reason. Not so much rejection but shame over letting another see my body -- one feels judged. Of course, that's probably why I haven't done it yet.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? Is it the maturity? The security? Or do they remind you of Daddy?

Ans: The maturity is one thing. The security is not always age-dependent. It doesn't work like that for me anyway. I'm attracted to both older and younger men.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? Yes, you do -- even those of you who think you are fully aware of the power of boobs. You aren't. A little bit of cleavage has power beyond your comprehension.

Ans: As someone who is very well stacked, I don't. I really don't. The only problem is that it's a power beyond your control. They have a life of their own! That cleavage often poses a dilemma. Do I want him to talk to me or to them? Let me tell you something: as a guy, you don't know the problems behind how much to display and not! If you're well-stacked, a little bit can be a lot. Then the guy ends up gawking, incoherent -- and you're unhappy because you want to speak to him but he's just staring. If you cover it up you get to talk to the guy, but maybe you come across as not hot enough? Are bodyhugging dresses that cover up the solution for curvy women? You tell me.

What is the appeal of gay men? Almost every woman we know has at least one gay male friend. What's the attraction? They are non-threatening? They're just one of the girls? What?

Ans: See answer to question 1 about competitiveness of women. Often the gay guys don't feel like they're competing in the same field; hence there is just less animosity. They tend to be very fashion forward (moreso than the average girl) and are good sources of fashion-advice. It's not because they're one of the girls... it's because you can be 'one of the guys' with them: have that feeling of camaraderie without nasty envy rearing its head.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? You're already late to work, so what's another 3-5 minutes?

Ans: You kidding? I am dead punctual. No, I'll never be 'already late to work'. I have no problem, as long as there's enough time to get to work on time! However, in my case it's not advisable because I would be stressing over the time...

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk? It's hideous, all of it. And usually sweaty, too. Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice?

Ans: I don't think it's hideous really. I do find the thought quite appealing. This is strong evidence of nature vs nuture on this one! It's not just the junk, you know. It's the whole man. The body's nice.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? First date... first kiss... first time you spent the night... first Dutch oven. Does it matter? Why? Are we really supposed to remember these things, too? Why?

Ans: I don't. I really don't. I suppose they're important to the person, so they remember. But I reserve my memory for poetry, mostly.

Why don't you go topless more often? We wouldn't object. Just saying...

Ans: You couldn't handle it. Nothing in the world would get done. No businesses would move, no public transport, no etc etc.... See answer on power of boobies

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? Looks? Money? Sense of humor? Kindness? Lots of chest hair? Or some intangible we're not aware of?

Ans: This varies so much from girl to girl. For me it's good grammar, a sense of humor (preferably ironic), kindness, good taste in music [because I couldn't stand hearing Bieber all the time, even if the guy is great. And I listen to about 10 hours of music a day] -- and most importantly, personality. Although so much depends on the dynamics between 2 people. I've met people who look so good on paper but we just don't get along so well...

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above).

Ans: Stupidity masquerading as intelligence. Bad grammar (sorry!). Being rude -- groping without permission, not minding your ps and qs, etc

Why are you so competitive with each other? The same reason guys are: the invisible cavewoman club of claiming the prize, the respect of other women, the clout, etc….

Why do you date a-holes? It is the same as a guy dating a female a-hole, most of the time it was too late when the discovering was made, feeling got invested. What is this allure of the Bad Boy? I personally am attracted to the hybrid bad boy/geek, he can hold his own in the street and with a degree; Best of both worlds to me. Does being nice automatically make a guy a wuss? No, it makes the female stupid if she does not see it.

Why do you obsess over pubic hair? I don’t obsess to me it’s as equivalent to boxers verse briefs, what keeps me cooler), I do the shaving cause I like it, if he doesn’t he needs to close his eyes when his down there.

Razor stubble: yea or nay? Depends

Why don't you believe men when they show you or even tell you they aren't interested? Don’t have this problem I think like that all the time, in my personal experience I have trouble telling that a guy is into me.

Is height really that important? Yes is important to me, but I have dated a guy that was about 4 inches taller I am 5’1” but he was fine as hell….other than that you must be 5’9” but stop at 6’3” any taller is just unmanageable.

Why do you think you can judge a guy's penis size when it is flaccid? I don’t.

Besides, does size really matter? Yes, if you are less than average, but if you know what you are doing, want to please me and have made compensations in other areas it’s all good!!!

If we know you're PMS, and you know you're PMS, why do you get angry if we say you're PMS? I don’t get angry

What do you really think when a man cries? It depends, if it is because your dog of the last 15 years died ok, if it is because you’re getting an IV started at the hospital you’re a wuss & to quote the 1st lady to respond: “My God, you have actually feelings beyond hungry and horny”

Why don't you initiate sex more often? These past couple of times I have initiated, but its kinda got a slow start… I’m thinking that next time I am just going to hit him up at the door.

Why are many of you attracted to older men? 5 years older is as old as it gets and that does not guarantee maturity or security either. The last younger guy I dated, is still getting on my nerves but that will be all over in about 12 years when the manchild turns 18.

Why do you underestimate the power of boobies? Can I get educated on this topic..

What is the appeal of gay men? No appeal, they are funny as hell and not trying to impress a female while doing it, but mostly has no problem with expressing their feelings even if they know it is going to hurt yours…got to respect that.

Really, once both parties have brushed their teeth, what's the problem with having sex first thing in the morning? Will mouth spray work; let’s get to it….. Or are you still tired from last night? Disclose: not every female thinks like this.

How can you stand getting up close and personal with a man's junk?
It's hideous, all of it -- some men have a beautiful penis
And usually sweaty, too - that is why we shave the vagina.
Do you really enjoy it or are you just being nice? - When we 1st try it, it is to be nice but some grow to love it and others never do it again.

How do you remember all these anniversaries? I don’t commit all of that to memory, the ones I find important I write down. And it matters because we asked our grandparents and parents when we were younger how they met and about the 1st date, the 1st kiss the day he proposed and we want to tell that to our kids and grandkids.

Why don't you go topless more often? Why don’t men do full frontals in the movies more often we wouldn’t object….. and hey is there an equivalent to hooters maybe dickies?! Just asking…

What's the most important characteristic you look for in a guy? That he sees me for my total worth.

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? A man that wants to spend time with you and your offspring but will not take care of his own.

Okay I am only responding to two things: why we date bad boys and whats important because they interlock.
Imo I think the appeal of bad boys is the fum-factor. Bad boys know how to have a good time, they are entertaining and interesting, they've had exciting lives (or so it seems). It's about the sense of adventure that goes with being someone like that. Bad boys have this factor of being out of the ordinary everyday part of your life. Which ties into something that I think almost all the women I know find important even if they won't say it: someone who is fun. Girls like boys that can be fun, that can show us a good time, that can make us laugh or bring our mood up when we have a crappy day.

I just want to answer this question....

What's the biggest turn-off in a guy? If you say cockiness, we don't believe you (see Bad Boy question above). Cowboy Boots. If a guy is wearing cowboy boots, no matter how amazing he is there is no way I will ever consider him.

Aiiieeee. Please don't ask/tell us that we're PMSing.
Throughout history women have been defined by their biological functions and until pretty recently all we were considered good for was popping out babies (and cleaning the house). Men tend to not take women seriously if they know we're PMSing, because they assume we're just completely emotional 24/7 and are not capable of making rational decisions during that time. The truth is that both men and women are in some way controlled by their hormones, though we can all still access self-control. If a woman becomes emotional for some reason and a guy asks her if she's PMSing, he's basically saying that she shouldn't be taken seriously, because her hormones are controlling her (supposedly).

Just out of curiosity, did you find it offensive when while Hilary Clinton was running for president, people joked about her PMSing and because of this arbitrarily starting a war. Again in this case, a woman is being defined by her biological function (menstruation) and is considered a slave to it.