This week, we've got men who think they're using up a woman's "hot years," women who think their boobs are too small, guys who love "The Princess Bride," singles dealing with unplanned pregnancies and girls who can't get over guys. It's the end of the world, but we feel fine...because it's time for GuySpeak's Best of the Week!
Wise-Ass says:
Nobody knows when the world will end. Not the Mayans, not Nostradamus, not the Psychic Friends Network. It could end in 2012. It could end tomorrow. It doesn't really matter, because whenever it ends, life will still be short.
I say no matter when the world ends, there's no reason to waste time on someone who doesn't treat you well. If you still love this guy and want him back despite his crappy boyfriend skills, then that's one thing, but taking him back just because you think the world is about to end is--no offense meant--silly.
Of course, I don't think you should take him back at all, but that's your business. Me, I would rather die alone than with someone who treats me like shit. If he's that bad a boyfriend, he won't be there when you're dying, anyway; he'll be looking at porn on the computer or playing XBox or drinking beer outside with his friends and pissing in the yard.
Stop worrying about when the world will end and live for today. Today you can do better than him. Today you are alive. Cut the cord and find someone worthy of what precious time you do have left, because you never know when it will end.
Gal Pal says:
I just want to share my favorite comment on this question, which has me LOL'ing at my computer... from Chrocs: "That's how my cousins got pregnant, by keeping their shitty boyfriends since the world was going to end in 2000. Eleven years and some kids later, the world is still going on, they still live with douchebags and they still complain about said douches."
Girls' BFF says:
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Well, aren't you the "don't tell me the truth, tell me what I want to hear" type. So here a few ways you can try (that won't work):
Go sleep with somebody new. They say that the best way to get over a new person is to get under a new one. This rarely works since, ya know, you'd rather be boinking the person you can't get over but hey, we all need a regret sex every now and then right?
Read a book. Or a lot of books. You're clearly lonely and sad now and nothing will take your mind off of the love you no longer have than some book about love and romance you never knew.
Go out and drink a lot. Jamie Foxx told us to blame it on the alcohol because it works. If you go out and get drunk there's no way in hell you can be responsible for all the ridiculous things you will do and say. Of course, you will probably lose friends since being obnoxious about your ex sober is probably the standard M.O. Drunk you probably REALLY blows.
Point is...even all of those things that you can "do" to get over somebody involve you focusing on yourself. It takes time. And it could take a long time. But in the mean time, take some time for youself and just enjoy life. Yeah, that BULLS**T. What else can you do? Aside from something destructive that adds nothing to your life.
Gal Pal says:
Therapy, my dear. Someone to help explain that focusing on yourself is not "bullshit," it's healthy. And the only way you'll ever get happy again.
Funny Guy says:
That is hilarious. I love that visual. "Imposter! Stop that woman, she doth deceive mine eyes"
Fake tits: ah, where to begin. How about with you: You love how they look, and want some! Far be it for me to tell you you're wrong to want this. At the same time, you're only 17. And while in this day and age implants aren't permanent, it's still invasive, under the knife, life changing surgery.
The relationship between breast implants and guys is as follows: some men love breasts any size, shape or color. Give them A's or F's and they are happier than a pig in breast milk. Then you will find guys who only love small boobs (you will lose that "audience" if you get implants). You will also find guys who love huge breasts provided they are real and then you will find guys who love the mega-augmented look. Think of it like a movie theater, some guys like sitting way in the front, some in the back, some in 3D glasses, many who don't care as long as they are staring at the screen.
Your next boyfriend might have had a nose job, chin implant, lipo or a bucket of Propecia pills on his nightstand. Does that make him an imposter? Vain? A fake? Only you can answer that.
You too are on the cusp of making a personal choice. Think long and hard, (wait till you're at least 18 if not several more years) and then... let the nips fall where they may.
Gal Pal says:
Remember that this isn't just a one-time surgery. Breast implants last 10 years, max. So you'll be going under the knife every decade from here 'til the end. Are you sure you'll have the money and health for that? And my friend, you're still a baby! Give yourself until 23 or 24 to see what your body decides on your size. (I'm in my 30s and still praying for a growth spurt!)
Reformed Player says:
Too old to marry? What are you, living in the 1400s? One of those Mormon offshoots Utah is always so embarrassed about? Come to the 21st century! We marry people because we like them here, not because they were assigned to us! We have Netflix!
If she's in her 30s, she's a grown adult, and if you've actually been upfront with her about your intentions, she'll drop you like the booby prize you are when something better comes along. If I were you, I'd worry more about the fact that your needs in a woman are about as deep as a kiddie pool after a drought.
Seriously, from one dude to another, grow up.
Gal Pal says:
You aren't ruining her life by taking her "final attractive (mid-to-late 30s) years." (Excuse me, everyone, I just puked on my computer when I read that.) You are ruining her life by dating her. Do her a favor and walk away now. If she asks why, send her this email so she knows what a jerk she's been wasting her time with.
Chic Geek says:
42! Princess Bride is one of those movies that helps you determine whether or not a person is worth knowing. If they can't quote at least one line from Princess Bride, Ghostbusters, Goonies, Holy Grail, Pee-wee's Big Adventure, or The Big Lebowski, chances are they are zero fun to be around.
Princess Bride is pretty much the perfect date movie. It's hilarious, romantic, action-packed, and hilarious. I mean, seriously. Look at the cast. Mandy Patinkin. Cary Elwes. Carol Kane. Billy Crystal. Fred Savage. Wallace "Inconceivable!" Shawn. Heck, even Columbo turns up as the kindly old grandpa.
In fact, I'm hard-pressed to think of another movie that pretty much everyone loves. Romantics love it for lines like "As you wish" and "Since the invention of the kiss there have been five kisses that were rated the most passionate, the most pure. This one left them all behind." Fans of fantasy and adventure enjoy the swordfights ("Hello. My name is Inigo Montoya. You killed my father. Prepare to die...") and "Rodents of Unusual Size." Comedy snobs love it for the great one-liners and appearances by cult heroes Christopher Guest and Peter Cook. ("Mawiage. Mawiage is what brings us together today...") And fans of '80s professional wrestling can point to the late, great Andre the Giant as the only example of a wrestler who can actually act.
The Princess Bride should be used as a litmus test for guys. If the mere mention of it doesn't cause him to smile, he is not your Westley.
Gal Pal says:
I nominate Chic Geek as the Westley of GuySpeak! And may we all have occasion in our lives to say: "This is true love - you think this happens every day?"
Mystery Man says:
Plain talking time. You talk to him first, is my strong advice. Accidents happen all the time, but explain exactly how you feel about it. You are going to need support - I figure he should know why rather than being totally mystified. Fairness and honesty work both ways, remember?
Don't discuss "should I abort" with him. If you are not ready for a child, you are simply not ready. You no more need his permission than you do mine or the President's. That will undoubtedly come up while you talk, but is purely, 100% your call. Until such time as men can carry babies and be expected by society to look after them, they don't really have a say in my not so humble opinion, unless they are in a long term, stable relationship.
Now I am not saying that talking it over will be easy. It won't be, at all. What I am saying is that talking it over now is better than confessing it later. Yes, he may leave you over this. He definitely will leave you if you don't even give him the illusion of choice and he finds out - which he inevitably will.
I don't know your age, or your circumstances, so I am afraid that is the best advice I can give. I, nor anyone else, will not pressure you with our beliefs, and I will be watching the comments here like a hawk. You must do what is right for you right now. Though I will tell you, my beloved eldest daughter was a total accident, conceived in the same circumstances as you face.
Gal Pal says:
I applaud MM and the vast majority of the commenters for giving such caring and thoughtful advice. I know most people encouraged you to tell the boyfriend, but if you have other friends and family to support you and you feel strongly that you don't want to continue a relationship with him, you can make this decision without telling him. However, if you do plan to continue any sort of relationship with him, you will be much better off in the long run sharing this burden with him. A painful moment of honesty is better than a lifetime of secrets. I know it's tempting to try to make this all go away, but his reaction will tell you a great deal about his character and your potential as a couple. Good luck. And no matter what, this is your decision.
That's it for this week, thanks for playing, guys and girls!
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