Relationships are a beautiful thing. There's the growth, the commitment, the sharing. Basically, relationships force you to do all those things you learned in kindergarten that keep showing up on inspirational posters all over the place. That last one is one is where I raise my brow. Sure you share your love and happiness.
But what about your email and voicemail passwords? And keys?
But what about your email and voicemail passwords? And keys?
I'm one of those people that doesn't think you should give your significant other your passwords to anything. Hell, I don't even like sharing food with my girlfriend (something she hates, by the way) so giving up the passwords is like asking me for a kidney. Yeah, I'll fork it over in an emergency, but unless you have to call 911 AND sign a DNR form, I'm just not ready to go that far.
To be frank, I don't like giving people temptation. And believe it or not, handing somebody the keys to your email (or your house keys period) is probably more temptation than one person can handle. Imagine, if you will, a relationship on the rocks accusations appear more often than a Tiger Woods police report. If you think somebody is cheating on you and you have their passwords, I'd wager that even if you DIDN'T want to look through it, you would, just to see what you could find.
Which of course begs the question:
If you give somebody the passwords to your account, does that give them the free reign to look through them?
See, I suck at philosophy and am still really confused as to why you do not pronounce the "P" in Ptolemy. From where I stand, "hellus nous" you do not have the right to look through somebody's email if you have the password. But a contrarian could easily state that having the key is permission to open the door. And that's where it all goes bad because if do have a key and then you do open the door and I do have my gun then I am at liberty to shoot. You see why this gets murky?
Plus, handguns are legal in DC now. It's better to shoot first and ask questions last because when I'm right, I'm right, but when I'm wrong, I'm still right because I could have been wrong. Which only stands to bolster the point of the other side.
Again, you see why this gets murky?
The point is that I wouldn't put you in a position to get shot. I'm cool like dat.
The bottom line is that in relationships, you don't have to share everything and in some cases, you probably should keep some things to yourself. Sure, emergency keys are great, but there needs to be strict rules as to when you can use the spare key. Passwords on the other hand? No dice. I'm talking about I'm so far away from the dice, I'm playing Uno.
By myself.
It's the only way I can make sure I love you.
It was written.
To be frank, I don't like giving people temptation. And believe it or not, handing somebody the keys to your email (or your house keys period) is probably more temptation than one person can handle. Imagine, if you will, a relationship on the rocks accusations appear more often than a Tiger Woods police report. If you think somebody is cheating on you and you have their passwords, I'd wager that even if you DIDN'T want to look through it, you would, just to see what you could find.
Which of course begs the question:
If you give somebody the passwords to your account, does that give them the free reign to look through them?
See, I suck at philosophy and am still really confused as to why you do not pronounce the "P" in Ptolemy. From where I stand, "hellus nous" you do not have the right to look through somebody's email if you have the password. But a contrarian could easily state that having the key is permission to open the door. And that's where it all goes bad because if do have a key and then you do open the door and I do have my gun then I am at liberty to shoot. You see why this gets murky?
Plus, handguns are legal in DC now. It's better to shoot first and ask questions last because when I'm right, I'm right, but when I'm wrong, I'm still right because I could have been wrong. Which only stands to bolster the point of the other side.
Again, you see why this gets murky?
The point is that I wouldn't put you in a position to get shot. I'm cool like dat.
The bottom line is that in relationships, you don't have to share everything and in some cases, you probably should keep some things to yourself. Sure, emergency keys are great, but there needs to be strict rules as to when you can use the spare key. Passwords on the other hand? No dice. I'm talking about I'm so far away from the dice, I'm playing Uno.
By myself.
It's the only way I can make sure I love you.
It was written.
I agree! Why would you give anyone your password?
Uh????? Hello, its your life. First of all, who would want your password? Disrespectful to demand it from anyone. Doesnt make sense nor should it. I never would give or demand my boyfriend's passwords because frankly, I dont care enough to even think about those things. It shouldnt be a priority in a relationship.
Unless you are a child under the age of 18. You want privacy, you gotta earn that. Otherwise I keep the master key and the passwords are what I say they are.
Totally agree. I have never and will never relinquish a password..that is asking for trouble. I know from past experience that men have fantastic imaginations and might only need to see my email from Paul, the random-ass customer support guy from Sprint to formulate a non-existent relationship.
No. Thank. You.
Hmmm... really the only thing I'll give my password for is my megavideo account. Apparently more than one person can sign into it! Which has led to many a night watching scary movies with someone on a webcam. Wow, I've gotten seriously off-topic.
Agreed, Panama.
I have my Dad's password to his email (because I set it up), and you'd think there'd be no temptation to root through it, but... well I did. And found years old emails of my parents gossiping about me and this huge crush I had. Blegh. I knew they shared stuff, I was never under any illusion that if I told my mom something she was going to keep it to herself. But my Dad gossiping about who I liked was just.. more than I could take. SO YEAH, giving out passwords can only end badly, as well as accepting them from someone. It's the agony of freedom, because you don't want to invade their privacy, but you know that you're probably going to.
I remember one time when an old school friend was visiting, from interstate. We had bought a few bottles of alcohol, and were just walking out of the store when his wife (now ex-wife) called his cell, demanding to know why he had just spent money at a bottle shop.
We were stunned. It wasn't a joint account, it was his account. Had she been just hitting the refresh key until he bought something? Either way, it was waaaaaay over the line. We took the phone off him, told her that he had the right to do with his money what he wanted, and removed the battery from the phone. Talk about abuse of trust and privilege.
Hmmm...interesting post and good comments. But I'm really not opposed to password sharing. (And it's just fun to play Devil's Advocate sometimes.)
It's always been more of a convenience thing for me. My mom needs me to do some of her online banking. Or my roommate needs me to fix some computery thing. Or I need something off my computer, but I can't get back to my room. Maybe the temptation to snoop still exists sometimes (once, there was a file right on my roommate's desktop with my name on it), but the fact that it ISN'T a big deal that we share passwords I guess makes me feel like I would never be surprised at something I saw of someone else's and I would never feel ashamed at anything someone saw of mine.
There's no need to sit down and have a little password sharing party, but over-protectiveness about a password just looks suspicious.
I tested a theory with my dude on this subject.He was buggin me about my passcode to my vmails & call logs but even though I knew there was nothing disrespectful to our relationship I granted him access for a day or two.What I knew would happen happened!!He bugged out about everybody in my phone THAT WASNT HIM!!!UGH,....but I fixed that ass & told him "hey it was your bright idea to cross those lines so what you found is something you have to deal with on your own.Dont be mad at Angel when you find what you're lookin for." Moral of the story is,If you go looking for trouble your gonna find it everytime,even if its none there!Insecurities can make anything look like a problem.
idk. i think it is wrong for boyfriends and girlfriends to share stuff like that, but when it comes to marriage, i think its okay to share passwords. i mean what have u got to hide if you aren't doing anything wrong?
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