You should probably examine everything else going on and realize that these guys aren't intimidated by you because you're smart, men just don't like a**holes. Not that you are, but I'm sorry chica, I just refuse to believe that all these men are that turned off and scared of your smarts. Like ALL GUYS??? I once knew a chick whose foot made it into the video montage closing credits of "Homeboys From Outer Space." I still tell people about that. And do you know why? Because it's cool.

Gal Pal says:
Whoa - why are we assuming this lady is an a-hole? Many, many smart folks struggle with dating. I do agree that she might be picking the wrong guys. Stick with the mature, smarty-pants, respectful-to-women guys. Let those other losers waste their time on boring girls who fail at trivia. As Tina Fey said about being a young, smart female with little male attention:"You know what? Let the boys practice on other girls. Let them treat other girls like crud, let them learn how to French kiss for, like, 10 years, let them give some other girl a bunch of crappy Valentine's Day gifts, and then you just move in when they're fully formed."  

What do you think when you see a modestly dressed Jewish woman who has a beautiful face? Do you think she's sexy or will you not even give her a second glance just because she's Jewish?

Wise-Ass says:

I think, "There's a pretty girl. I wonder what she looks like naked." I don't really think about world religions when I'm gettin' my perv on.

How would I know she's Jewish, anyway? I'm pretty sure that wearing a Star Of David badge went out in the mid-1940s. Is she coming from the menorah shop or eating gifelte fish? What's my tip-off? Even if I knew she was Jewish, I wouldn't care. I'd probably just be glad she wasn't Baptist.* (*Joke. Relax, dunkers.)

Be yourself. Embrace who you are. Some will like you, some won't. Such is life. People who disqualify others without knowing them aren't worth your time. There are plenty of good guys out there who aren't prejudiced, and I'm confident you'll meet one.

Gal Pal says:
I wonder who this woman is trying to attract? Similarly "modestly dressed"Jewish men? Or crazers like Carey?* (*Joke. Relax, Wise-Ass.) Because hot is hot, but you've got to consider your audience. If she's thinking of playing for a different crowd, this might be conversation between her and her higher power. Rather than a website called GuySpeak. (Not that we're not all-powerful, but still...)
 
My affair of one year was discovered by my hubby of 20 years. My lover and I were going to get divorces and move in together. Now that we are caught, he won't do it. I never thought of leaving before and with my "out" gone, I've nowhere to go. Why do I still want to leave?

Chic Geek says:

Because you're unhappy. You were unsatisfied in your marriage, and you cheated. For a year. Not a one-night stand that you later regretted. You cheated on your husband for a year. I'm not going to judge you, but don't assume that your feelings of unhappiness and discontent are just going to magically disappear now that your affair is over. There's no "affair genie" that can make things go back to the way they were. The unhappiness is still there. In fact, now it's even worse.

You were using the affair as a crutch. Clearly you needed to visit a divorce attorney a year ago. Now you've hurt your husband, ruined another woman's marriage, and lost a relationship with a new guy in the process. While things are undoubtedly worse, that doesn't change the fact that you were ready to walk out the door before your affair was discovered. Even now, with the affair discovered, you still feel like you want to leave. U R UNHAPPY. I cannot make that more clear. Unhappy people shouldn't be together. Life is too short. 

Do yourself (and your husband) a favor and go through with the divorce. It's okay, even after 20 years. At least you won't go another two decades being miserable and wishing you had left after your affair. Or worse, stay with him and then cheat again. You wanted out of your marriage and that caused you to mess up big time. Now do the right thing and close the door on this chapter of your life. Learn from this, and try not to hurt people in the future. 

Gal Pal says:
I'm sorry for your pain, but do what Nick says and move it on down the river. And also, please, please, watch Tammy Wynette sing this song, which was written just for you.

What are you supposed to do when you have a 100% proof that your brother-in-law is cheating on your sister with men?

Reformed Player says:

I've written before about how much I can't stand people who meddle in other people's business. It's usually a sign that someone is incredibly bored with their own life and are suffering from a drama deficiency. Such people are toxic and should be avoided at all costs. Other buttinskis find it easier to obsess about a friend's troubles than their own. Those people should treated like they have snakes slithering out of their nose.

That said, if you have 100% proof, and I'm talking airtight proof. Pictures, video tapes, or a letter... then I say risk it. Risk what? Your sister freaking out on you. Accusing you of not wanting her to be happy or being a busybody. You risk him denying everything, and forcing his wife to choose between family and her marriage vows. So, again, your proof has to be 100%. I'd even go so far as to say 110%. No second hand information. No baseless accusations.

If I were sitting on pictures, or if I saw my sisters husband sucking face with a bar octopus with my own eyes, I'd have to say something. But that might mean losing her trust and friendship... for the time being. As I've also written before, cheaters always trip themselves up. They are their own worst enemies. Take it from someone who knows.

Gal Pal says:
You, my friend, are in a sticky wicket. But if I were your sister, I would want to know. I would be hurt and devastated and betrayed - but I'd feel all those things twice if you knew and didn't tell me. Time to spill the rainbow beans.

I recently bumped into an ex and I would like to send him an email letting him know that I would like to see him again...what can I say?

Mystery Man says:

 
That's a tricky one. I would send him an email consisting of the following words: "I would like to see you again." That's it. You answered your own question.

Gal Pal says:
You might also add your phone number, email or postal code. Or send him straight to GuySpeak so we can arrange a romantic reunion for you two crazy kids. Thanks for playing, guys and girls!