If you've read any of my Quick Answers To Your Quick Questions blog posts, you know that those are my way to have fun with some of the silly questions I get. This month, though, I want to try something different: the questions and answers are still quick, but the questions aren't silly (well, most of them) and the answers are honest. That's right, for once I shall forego the wise-assery and give it to you straight. I don't know what's gotten into me, either, but let's just ride it while we can.

Can men really go on having sex with someone without developing feelings for them?
Yes, some can. But not all.

OK wise ass what do you do with a gent who is really negative?
Offset his negativity with a positive attitude. But don't hold your breath waiting for him to change.

What is the ideal weight for a woman?
Whatever weight makes you feel good about yourself.

Why does he lie about hanging out with female friends?
He's afraid you'll be jealous or he's hiding something.

I've always been curious: what are guys thinking during a head-toe-head "how you doin'?" look? Is there any actual thought involved in the process?
Not really. It's mostly involuntary. If we're thinking anything, it's what you might look like naked.

Which would be more relaxing, a bj then a massage, or massage then a bj?
Yes.

Is it a bad thing that I asked him out? Is it okay for girls to be forward?
I think it's great for a girl to ask out a guy. Life's short; be bold.

My BF bought my engagement ring a month ago but hasn't proposed. What is he waiting for? I'd think the ring would burn a hole in is pocket!
He's waiting until you aren't expecting it. He wants it to be a surprise even though you know he has the ring.

What does it mean when a guy says he doesn't get jealous?
It means he hasn't felt strongly enough about anyone yet to get jealous. But he will.

Do guys secretly, deep down, in places they don't want to talk about, desire a domestically oriented woman? The kind that cooks, cleans, and takes care of them?
Some do. Some don't. But who doesn't like to be taken care of?

How do guys really feel about make-up and perfume on girls? Do they notice?
Some of us like makeup and perfume on you, some don't. Sure, we notice, especially if you overdo either one.

How do most guys like it down there? Brazilian, just cleaned up, etc)?
Read this.

Do guys generally "kiss and tell?" Is my boy telling his friends about our love life? I'm curious because I recently lost my virginity to him and am wondering about who knows!
Yes, guys kiss and tell, younger guys in particular. He probably told his friends -- bragging rights and all. But then, you told yours, didn't you?

Googling your new boyfriend/girlfriend: creepy or just curious? It it a weird thing to do?
No, I think it's harmless curiosity.

I'm getting a divorce. My husband has agreed to the terms, according to his lawyer, but won't sign it. Why does he have this "need" to hold on to me instead of getting on with his life?
I don't know. He might be trying to punish you by dragging it out.

Why won't my man shower with me? I love shower sex and he is a sex is only for beds kind of guy. When we talk about it he shrugs and says nothing.
Some men just aren't sexually adventurous. If that's not what you want, get out now, because they don't typically change. The fact that he can't/won't discuss it is another red flag.

i've been dating my boyfriend for a year now, and he hasn't brought me home to meet his family yet. I was wondering if this is a bad thing or not?
A year does seem like a long time to be together without meeting any member of his family, but I wouldn't read too much into it. He might be more worried about what you think of them than what they think of you.

Do guys believe in soul mates?
Some do. I think more women believe in soul mates than men do, but I have no proof of that.

Hey there Cary, WHY do guys not like it when their friend dates their sister? Please enlighten me because I don't get it!
Asked and answered here.

Do you believe that not all women need make-up?
No one "needs" makeup.

How do I get back at a player?? I still love him but he slept with another girl.
Forget about it. And him. Moving on is the best revenge.

Is there a certain point where a guy/girl can say, "If he doesn't love me by now, he really never will," and just move on?
Yes. Happens every day.

Why does my boyfriend tease me? It's innocent, cute teasing, but I'd prefer a different communication style. I want him to empower me, not tease.
I don't know why he does it. Have you told him you don't like it?

My sister and boyfriend have very clashing personalities, how do I deal with them not liking each other at all?
As long as you don't see them at the same time, it doesn't matter if they like each other.

What does it take for a man to "know" if the woman he likes is the woman he wants to be committed to?
Time.

Why do some guys, even after dating a girl for a while. rather than simply saying "I don't think its working out", choose to stop texting/calling?
Because it's easier. For us, anyway.

What do you think of husbands who give their wives ultimatums? For example, he might say, "You have to choose between me or your girlfriends (or a hobby, a job, etc.)"
I think they are controlling assholes who need their bluffs called. Say, "Okay, I choose my girlfriends" and see what happens.

My fiance can only get off by masturbating after we have had sex, is there something wrong?
I don't know about "wrong," but it's definitely unusual. Ask him to stop masturbating on his own for a while and see if that helps. He might just be too accustomed to his own hand.

Do guys compare new girlfriends to old girlfriends?
Of course. Don't you compare new boyfriends to old ones?

I have never had a dad and I was wanting my future father-in-law to walk me down the aisle & have the first dance BUT my grandfather (who I'm not especially close to anymore) is clearly expecting to do both of these things. What should I do?
Family is important, but it's your wedding. Do what makes you happy. Expecting something doesn't necessarily mean you get it. What if you let one walk you down the aisle and the other have the first dance?