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Men Who Marry 'Bridezillas,' How Much Makeup is Too Much and More Questions Answered

Bridezillas viewers have questions, we've got answers! As part of our ongoing efforts to be the world's foremost relationship experts, the GuySpeak gang took questions from fans of WE TV's hit show Bridezillas. We asked Bridezilla viewers to leave their questions on weddings, relationships, and more on the Bridezillas Facebook page. Check out our answers below. (Maybe we answered your question?) If you have a question, hit up GuySpeak and pick the guy you want to answer it. Now let's get to the questions!

Annie asks: "Do guys hate when girls wear make up? Mine personally no but how bout the others?"

Funny Guy says:

The make-up debate rages on. How much is too much? Are women wearing all of that make-up for themselves? Or for men? Are women cheating when they wear make-up? Tricking dudes and messing up the playing-field for other ladies? And, what's the line between accenting natural beauty and a woman hiding behind a mask of MAC products.

Luckily (or unluckily) many guys have no issue voicing their complaints regarding too much or too little. "You look like a ho' with all that crap on your face. You look like you just woke up. You look like you're going to a rave not a wedding. Can you wear that slutty green eye shadow again?" Some guys can't stand the caked-on look. Other guys think women look fly all dolled up under 2lbs of cosmetics.

As you see, there's no clear answer to the question; rather, personal preferences and choices. Eear what makes you feel beautiful, and take it from there. Once you start drastically shifting your look simply to accommodate your man's taste, you're no longer a lady - you're literally his doll. Buy him a Cabbage Patch Kid with lipstick and decide for yourself.

Natasha asks: "Why is it that when your wife and mother are fighting, you guys always take your mother's side? Or make it out like we're always wrong?"

Reformed Player says:

Not all guys do this, in our defense, but remember, family, especially your mom, is difficult to go against. Especially if they have lousy conflict resolution skills, or are going to hear about any act of defiance at family gatherings for decades. Keep an ear out: if she's still on about something he did in high school, it may be that, pure and simple, he just doesn't want to hear his mom whining anymore.

He shouldn't be taking sides, period: any wife/mother fight is almost inevitably over something he gets no vote in, even if it has something to do with him.

Angie asks: "Why do so many guys neglect the inside of their car? I found moldy cheese in my ex's car and melted chocolate all over the floor.. my current boyfriend's car is so jam packed with trash and is so filthy that I have to put a towel on the seat before I sit down.. do you men not know how to use trash bags or a shop vac? we like to wear nice clothes for you.. clean out the car or I'm not getting in!"

Mystery Man says: 

Welcome to the world of men. Unless the guy has a classic car or a seriously chopped and modded one, which are invariably kept pristine, you are looking at an extension of his very soul.

A guy's car is the one thing he ever truly owns, as far as he is concerned. His space to do with as he will with none to naysay him. Not mother, not wife, not girlfriend, not friends.

Guys tend to be messy in their minds, even if you have them trained in the house. Sure, once every few months he'll drag out the shovel to clear out the mess inside, but most of the time, well we don't even notice it.

Having said that, a truly filthy car is not really a good indicator for a long term relationship. It implies a certain carelessness that should have your alarm bells ringing like a 5 alarm fire.

Carmen asks: Why is it good guys pick crazy women like on Bridezilla but all the good women get loser men?

Chic Geek says:

Well, that's not fair. Plenty of good women are with nice, caring, non-loser guys. Sure, some guys are attracted to crazy, emotional drama queens. But far more want a loving, caring woman who won't curse out the florist for ordering yellow carnations instead of pink roses on her special day.

I have a question for you: Why do women say they want a nice guy and then date bad boy jerkbags? It's the same reason that some men date and eventually marry Bridezilla-types: they are attracted to drama. Just like bad boys, women who are crazy, emotional drama queens keep things interesting early on in the relationship. (Also, crazy women tend to be good in bed. Uh, or so I've heard...) But just like how you don't want to always be with a bad boy who strings you along before leaving you for his tattoo artist, guys don't ultimately want to marry a woman who freaks out at the drop of a hat. (Sometimes literally if one of their bridesmaids drops their fancy bridal shower hat.)

Remember, relationships are a self-fulfilling prophecy. Expect losers and you'll get losers. Demand a good guy and you will find a good guy. And who's to say the guys who fall for volatile, mean women are all that great? Maybe they're spineless mama's boys who need a woman to push them around. Why do you want to be with a guy like that?

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