Based on your history, what you're dealing with seems completely logical. You have trust issues and a fear of rejection and abandonment. The key is to get some help with that so as to not go into self-sabotage mode. You don't want to become the chick who kicks the dude to the curb before he has the chance to do it or starts becoming so difficult and obnoxious in attempts to prove yourself right that you inadvertently push him away...and thus prove yourself right.

You need to seek professional help. And I mean that very seriously without a hint of judgment or condescension. I used to see somebody for some of my issues. And I probably still have those issues but I've learned how to work through some of them in a positive manner. Being worried that somebody is going to leave you once they say they love you is no way to live. It will keep you in a paranoid state forever and probably stunt every relationship with a man that you will ever have.

What I also think you need to do is perhaps have a conversation with your man and let him know what your history has shown you. If your behavior starts to change and become more erratic it will push him away before you get a chance to tell him and by that point, it may be too late. The more you put on the table upfront, the more successful your relationship can be.

One of the hardest lessons of life is that the people we love sometimes leave. Whether they want to or not, whether you want them to or not, it happens. And it hurts. And it's completely unfair. And it breaks our heart. But it's our job is to pick up the pieces, stitch them back together and find the courage to love without reservation or paranoia. Panama's advice is spot on - you need someone to help you work through your fear and mistrust. Because it's important to love without fear, treasure the moments you do have together and trust that you are strong enough to get through anything. 

Don't be so rock f*ckingly stupid. What do you think you should do?! OK, that was harsh. A double betrayal like that is shattering, so of course you are not thinking straight.

Boyfriend - he is out, simple. He either loves screwing around or can be seduced at the flash of an ankle. Neither make for good husband material, though it would make for interesting family get-togethers and a lucrative Jerry Springer appearance.

Your mom - well, this one is much trickier. You are going to have to see her from time to time regardless, so you might want to be very careful how you talk about it, or even if you talk about it at all. If she doesn't already suspect you know, drop everything and head for Hollywood, you are one stunningly convincing actress.

This sounds like a recap of "Desperate Housewives," not a real-life dilemma. If this actually happened, I am so terribly sorry for this you. You need to get away from both of these dastardly characters as fast as possible, get some professional counseling and never speak to either of them again. Your mother may have birthed you, but she turned in her mom badge when she slept with her own daughter's fiancée. 

Look, not to put too fine a point on it, your husband is a douchebag. In fact he might have a corner office at Douchebag Central Headquarters. He's doing this because he thinks you won't do anything, or he thinks you have no options but to put up with it, so really we're talking borderline emotional abuse here.

I don't normally encourage things like this, but in your situation, I'd carefully copy every naughty message he has ever sent to a flash drive for future reference, then move out. Even if you have to stay legally married to this loser, that's no reason to share a living space with him. Do this all in one day, and when he comes home, he'll find himself with no wife, and possibly a new perspective on what a dick he's been. Although if you or a family member own the house, you could try changing the locks. If his name isn't on the deed and he has no lease, he's got no legal right to live there.

Finally, I'm not sure why divorce isn't an option here, but, although I'm not a lawyer, it sounds like you've got a decent case. If it's because you're financially dependent on him, having a clear record of his ongoing attempts at infidelity will take care of that handily. If it's for religious reasons, I'd consult with your spiritual advisor; there's no religion I know of that's all like "Dude, flirting with other chicks in front of your wife? TOTALLY RAD!"

Wow. And I thought the guy sleeping with his fiancée's mom was bad. At least they weren't already married. I don't know why this woman says she can't get divorced, but I hope she gets some legal help and gets out of that house as fast as possible. Nothing is worth staying near an emotional abuser.

Hell to the mother grabbin' yes, this is cheating. Think about what you just wrote me: your boyfriend sent pics of his wang to an ex-lover. He wrote emails to her about their love and sex life, with photo attachments to boot. I'm not sure how to not construe this as cheating. He is cheating on your relationship. He sent his penis to her over the internet. If she lived next door he would have sent his penis to her in a box. Your man catching up with an old 5th grade flame over Facebook, hey remember when I won you that stuffed elephant at the county fair and we shared a plate of cheese fries? This is your man, balls out defacing your relationship.

It reminds me of girls I grew up with who only had anal sex so they could save their virginity. Something about having anal sex to prevent sex seems, I don't know, a convenient matter of semantics. I think you are caught up in the same head space. And while cheating is defined by individuals and individual couples, rest assured, what you're describing would be on 97 out of 100 people's cheating list. This isn't Chat Roulette, Craig's List or Ebay, this is your relationship were talking about. His actions equal deep betrayal and a brazen piss on your couplehood.

It's cheating. Your boyfriend knows it. His ex-lover knows it. And you know it. If you still want to salvage the relationship, your boyfriend needs to acknowledge his betrayal and the two of you need to spend a long time deciding how to deal with his infidelity. But as Amit points out - would you try to work it out if he'd delivered his actual penis to her? He may not be "physical" cheating, but he's certainly emotional cheating, sexual cheating and - you know, being a dick. (Which may look OK in low-res email photos, but do you really want to date it?)

Oh FFS! Your boyfriend is a pig, period, and doesn't sound sweet and loving at all. All I see is a controlling, disapproving Neanderthal who wants to you to change yourself to fit his tastes and has absolutely no regard for what you might want.

I will never understand people who start dating someone and then immediately try to change them. If you want a girl with big boobs, date a girl with big boobs! Duh! It's not rocket science, and it's a hell of a lot easier than trying to do a total body makeover on somebody who doesn't want or need one.

I don't know what your plans are with this guy, but imagine spending your life with him. Let's say you make these changes he wants. What happens when you get pregnant and have babies and your big boobs start to droop and your butt flattens? What happens as you get older and naturally gain more weight and lose that youthful body shape? Do you really want this ape saying you aren't good enough and nagging you about your looks for the rest of your life? Or even for another week? Because he will, believe me. He won't change. Let me repeat that: He. Won't. Change. Your sweet, loving boyfriend is a bum, and he'll only get bummier the longer you are together. 

Dump him. Immediately. No good will come of this relationship. Stop wasting your time.

Based on this week's questions you'd assume all men are horrible, rotten scoundrels. Cary gave the woman above great advice - send that pig out to pasture. But before we get too carried away hating on guys, let's not forget that ladies aren't always angels in bed either:

I'm assuming that you and this second guy used the "pull-out method"? You realize that even if he didn't ejaculate inside of you, you can still get pregnant, right? Once he's inside you without a condom, all bets are off. Not to get too graphic, but have you ever heard of "pre-cum"? If any of his semen leaks out and into you, you could get pregnant. That's why condoms exist. They literally block the semen from impregnating you. And, yes, I realize that condoms aren't 100% effective. But if you had used them, we probably wouldn't be having this conversation right now. 

So let's hope the baby is your boyfriend's. The fact that you had unprotected sex with two guys on the same day throws a question mark over everything. You should probably get a paternity test at some point to make sure. Just because you think it's your boyfriend's baby doesn't make it so.  

Look, I'm not trying to be insensitive. I really hope that it's your boyfriend's baby and you raise the kid and live happily ever after. Even if it isn't is, I hope you raise the kid and live happily ever after or give the kid up for adoption so that it can live happily ever after. Either way, the kid is the priority now. But you have to realize that what you did was irresponsible. Are you saying you weren't on birth control? And you're having unprotected sex with two guys? Well, get ready to deal with the consequences. One of which might be that you're carrying some random dude's baby.

Have you asked your boyfriend if he wants to keep the baby? Do you want to keep the baby? Is your boyfriend going to help raise this child for the next 18 years - whether it's his or not? Are you committed to caring for another human being the rest of your life - even if you have to do it alone? Please, please take time to think hard about these questions. And then make the right choice for all of you.

That's it for this week, thanks for playing!