All men? No. D-bags? Yes.

Everybody makes snap judgments, but realistically, the only guy you even want to have a one night stand with is the one smart enough to know it's the brain in the head, not just the body in the dress.

If knowing right away that I'm attracted to someone makes me bad, then I don't want to be good. To clarify, I don't necessarily mean glancing at someone across the room and instantly writing them off based on looks alone. But after 15 minutes of face-to-faceconversation, you should have a solid idea of who's definitely not getting a tour of your bedroom and who's still in the running. And that's a good thing, I believe! It's just like G.I. Joe says. Now you know - and knowing is half the battle.

Promises are meant to protect, but protecting something good from happening isnt "protecting" so much as prohibiting.

In other words, if you know that opening your mouth can facilitate positive, safe and welcome change - then go for it. I mean really, what's the alternative? Continue living in some sort of hair pulling moronic sitcom-world where X likes Y, but will never close the deal because X is scared Y doesn't like X and Y is too shy to tell X and so on and so on?

Right now you're dealing with two windup toys that are unnecessarily stuck walking into opposite walls. All you need to do is rearrange them and stand back. If I'm wrong, then write me back. But the laws of match making and windup toys are with me. I say, let it rip. This isn't about protecting the parties so much as letting them party.

This is the stuff of great love stories! Can't wait to hear your toast at their wedding! Which may only happen if you spill the beans. So start talking! As one of the commenters suggested, you can throw it out as a hypothetical if that's easier..."If I knew John liked you, could I tell him you like him as well?" Or invite them both to dinner, then have an "emergency" during appetizers so they're left alone to gaze into each other's eyes. Either way, it sounds like these two could use a little coaxing. You have our blessing to nudge love in the right direction!

First off, I hope you said something to the brother later. You shouldn't be afraid to stand up for yourself. Don't just wait for him to defend you. 

That said...ouch. He didn't stand up to you to his bratty brother? If he won't defend you against his brother, you have to wonder whether he'll stand up to strangers or his friends who insult you. You're the odd person out with the family and already feeling awkward and then he can't tell his brother to shut up when he says something dumb and rude? You're setting the tone with his family now. They're not going to respect if they see that he lets everyone put you down and walk all over you. 

Is this a dump-able offense? Well, at the very least, it's strike one. This is definitely a red flag and a clear sign that he doesn't have your back, at least where his family is concerned. It's also a sign that he has no backbone. Even if he felt awkward and said something to his brother later, that doesn't excuse the fact that he dropped the ball big time. It's probably indicative of his relationship with his brother -- maybe his brother pushes him around and bullies him. Regardless, he should've realized that you were hurt and stood up to his brother. I would tell him how hurt you are, and make it clear that it is not okay that he didn't stand up for you. If you like him, give him another chance to prove he's a man. Because so far he's striking out in the cajones department.

In my experience, teasing from guys is almost always a good thing! It's a sign of acceptance. His brother may have even been throwing it out as a test - can she hang with us? And come on - saying that you look young is a compliment! (If it doesn't feel that way now, it certainly will 10 years down the road.) Breaking up with your boyfriend because of this would be a huge overreaction. He certainly didn't do the insulting. And after he realized your feelings were hurt, he talked to his brother. That sounds pretty cool to me. Next time, prepare some gentle insults to throw out if his brother teases you. And try to have a bit of a sense of humor about this - life and love are too short to be spoiled by silly, meaningless jokes.

No, I don't think you are reaching for the unreachable. There are plenty of vapid, superficial guys with cool shoes out there who are looking for a girl exactly like you. Keep searching, and whatever you do, don't lower your standards or look beyond appearances.

Oy vey.

If your fishing hole is empty, stop whining and cast your line in a different pond! 

The first thing I notice about any woman is her eyes and hands. OK, if she is wearing boots, they might be the second thing - got a thing for women in high boots, especially heeled boots. Top 5 things that turn me off - that's a new one. Let me think and put them in order.

Number 5

Fake boobs. If they are obviously fake, don't shake em in my face. I don't want to know.

Number 4

Really long fingernails / false nails. I prefer my back unperforated at all times. Don't get me wrong, I appreciate a pretty nail job as much as the next guy, but a harpy's talons are a turn off.

Number 3

Vapidity. Do I need explain this? Even as talented a bedroom artist as myself cannot spend more than 4 hours a day having sex. Which means at some stage, talking is needed.

Number 2

Tongue or lip piercings. Just can't abide them. Sorry. I know that tongue piercings are supposed to make oral better, but no one with a mouth full of metal gets anywhere near my junk.

And the Number 1 turnoff is .....

Negativity. Gal got a problem, I'll listen. Help if I can. If her whole life is a mess and she got no self confidence or self respect at all she can peddle it elsewhere. Life is too short to be some random gal's emotional tampon.

The biggest turn-off my guy friends repeatedly say they hate is smoking. Ladies, what's your number one turn-off in guys? 

You ask an interesting question. I also have that problem. I'm a REALLY nice guy. Don't have a problem going out of my way. A bit flirty. Always there if you need something. What I've learned in life is that nearly all women regard that as "interested" behavior. Imagine the pickle I find myself in when a woman who I genuinely like as a person (not necessarily as a romantic interest) decides to throw that "interest" back at me because she presumes I'm trying to make it real with her. Oy vey.

With guys like that (or guys like us), the best way to find out is to actually talk to him about it. Or pay attention to how much time he actively makes to spend with you. If a man is feeling you, he's trying to be in your lifespace as much as possible. Trust me. I'll spend all day with you if I'm feeling you. If I'm just being nice, I'll do what I came to do and keep it moving. I'll kill the bug and then tell you I've got to go home to sleep.

Now how does that work given your situation? Well, he's with you. That's all you should worry about. If your boyfriend starts spending inordinate amounts of time with some other woman, then you should be concerned. Women tend to like nice guys, and because it sounds like he was raised right, he's going to be respectful of his relationship with you. Other women may make advances, but that happens to a majority of men. I think it's safe to assume that he's just being nice to some other chick, and not interested like that. No worries.

Sounds like you found yourself a keeper! Unless he gives you a concrete reason to worry, treasure your gentleman and the good deeds he does for others. 

That's it for this week. Thanks for playing, guys and girls!