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Subtle Signs That Somebody Gives A Flying *CENSORED* About You

Quite frequently, my Guyspeak queue of questions involves random inquiries into whether its possible to tell if a particular suitor is interested. Most of the time these questions come from the ovaried lot, but every so often, ye of testes pontificate similarly. While grand, sweeping gestures are what most of us love to see as they don't leave much room for misinterpretation, there are always subtle ways that you can tell if you've got somebody straight trippin', boo.

1. They actually want to know if you've made it home safely upon departure

I've come to realize that after you've spent time with somebody and its time to part ways, if nobody cares to know that you've made it home safely, then you are nobody's Adam's rib. Word to Tyrese. When you care about people you care about their safety and no place is safer than home. If somebody's got some interest in you, you better believe that if you leave at midnight, a "yo, text me when you get home" is coming. And you should do it too. It's sweet and a subtle way to know that your boothang is checkin' for your mixes.

2. Random tiny gifts

I'm not talking iPads. I mean the small things that indicate that they listen to you. You randomly throw out that you like a certain album but don't own it for whatever reason and while they're out in some place where they can get it, they pick it up for you, well, they're interested. In what? Who knows, but there's something there that made them think of you while they were doing them. All you do is win, win, win no matter what.

3. They find odd reasons to touch you

I'm not talking about about grabassing, but more like, "hey, I like your fingernail color" and he grabs your hand to look at it more closely. Or "you need to clean your fingernails" and your boobed manicure afficionado decides she needs to hold your hands to inspect them thoroughly. It's the little things. Ask India.Arie. Hell, she has a period between her name. You know she's interested.

4. Texting like a mad (wo)man

I realize that anytime all you get from your love interest are text messages, you may be inclined to think that they're not feeling your feelings. However, if you get random, "howdy!" text messages in the middle of the day that means they're thinking about you AND they actively did something about it. If I'm not interested in you, not only would I not think about you, I'd definitely NOT send you a text after NOT thinking about you. <----See what I did there?

5. They engage you in random flights of fantasy

Anybody who has an interest in you tends to find you...interesting. Deep. What that means is that they'll engage even the most random and asinine of your ideas and play along. Which means that you have somebody who is open to figuring out where your mind can and will go. Which means that people who aren't interested in you tend to shut you down fairly quickly or just plain ole don't care about your imagination. Which means that these people are evil. Don't marry them.

Yep, those are some subtle ways to determine if your boothang things that you could be their boothang as well.

Boo Life.

 

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9 Comments

Funnygrl650

Was seeing a guy who did all of the above. As soon as I told him I had feelings for him he told me he couldn't do it, he could only be friends...Seriously?

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Oops! Voted you down by accident. Dang iPhone. Haha but I totally know what you mean. Been there. So confusing

imjustagirl

Damn...

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One important point that I think needs to be made is that while these things do in fact mean that someone gives a flying *FACEPALM* about you, it doesn't mean they have any desire to date me. I have several friends that do these things on an almost daily basis, and exactly none of them will ever think of me as anything other than a great guy friend (with the possible exception of me being the "older-brother-I-never-had").

So these are signs of caring, not romantic interest - but hey, at least someone cares.

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^ Perfect. I have two guy friends like this and it is unbelievably amazing and useful to have guy friends who care about you without the pressures of dating / romantic love.

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The last guy I dated did all of those and more... then 3 months later he told me couldn't be with me because his parents wouldn't approve. Sigh.

Toy Honey Lung

I have to agree with Funnygrl650 and Natalie, that many of the men I meet do all these things during the 'checking you out - aha, now that I've got your number' stage. Then when things start heading towards the 'are we dating?' stage they run for the hills.

This is probably why so many of the guyspeak questions start with a "what does it mean when a guy [insert subtle confusing, mix-messaged behaviour]?"

What say you, guy ambassadors of planet Guyspeak???
What say you?

nikitamaagel

So if the guy who tells me he loves me more than anything doesn't wish me a good trip or checks that I got home safely after flying, he probably is lying about his feelings?

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He doesn't wish you a good trip? Or calls after flights? Unless you fly several times a month, that seems slightly uncaring. Doesn't mean he's lying, though. Just a little oblivious.

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